Forced dirty talk can help you open up in the bedroom.

Ariana

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Aug 21

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I’ve always been a shy girl. Insecurity has plagued me most of my life, and that includes my life in the bedroom. I’ve never really been able to express myself openly. While I want to tell my partner all my desires, it has been a struggle to find a way to communicate them in the throes of passion.

Some things are easy in bed for me, like moaning or saying, “oh my god.” I have always been kind of a loud girl in bed. But when it came to describing what was going on, how I was feeling, or what I wanted to do to me, I had a hard time finding the words. I would be on top of my partner, riding him, and think, “I want him to pull my hair” or “I want him to fuck me harder,” but I wouldn’t say it out loud. This often caused me to fall out of the moment, lose my orgasm, and get wrapped up in my own head.

Why was it so hard to ask the person fucking me to fuck me the way I wanted him to?

Eventually, it became such an issue that I started to force myself to speak up. It was not easy.

When I decided that I wanted to be more open with my communication in bed, this led me to learn how to talk dirty. It wasn’t something that came naturally to me, so in the end, I had to make myself start using phrases like “fuck me harder” or “stick your dick inside me.” It felt so weird to say the words out loud, even though they were things that I would text my friend with benefits almost daily. But I didn’t want to keep my desires in my head anymore.

By learning to force myself to talk dirty, I opened up a whole new layer of our sex life. After some time, it became easy to tell him that I wanted him to slap my ass and call me a dirty girl, but it took me taking the initiative to get us to a place where we could be more vocal with each other in bed.

It can be awkward to try and do something you’re not used to but to bring your sex level up to where you want it to be, forcing yourself to open up and express yourself is essential.

Start Simple and Slowly

If talking dirty is new to you, there is only one way to start. Try describing things. You can describe how your partner turns you on or how hard…