Why Don’t Men Approach Women? — Women don’t even like men!

Trey Hamilton

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Jul 8, 2022

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Some women are very frustrated with dating. They’re not understanding why men aren’t approaching them anymore. They’re attractive, smart, independent, and empowered. So why aren’t they getting the results they want?

What’s it like for men?

The normal response is, “well, men are the problem.” While that’s a very easy “hot take” to make, I want women right now to think about what recent life has been like for most men…

Since they were young, they’d been told they have the responsibility to approach women, court women, propose, pay for dates, protect women, and all the rest. Since middle school, maybe even younger. I remember when I was 11, and I was told I had to ask a girl to a dance. I remember an old friend of mine. Matthew explained that Helen “fancied me.” She wanted me to ask her out, even back then, I wondered.

“If she likes me why doesn’t see ask me to the dance?”

But you learn very early on that a lot is just expected from you as a boy/man. No questions asked.

A lot falls on a man’s shoulders when it comes to getting and maintaining any relationship, no matter how progressive we all claim we are. Don’t believe me?

As a woman, ask yourself this question:

• How many strangers who you’ve found very attractive have you gone out of your way to talk to this year?
• How many times have you asked someone out on a first date?
• How many times have you initiated the first kiss?
• How many times have you paid for the first date?
• How many times have you planned the first date?
• How many women do you know who have proposed to a man?

These questions aren’t for someone you’re already dating. I’m talking from dates 1–,3 maybe even date number 4.

I’m guessing you’re answered once or less, if that. For men who are actively looking, this happens about 15 times or more a year. For conventionally attractive men who “tick most boxes.” This happens around 20–30 times a year. They have to initiate all of those things.