In my new book ‘Offline Dating’, there’s a chapter focused on how to attract your ‘crush’.

But I’ll quickly summarize it in this post.

The truth is: grown men shouldn’t have a ‘crush’.

If you liked her long enough to define her as a ‘crush’, that means you should have already asked her out.

There’s no benefit in waiting for the perfect moment to ask someone out in modern dating.

The perfect moment is: as soon as you see her!

If she’s hot enough, she won’t be single for long. You need to shoot your shot before the next wave of Tinder and Instagram DMs flood into her phone.

But that’s not the only reason.

Your lack of hesitation in making something happen with this woman is impressive.

It shows assertiveness, bravery and confidence. It shows you believe in yourself. It shows you believe that she’d have a good time with you.

That’s assuming you’re asking her in person, of course.

My College Crush

The last time I had a crush was in college.

This slim little brunette made my heart thump out of my chest whenever I spotted her in the cafeteria.

She was always surrounded by the other hotties who studied hair and make-up, which made her even more intimidating. The cheerleader effect!

That sounds cute, but it was actually quite unpleasant.

I decided that I had to ask her out ASAP, if only so I could stop feeling like this!

I’d rather know one way or the other. Will she blow me or blow me out?! Either option would beat this constant anxiety of wondering when is the best moment to talk to her.

Plus, I’d probably look cooler talking to her than staring at her over my shoulder all the time.

I realized this as an awkward 17-year-old virgin. Now you realize it too.

Making My Move