No More Mr. Nice Guy: How I Overcame “Nice Guy Syndrome”

It’s harder than it sounds, and try not to over-correct by becoming Mr. Nasty

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6 min readFeb 1, 2023

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Here’s the terrible truth about nice guys — they’re some of the angriest people you will ever meet. I should know. I used to be one.

It’s an anger which erupts in a totally unexpected and usually deeply…

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Written by Niall Stewart

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