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My Deal (Crosspost from Twitter)

4 months ago

The following is a transcription of a twitter thread that I put together about midway through August. I did have to censor one name, because as I understand they're still partially existant in the fandom and naming them would open me to administrative action on FA because it would technically make it a callout. If you were on the Inflationation way back when, though, you'll know who I'm talking about.

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Every so often, I get someone who doesn't really understand what my deal is. Why would I choose to exist as a clearly childlike character instead of a handsome character whomst maybe could bang if they chose?

Truthfully, "Nemo" is a self-defense mechanism.
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A long time ago, I used to go by "Benni Hana," maybe some of the geezers among you will remember. Things were good. I liked being Benni. Things stopped being good when a guy named S started going way over the line with his open sexual interest in the character.
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I was young, and he was relentless, and the culture of consent wasn't as strong as it is today. Telling him "no I'm not interested" did nothing but making Benni more of an achievement. Eventually S started offering money, good money, upwards of 45 USD to scene with him.
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It was something that I later learned he did quite often with others, I know people who took his money and I know people who turned him down. But when turning him down did nothing, I decided I had to get creative.

So I killed the character.
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It was admittedly a little over the top. There was a death announcement, there were condolences, there was a full-ass funeral, the whole thing was very cheesy. To further build defenses, I adopted the identity of a new character I had built a few months previous, "Nemo."
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Of course because I took the object of his sexual obsession away, S then spent the next three years telling people that I swapped out Benni for invented reasons like "oh he's a child predator, don't deal with him." I dealt with it, I was at least free from him.
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(As a fun aside, he came back after the three years wanting to make up. I asked him "why did you tell people this hateful shit when you knew it wasn't true." His answer was "I don't know, it seemed funny at the time." ...We did not re-establish communication.)
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I was originally going to only establish Nemo for a little while, but I found that the benefits... fit. I didn't have to look over my shoulder to watch for sexual predators. I was everyone's favorite nephew. I was doted on. And most importantly, I was fucking cute.
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I continued to exist in fandom spaces, and I continued draw, and I chose not to stop drawing inflation or vore because I felt that my budding asexuality was pretty obvious. Over time, I've caught flak over it. I've accepted that this is just part of the deal I made.
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I've been asked, "why don't you swap back, S's been gone for a decade now" a few times. And I could, I suppose. But the truth is, I'm happier being Nemo now than I had ever been as Benni. I get to express parts of my personality that no other character was suited for.
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I've had people choose not to deal with me because my situation made them feel comfortable. Thats their choice, and I respect that. I do what I can to make myself inobtrusive, I use warning tags so that I can be avoided, but I avoid CW warnings to not give the wrong impression.
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I can't and won't force other people to accept my nature, but neither will I change it for them. I go out of my way to exist so that I can be easily avoided. If I make you uncomfortable, please make use of the effort I have put in, and live a good life without me in it.
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I wasn't sure if I should release this, maybe it was a little too public, maybe a little too forthcoming. Well its out now, and I can't take it back. Take this information, make the choices you make, and live your lives.

Just remember, I'm the cutest animal there is, mfers 👑
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15 Comments
sirkain

sirkain

Art Whore
4 months ago
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I forgot or missed the ending thing with Benni. Just remember started to see Nemo made more often one month and still saw same stuff I've digged of your works so didn't put much thought into it heh. ok
nemo

Nemo

I am only imaginary
4 months ago
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Yeah the whole thing ended up being very quiet from an outside perspective, all of a sudden Benni just stops showing up for like, 3 years.
bruanham

bruan_ham

Watcher
4 months ago
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You might be my favorite weirdo. Keep being you.
nemo

Nemo

I am only imaginary
4 months ago
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I am a very powerful weirdo and it would be difficult to get me to be someone less weird.
tobor

ToboR

Watcher
4 months ago
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I'm glad you shared this. For as many great folks you can find, there are so many others who just don't have good intentions.

Asexual is something I have only recently been looking into more as something I may be. If you are comfortable doing so, I would like to discuss it with you sometime.
nemo

Nemo

I am only imaginary
4 months ago
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Oh sure, anytime! I think we're all sort of feeling out this sexual excursion (sexcursion?) on our own and it doesn't hurt to share notes.
worldtraveler

worldtraveler

Writer
4 months ago
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I dunno who Benni is, but I agree that Nemo is a cutie patootie. I'm glad to hear you dealt with a messed up person, and are free from them.
nemo

Nemo

I am only imaginary
4 months ago
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Yeah I mean I've heard rumors that he lurks around still which is why I can't quite name him, but at this point I don't believe he's made contact with anyone new in years.
kyteriah

Kyteriah

Watcher
4 months ago
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I'm pretty geezer but apparently not geezer enough. Or just not the right circles to have seen any of that. But the reasoning is sound and good on you for being you. Being genuine can be tough, so, keep soldierin' on, lil dude. :3
akajiyui

Akaji_Yui

Anime Artist
4 months ago
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I actually read it all, and that is quite a story
nemo

Nemo

I am only imaginary
4 months ago
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What's buckwild about the whole thing is that after I made the posts publically, 6-7 other people each got ahold of me that said "yeah S did that sort of shit to me too"

Guy was a piece of work, I'll tell you what.
akajiyui

Akaji_Yui

Anime Artist
4 months ago
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I faced people like that before, there is a number of these types of people out there
hyenablimp

hyenablimp

World's Richest Hyena Balloon
4 months ago
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The 'culture of consent' is the dumbest thing. Like consent is just the lowest bar imaginable for something to be deemed ethical. Give someone enough opportunities to consent to something inherently self-destructive or unhealthy and more than likely they will consent eventually and that's if they are in a right frame of mind. Sexual predators are still out there but now they're getting people to consent first and because we have this ridiculous idea that consent is all that matters most people will say something like, "Well they consented its their choice". Ridiculous!

Well at least people aren't applying that to people under 18 but still not great. We really need to excise anyone that is seeking destructive relationships regardless of if its consented to. People like who you mentioned have no place in any edifying society.
paxcerva

paxcerva

surrealist
3 months ago
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Dude, I'm dealing with a very similar problem now. I'm so glad you opened up about this. I love Nemo and all your art of him.
nemo

Nemo

I am only imaginary
3 months ago
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If y'all need a hand, I will suplex a motherfucker into hell on your behalf. Nobody should have to put up with this shit.
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