>>686246459Dude, I was that way when I was a kid. Only 25 now.
Just own it.
I realized in my last year of high school that there was no hope for me. I was the weird kid. I was hated. I was alone. No matter how much I had mellowed out over the years, and the fact that I'm not weird anymore didn't matter; people's opinions had been set, and there was no way to change it. Why bother trying to win them over? They've made up their minds, and wouldn't accept me. I gave up.
And you know what? It was the most liberating moment of my life. I no longer was held back by fear of what people thought about me. Sure, my senior year was lonely, but when I went to college, I just kept that idea of, "People will think what they think. Let them."
You don't get confident. You fake it. You still know you're being judged and it's fucking painful and terrifying, but you look at them, and you laugh.
You do things you're afraid of doing. You talk to the girl anyway, and you know what? The worst thing that happens is she says no. And you walk away, and realize what you just did. fuck the end result, you just did something confident, even though you aren't. That's something to be proud of. That is how you build confidence—you fake it, do something worth being proud of, and then you use that to make yourself more confident.
Stop being a creep. Read a book or two on how to talk to people. What to and not to say. Don't talk about your flaws, don't apologize for who you are. Even when you're the most beta of the beta, you pretend you're alpha, because in the end, the only people who aren't doing that are bigger losers than you.
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