This question is definetly different…

I would go on a "dating" site or something similar and find a specific guy to meet you, somewhere specifically (a subway terminal), and have the groping session arranged.

We all have particular fantasies, but these should be carried out very carefully and cautiously. If you ask someone on the subway to grope you, they are likely to take it a step further. Probably something along the lines of the public sexual type.

I know this woman that fantasized of being "raped"; to most, this is absurd. To most, your question is absurd. She didn't really want to be "raped" by just anyone, she simply wanted someone to fuck her extremely hard whilst she tried to get away. Not just anywhere, either, in the backseat of a car. Kind of like your subway fantasy. I did that for her, she absolutely LOVED it. But the key here is; she found someone she trusted, someone she knew. She set up a very specific moment and her imagination took care of the rest.

If you just go up to anyone in a public place, you're asking for trouble. You're also encouraging men to grope other women, when most would be appalled at the idea.

Find someone. Be specific. Plan. If you're not willing to do this, then maybe seek therapeutic assistance. There's nothing wrong with your mind, but don't think you can just act on your cravings. Especially when your craving isn't shared by others.

How can I subtly advertise to guys around me that it is okay to grope me on the subway? I like it.

If you are have a kink for being groped on the subway, have you considered (rather than subtly advertising and risking getting your wires crossed and worse) openly talking

Failing that, have you considered joining kink and BDSM social network FetLife

That way you wouldn’t violate the sexual and personal boundaries of strangers on the subway (who, after all, haven’t had any opportunity to consent

To quote Dan Savage

There are definitely men out there, TRAIN, who would be upset and/or angered by your actions. Me, for instance—and not (just) because I’m gay. (I don’t like being hugged by strangers. I would hate being humped by a random perv on the train.) There are also men out there who have been the victims of sexual violence.

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Considering these factors, and seeing as you seem to have difficulty talking about your sexual needs and kinks in a way that respects other people’s boundaries, you also have the option of going to a munch

This would give you opportunity to talk with experienced kinksters about these difficulties you are having with getting your sexual needs met and with having consent conversations around kinks

Best wishes

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I watched a lady once her hand was groping everywhere, eventually she found a mans groin area. Well the man didn’t take to kindly to that. So he grabbed the wrist of the woman, she was trying to pull away with a poker face. Well he asked others to step aside, Then he went into full shouting mode still while holding her wrist. Saying things like.. your hand shouldn’t be touching me up. What you are doing is wrong. Do you think it’s right to go round groping men?

This lady started crying, He then started saying oh look she is crying now, well the tears won’t wash with me.

my stop came I left him shouting at her, he still had hold of her hand. The was early 1990’s. Someone else stood up, the tube left the station.

I’ve been in MMA for 7 years. If you don’t believe this, too bad. One time a guy on a bike tried this on me and rode off (and I’m a small female) To his ignorance, he decided to do this in front of a COP waiting at the intersection parallel to me. Immediately the dude starts panicking and riding off as fast as he could, But I bet he didn’t expect to see me chasing after him into the next neighborhood! I was literally only a couple footsteps away when I jumped at him & grabbed his bike tire, keys and everything falling out of my pockets. He tried to get away but I already grabbed onto his leg & got on top of him as fast as I could, beating the absolute SHIT!!! out of him (& again I’m literally only 5″2 115 lbs) Eventually the same cop catches up, I had to file a report, speak with detectives, and testify, but I promise you he’d never do it again.

Do you feel powerless? Insecure? Be honest with yourself. Would this be your way of trying to feel some form of “control” or “pride”? Is this your idea of being “alpha” or “masculine”? Do you have any past traumas or have you suffered abuse that triggers you to think this way? What are you trying to reclaim from this? Because I promise you any random stranger wouldn’t have anything to offer if you can’t figure out the root to your own problems first (I don’t know if you’d be a sociopath, psychopath, or suffering from trauma(s.) It is just a cycle of self destruction and possible jail sentences, and only reflects on the grandeur of who you are. I’m sure you appreciate having your own personal space, right?

Actions depend upon the circumstances!

• Staring
• Well actually you can’t do anything for every single person staring at you, because if you pass through a street consisting say, 100 people, at least 40 are staring at you. So just ignore!
• Following
• Following in the sense, they slow down their vehicle and try to drive with your speed and sometimes speak some random things which I need not to explain, I’ll just either speed up my cycle or give a good reply, which they deserve.

This happened few days back, I was cycling and an auto rickshaw did the same. The astonishing thing was, rickshaw had some students, returning from tuition, most probably from middle school.

Firstly I ignored for a minute or two. Then I couldn’t resist and shouted-

Bacche lekar ja rahe ho, thodi sharam kar lo!

(You’re carrying students, have some shame!)

Then I slowed down for a moment and went on my way again.

The rickshaw had next stop on my way, it was ahead of me then.

It stopped to drop a girl.

I went there, didn’t think of it for any other moment and rang the bell.

I recited whole story to that girl’s mother.

She thanked me and I left.

I didn’t know if it was necessary but still did it.

• Anything beyond staring, following or saying vulgar things
• Then this lefts me to only one way-

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Fortunately, such circumstances didn’t occur. But still, I carry it every time.

~Mannu…

I went to an art festival in the heat of the summer in Texas where all that I wore was a pair of boxer shorts,an undershirt and Harley boots when I fucked in a gay bar to get cool and have a couple of shots of tequila when I was already on my way to getting completely hammered on booze.

While I was there I sat upon a table for lack of barstools and propped one leg up and slyly let my balls hang out to have a little exhibitionist fun when almost every guy that passed reached out to have a squeeze and grope when the bartender caught on to what I was doing.

He told me he'd buy me a shot if I pulled my shorts aside and let everything hang out and I did so. Getting a lot of gropes and stares I figured that was it but he continued to buy shots if I just sat there like that until he told me to quit. He didn't tell me to quit. I just sat there,well on my way to absolutely polluted and we'll over to 20–25 men walked by groping,tugging and pulling until I figured I should get out of that bar before I passed out.

As it turns out,I DID pass out on someone's front lawn with my junk hanging out where I felt even more people groping and tugging but I was too drunk to see who it was. And yes,I was arrested for public intoxication as well as 10 other people that afternoon for the same thing.

What happened in jail is another story. It wasn't all that bad except for the fact that I was behind bars. With a very well hung and well built Greek man.

Certainly - I know that here in Boston, this has happened to me fairly regularly since I was 29 years old. I don’t feel “threatened” by it however, I know I can handle myself if any situation warranted it. But these are usually just sad lonely guys looking for a little thrill. I’m half amused and half complimented by it. The most frequent place this occurs is on the Green Line which runs out towards the colleges, BC, BU, and Northeastern. A lot of these kids are in the city for the first time and able to explore their sexuality away from their families. So they go a little overboard.

The only time it exceeded the bounds of “reasonable” was when a young man groped me from Downtown Crossing to Prudential and then got off the train and followed me home, right to my door. Again, I wasn’t exactly threatened but I was unnerved.

A variant of the drop-the-hanky ploy.
What did it mean when a Victorian woman gave a man her handkerchief?

Sit near her, say three or four seats distant, preferably with empty seats between you and her. When you stand up to get off at your stop, leave behind the book you're reading on your seat. Hopefully, she will notice, pick up the book, and run to you to hand it back. "Why thank you. What a kind thing to do. It happens to be a novel I'm totally engrossed in. Have you ever read anything by this author?"

Note that this should be a throwaway book, in the even that she does not pick it up.

The one thing you absolutely do not want to do is wear a t-shirt with this on it.

1) On Chicago's West Side, I have been approached by so many men over the years I have lost count. For some reason they feel as if women are entitled to talk to them. So don't. It's hard to hit on a girl that won't answer back or even look at you. Also walk away if possible.

2) If they are still bothering you then lie. I supposely have a Latin King boyfriend who is very protective. No, he doesn't let me have male friends. His name is David. I have been 16 for the last 5 years (17 is the legal age of consent in IL). I have been lesbian, crazy, and a Satanist. I will agree that there are many things wrong with what I have said to weird people on the train. However, they are weird people on the train and my safety is important. Plus they make for great "How was your day?" stories.

3) Carry pepper spray. THIS IS A LAST RESORT. Don't injury someone on my behalf. Once again your safety is important. All the tactics above use embrassment, fear, and public humiliation to get rid of perverts. However, I have found that being alone with a strange man in a train car changes the situation. If you are out very late you need some form of easy protection. Bonus: it comes in pink, I like pink.

I have groped many women on buses, trains , shopping areas, markets, festival gatherings. First I observe the body language of the girl. I come to feel if she is not a girl who would enjoy being groped. After knowing the type of girl, I first proceed to touch her . I keep my hand near her breasts . If she shows any irritation or anger, I back off. Otherwise, I lightly touch . If she still does not show any irritation or anger, then I touch properly. I have touched many women on their breasts, bum, stomach and sometimes even in between the legs at the vagina spot. Sometimes while staring at a woman's breasts and she stares back without any anger, then I take it she would not mind if I touch. Touching stranger women is very thrilling and good if hey too like it.

Was the train moving? WOW! You must be the dream of every girl to think that she was trying to make out with you on a moving train! The word “CREEP” creeps me out, and I hope you know that you were beyond rude. All you had to do was move your ‘so gorgeous hand” up or down the rail. Or turn your back and use your other hand on the rail and out of range for your great admirer.

Suppose there is a creep involved. Guess who it was. Of course, I wasn’t there, and you may have told your personal story in a less than attractive manner. When was the last time someone called you a “CREEP”?

She looked sad. Were you wrong? What did her sadness say to you? Apparently, you can’t forget the event, so let’s hope that you both learned something of value.

This is great- you have so many prudes and self-righteous people fired up with this question. In today's #metoo era, girls like you have almost as hard of a time as we guys do. But here are a couple of things that would probably work:

1. Make eye contact. We always think this means you want to fuck. Smile before looking away, and you'll be sure to get molested.
2. Initiate contact by brushing or rubbbing against him. If you REALLY want to make it clear it's okay, make eye contact after. Smile. He will get the message.
3. Watch out for someone groping another girl, then put yourself in strategic position to be next.
4. Send me your picture and travel schedule… haha.

Good luck, and keep sharing your adventures!

It’s hard to resist scrolling through texts or cranking up an inspiring playlist when you’re walking down the street, stuck in traffic, or on your morning jog. But being distracted from your immediate environment ups your odds of becoming a target. So unplug, open your eyes and ears, and clue in to what’s going on around you—note the people on the street, if there’s foot or car traffic, and whether you can quickly dart in to a nearby house or store in case a creep appears. You’ll get good at sizing up potentially threatening situations—and getting out of them before anything happens.

Visualize yourself being threatened by an attacker ahead of time lets you do a mental run-through of the right way to respond in the moment. That would be by staying calm, looking for an escape route, and then, if necessary, physically fighting your attacker off. Sure it sounds scary—who wants to think about being victimized? But it’ll actually help you come up with practical, effective responses you’ll remember if it happens.

Trust your gut feeling. Before a sexual assult, women often say they felt like "something was off," about the perpetrator's behavior — the person was acting in ways that made the woman feel uncomfortable. But women don't always trust this feeing.

Understand that perpetrators could be someone you know. If a perpetrator is someone you know, it may be difficult to come to terms with the idea that this person is a threat to you. Women may feel like they need to be polite, and not hurt people's feelings. These feelings are understandable, but they shouldn't delay action that could be very effective.

The most effective ways to fight back during sexual assault are to use forceful verbal resistance — such as yelling loudly or swearing in the perpetrator's face — and physical resistance. There should be more awareness of the slimy predators that can also come in the disguise of "prince charming " ... charming the knickers off of women ... wining and dining them only to rob them of anything they can get and most importantly their dignity ! Where are all the organizations for that ? Sometimes violence isn't physical ... yet silent. Try to understand the actual situation.

If they haven't heard you speak yet, I would first make eye contact, then in a polite tone, address them with a couple sentences of jibberish. It's helpful but not vital that your jibberish sounds like a genuine foriegn language. It will confuse them and make them uncomfortable. If they say anything else after that point, say another medium length sentence in jibberish that ends with the tone of a question. If they still persist at this point, start angrily saying the word “racist” in a heavy accent. That might get some idiots around you to start white knighting for you in English. Good luck! BTW you should start saving up for a car.

Rub yourself up against guys while they are standing there. You’ll find guys that will be willing to grope you, I’m sure.

But you’re going to, and this question is going to, piss a TON of social justice warriors off. This is the kind of behavior that they are trying to get stopped. And women like you are what makes demented guys think that groping strange women in public is okay.

You be you I guess, but if you really want my advice, I think you need to address the problem of what is making you feel like this and invite it. It could end up with you getting raped. Groping is one thing, but what happens when a guy decides that if you like getting groped then you must really want the whole act. Go speak to a licensed therapist and get help.

This is such a strange request it doesn’t even make sense. If you enjoy that sort of thing, go into a bar and flirt with strangers. It won’t take too long before someone gets “touchy feelly with you.”

I suppose you could wear a little name tag/sign that says: “I like it when strangers grope me while I’m riding the subway.” I’m sure you will get some takers. As someone has already said, once it starts, where is the end point? How do you call a stop to it when it has reached your limits?

If I saw your sign, I’d figure it was a set up and you were being watched by plain clothes police. As soon as someone touched you, you would scream and they would get arrested for sexual assault.

There is absolutely no way this question was asked by woman. This sounds like a man trying to justify molesting women because they gave off some kind of magical signal that apparently all women know and can broadcast intentionally.

Complete and utter nonsense. If a woman has not EXPLICITY STATED that YES, she wants you to touch her, DO. NOT. TOUCH. HER.

If a woman smiles at you, twirls her hair, bites her lip, etc, there is VERY tiny, .00001% chance that it means she's flirting with you. You know what she's doing most of the time? Automatic subconscious actions that have no meaning behind them.

NO woman wants to be suddenly groped or touched, in public or private. We DO NOT see ourselves as the stars of 50 Shades of Gray waiting for you to slip your hand into your underwear and finger us in an elevator. Most of us are intelligent and only like that when it comes from our trusted partner in a controlled and private setting!

And if for some utterly bizarre reason a woman actually DID ask this, the scenario is not going to turn out like you want! Handsome drop dead guys aren't suddenly going to be flocking around you to touch you in ways they magically know you like! It's going to be creepy, probably dirty and drunk old dudes or drug addicts that will rape you, potentially give you STDS, unwanted pregnancy, and who the hell knows what else!

Again, if a woman has not EXPLICITY STATED that YES, she wants you to touch her, DO. NOT. TOUCH. HER.