You ever get a guy that was a regular or got attached to you emotionally? How’d it turn out?
Definitely regulars, a few I got to know pretty well. I was invited to one couples baby shower. But I never had anything get weird or a guy become obsessed. There’s your share of weirdos but generally when that happens and a guy gets emotionally attached the girl is just as complicit in getting him there. She lead him on for whatever reason to where he thinks there’s something and then loses his shit when she doesn’t quit her job. I’ve seen that happen twice.
Did the baby shower couple go to your club together? That's the only way I could see that going down well, lol
Yea I’m sorry, I should’ve made that clear, it was a regular couple that came in and she invited me
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That’s awesome! Needed this update today:). So happy everyone had fun!
I don’t know. Someone picks up trash and cleans up a beach, that’s awesome. Someone picks up trash and cleans up a beach, then posts pictures of themselves doing it online to give themselves a big pat on the back or so they can feel better or whatever selfish reason; the trash still got picked up. Maybe that person is a self absorbed jerk but the beach is clean and maybe someone else saw it and was motivated to do another good deed, even if the next person only wants to do it because they’re jealous of the last ones Internet points. At least they did something.
Not a bouncer but a bartender- it used to be I’d start asking questions if I was suspicious, like what’s your sign? Or what high school did you go to? You’d have to be quick and confident with the answers that matched the ID, even if I didn’t know the answer you can tell when someone starts fumbling. But now most places use a computer system for a register and most of those can just scan or swipe the ID and it will tell you if it’s fake. It’s much harder now to use a fake.
I would take my kids to the amusement park or something for a last fun day out before they start kindergarten. It’s been a tough year so we didn’t get to do much in terms of vacation or big outings this summer, so I would want to take them somewhere fun just for them.
People lying about really awful tragic things for sympathy. You want to make up some silly story for the internet go ahead, but don’t lie to people about having cancer or someone dying or something equally awful for sympathy. I used to genuinely feel bad for people and then I kept finding out it’s mostly bullshit, so the internet has killed my sense of empathy.
Because I was calling you to come here and then gave you a minute to come..then you didn’t so I yelled again. Or I called to you to ask something, got distracted and forgot..then remembered and called again. Or I’m making sure you’re ok and just need to know your there and alright.
Yea I’ve been clean/sober a while now and hanging onto that bottle is what we would call a reservation or a ‘just in case’ stash. He might leave it alone for a while but just in case something happens he knows he’s got that. Honestly, and I don’t mean to sound harsh, but if you really want to help him, leave. Let him fall on his own and hit his bottom. A lot of times, I know it was true for me, an addict or alcoholic needs to lose everything to realize they have a problem and want to get better. It wasn’t until everyone in my life wrote me off completely and stopped bailing me out and enabling me, that I actually became motivated to get help. The more you cushion his fall and stay, the longer it will take. Really just my opinion but I know it’s true for a lot of addicts. Also check out Alanon- it’s for family and friends of alcoholics and addicts, they have a lot of resources and support and can help explain more why letting him go is the best thing you could do for him. Sorry you’re going through this, it’s an incredibly tough thing.
Always better to be safe than sorry, go get checked. It could be nothing, it could be a hernia.
The AMA, CDC, and the ASAM all classify it as a chronic brain disorder and disease.
I usually just order a club soda with lime, and most people assume it alcohol. If they ask what it is ‘I don’t know, bartender whipped something up for me’
‘Go borrow/steal/take one from the hospital like every other psychopath’. Or the good old ‘Ha.Ha..Because I haven’t heard that joke a million times already...(eye roll if you’re really annoyed) that one usually gets the point across pretty quickly, might be a little harsh but..
Dragged by the bus because people wouldn’t let me get off before they got on, or killed by an elevator for the same reason.
For some reason a lot of the public handicap toilets are the ones with the changing table inside. I used feel bad taking up so much time in there to change my twins when there could be someone who really needs it. I try to go as fast as I can but ya know.. they don’t always cooperate. I don’t know why they put the changing table in there.
I’m like you, terrible with dates lol. But I would definitely check out Etsy and maybe get her some jewelry with the baby’s name and birthstone or something like that. My husband got me one for my first Mother’s Day and I love it. Congratulations on your newborn!!
NTA- do whatever keeps you safe, end of story.
He’s trying to joke about it and laugh to make you feel better and show you it’s ok. So go back in there and congratulate him on literally fucking the shit outta you! You’re good, I promise!
Yeah I know! It's just a stinky feeling
I know it’s ok..I peed on my boyfriend a little once unintentionally during sex..he’s been my husband now for 6 years ;).
Buy pre-made formula for the baby, easier on the tummy for transitioning. Then call a lawyer and protect yourself and your kids!
Meds, therapy and exercise helped me. I was weaning off the meds after about 9 months. It was a tough few months before treatment but I’m so glad I went and did what my doctor recommended. I was utterly terrified of medication and thought I’d be on it forever but I only needed a little while and I was back to myself.
Try to remember when someone is showing you all the newborn pictures and talking about their babies or pregnancy, or your seeing it on social media somewhere, generally you’re getting only ‘the best edits’. You’re seeing their ‘best of’ outtakes, people tend to try to make their life and everything about seem awesome and perfect, especially online, they’re not always going to open up about the scare they had during pregnancy, how nothing went according to their birth plan, or how hard it is at home. I know it’s hard to not be jealous of how easy people make things appear, but a lot of time it’s just that, appearances. Hang in, it gets easier with time too.
I think when parents say that ‘they know their child best’ it more about they know their personality and interests better than others. For example, my one kid would live off fruit if I let her, so to make sure she gets a balanced diet, I hold off on giving her the fruit until she’s eaten other stuff, you wouldn’t know that about my kid. Or with timeouts, they say give them the same number of minutes in timeout as their age. My daughters are both almost 4, if I gave them 4 minute timeouts for misbehaving it would do nothing, they would laugh at me, it’s not long enough for them to actually care or see it as punishment. I have to do 10-15 minute timeouts with them for there to be an impact and for them to understand the consequences. Other kids I’m sure, 4 minutes in timeout makes a point. Stuff like that. I don’t think it’s really meant as ‘ I know better than experts and anyone else about general child raising and what I’m doing is infallible’. I don’t know maybe I’m wrong, but I think most of the time when that’s said, it’s just meant as I know my kid.
Yea I would be at minimum speaking to her mom and telling her it has to stop, and then escalate if it continues. Your daughter doesn’t like it, it hurts, and serves absolutely no purpose. For what reason would she do that? I’m sorry it’s just so nuts to me. If it was something like ‘I don’t like when mommy brushes my hair because it hurts’ ok fine. You need to brush their hair wether they want to or not. But there’s no benefit to popping her toes. Poor kid, I know if someone tried to crack my toes against my will it would hurt!
We had the baby jogger city select- and yes it is heavy and big- but we love it. We had attachments that allowed the bucket car seats to be clipped in super easy and then they transitioned to the seats that come with it. Lots of storage space underneath. We’re still using it for bigger outings with lots of walking and the twins are almost 4. The only downside to it is it’s weight and it’s big and kinda bulky. But it does break down to manageable size but it takes a little effort; you have to take the seats off, the wheels pop off, and other parts can be completely detached to make it easier to store, and it folds down. I would still recommend it, it’s sturdy and well made just can be a little heavy and cumbersome.
So it wasn’t weed for me it was other substances, but I do believe you can become addicted to and dependent upon weed. But the thing that got me to get my shit together, I was a little younger than your sister but not much, was my parents completely cut contact with me. They stopped enabling me and stopped being a cushion for me to fall on. I hit ‘rock bottom’ and I hit it fast. I think your parents need to let her fail and not carry her. If she’s not paying rent, or for her own food etc, she needs to start. The harsh reality of ‘I won’t be able to survive if I just work part time and smoke weed all day’ needs to become apparent to her. If your parents spoke to her and set some strict rules and she’s willing to go back to therapy and on medication and further her own life and career, great maybe you don’t have to go the hard route. But if this continues, I would make the reality of what life would be like without help from your parents painfully obvious. But that’s me..
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