Caught my (ex)gf cheating.

“You have to let me go… but first I need you to pick me up from my mom’s.” Lmao

Yep... notice how she never apologized for what she did either? That's what I dealt with for a year. Everything was someone else's fault.

The “let me go” line was definitely her trying to get him to fight for her. When that was met with silence, she had to change tactics lol.

This. It’s important to acknowledge that for all of the untreated people with this personality disorder that causes harm and hurt to others, there are also many people who acknowledge their illness and work very hard to develop coping mechanisms, engage in healthier communication styles, make bold efforts to control their impulses despite feeling intense emotions, and chose to address their issues head on so that they give themselves and their prospective partners their best selves. BPD can also “go into remission” in the sense that through hard work and learning tools, and given a stable environment, they can no longer meet the definition of BPD. There shouldn’t be any knee-jerk negativity or cruelty toward someone for having a mental health condition.

All of this requires work and accountability. Many people decide to just continue to make messes of their and other people’s lives instead. If you come here and are diagnosed with this disorder and feel angry or triggered or compelled to argue with OP and the comment section, you need to instead focus on working toward managing your symptoms so that you don’t feel called out because you see your behavior patterns reflected in other people and see how the vast majority of other people respond to those maladapted behaviors you relate to.

I won't be. Funny enough, she's now dating the other guy she cheated on me with, who was her ex before me. It's just a gross situation all around, especially since I work with her and him. Still have to see her around work every day, but I'm avoiding her at all costs. Thing is I loved that girl, seriously. I flew her across the country to meet my family with me, I took her on adventures and experiences that neither of us have had before. I cared for her so much. She'd tell me every day we should just go get married already, and start a family. That I was the best guy shes ever met. Finding all this out was a gut punch.