Am I an asshole?
I mean, yes, of course I am, but in the circumstances I hope to describe.
Two months ago, I broke up with someone. We'd been together about 3 months, nothing substantial, but obviously dating through christmas, and a birthday tends to have it's ups and downs, so I was pretty into her. She decided she didn't want to be together anymore. Entirely on her, She loses her mind one night, tells me to stop bothering her, don't talk to her, how I'm always a nuisance. I just say sorry, I won't bother you, remove myself from her life, and don't bother texting her again. Nothing. No response, no worry, no hey, for a week, where she says "I thought you got hurt, you never came to visit me, that's really fucked up".
I tried to explain how she made it pretty clear she wanted nothing to do with me when she started saying stuff like "never contact me again". She flips it on me, saying it was my fault for not following up and continuing to talk to her when she asked me not to do that very thing. So, for a week, we're chatting via text because she seems interested in trying to make up. And then she says "You know what I don't think we can be friends anymore". Admittedly, I lost my cool, but I didn't curse at her or anything, I just said "It's really hard to feel like I'm getting over you, then you jump back into my life, and immediately repeat what I was just getting over. Please never contact me again".
She got SO offended, and hurt. I feel bad that she's upset but at the same time, am I in the wrong? Isn't it fucked up to try and open communications with someone YOU said to not bother you anymore, and then fucking immediately say "nah you know what changed my mind"? Like holy shit. Obviously she didn't feel the same way I did if she's capable of waffling like that, but man, it's really put my heart in a vice.
