With such a mature, nuanced perspective on love & life, no you wonder why you get rejected all the time. Women must love the smug superiority, it’s super manly.
Women are hypergamous by nature! Any men will be rejected by any women at anytime. If you doubt it, just verify by yourself.
Then you should have said "someone who you don't really find attractive", when you look down on someone you are seeing them as inferior, it doesn't matter what the context is.
This is gonna be like an endless debate. It depends from the angle you look at it. What I tried to say is simple. Some girls have to lower their standards. They have to be realistic and humble. Knowing their real position matters a lot. That’s what I am talking about. I treat people respectfully. I don’t even talk about all types of women. I am not generalizing!
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I had a similar experience in the inside of the train. The guy showed the 100 coin but I just kept staring at him. It’s been like 6 years ago when I experienced this.
Look. Your ex isn’t going to change. And they’re not going to change their mind either. Trying to wait for them to change will only change yourself into something that you hate.
That line particularly did hit me. I was thinking seriously about going to the gym. This gave me another push. Thanks a lot.
I have been there in your situation. So, I can feel you. Honestly, I recommend doing the following:
Avoid her as much as possible through acting like you are super busy with something in a separate room
Wait until she asks you for help
Go out for a walk
Tell her let me know if you need my help by calling or a message!
I got a message from my girlfriend telling me that she booked the hotel for Saturday’s night. She mentioned the location and price for staying one night. Usually I always pay for the hotel, so far 4 times, and I never made the reservation. On Sunday next day, I am planning to take her to a very good restaurant and cinema too. I am wondering, should I insist on paying for the hotel? Should we split bill? Should I simply just let her pay? If I let her pay, I am afraid this may appear as an unkind gesture on my end.
If I were you, I would give her half the cost in cash and say something along the lines of, "Please, take this. I always pay my way. Thank you for making the reservation; that was thoughtful of you."
If she made the reservation and you don't want to set the precedent that you will always be the one covering the costs, paying your half and expressing gratitude seems like a fair way to do it. Splitting costs is how these things should be, imo, and if she expresses any dissatisfaction with this gesture then you will have an understanding of her expectations and can assess the future.
Your answer is on the spot. Yes surely I am gonna use this approach, I am gonna pay half of the price. Splitting is the best thing t to do for me too. If she disagrees, then breaking up must just a matter of time! Thanks a lot.
Just talk to her about it. As a woman, I feel like I should contribute just as much as my partner and would insist on paying for half always. But I would never assume that someone would pay either way. That’s a quick way to get into an argument/miscommunication/assumption problem. It’s also a great time to talk about finances and expectations if you guys are going to keep dating. Do you feel comfortable paying for everything all the time? Because most people get sick of always paying. Start talking about it now before it becomes a point of contention.
Wherever I ask her for a date, usually I pay for her meal and the hotel too. Recently, if I don’t ask her for a date and we meet, we split. Sometimes she buys drinks for me too. At the moment, we are considering long term dating. As it’s just the beginning, I am not trying to get into money talks with her at this stage. I feel it’s kinda early. But, I clearly told her where I work and the place where I live. So, she knows I am not rich.
Actually we men have a hard time understanding women when it comes to sex. Many girls I dated, they say no to sex or show signs they don’t want. Based on experience, many of these women were actually just acting tough but they really wanted to have sex. These women don’t like to feel they are easy. They want to feel worthy. So, by saying no, they are inviting men to put more efforts. For example, taking her to a romantic place or an expensive restaurant. I kindly invite women to be clear about the reasons for not having sex with their men. Open up and talk. In this generation, with the me too movement, women can take men to jail anytime. It’s not fair. That is why your husband said the laws are bullshit. It makes sense actually. I will definitely never have sex with a women who does not want to have sex with me. Sometimes even during sex, if a girl says stop please, I immediately stop! I don’t think your husband is bad. He is normal.
Usually it depends on several factors. I am usually quiet because I trying to focus more on the sexual experience, when not trying to sound as if I am faking it, and when there are no reactions from the girl I am into actions with. I start making sounds once I move fast and get a bit so romantic and tired too.
Very nice post. Thank you.
I got the same with my ex again when she called yesterday. Another "please take me back i can't do this alone" call, yet no idea where she is.
I told her, again, that while I understand she is an alcoholic and has mental issues, she chose not to accept the help and in three years tore apart everything we built over a 15 year marriage.
Her only response, again? "Well it wasn't me, it was my disease. I didn't cheat on you, or lost all my jobs, or hit our daughter. My dise.../click". I had to hang up.
I am so glad I have a buddy i could call and just calm down with.
Somehow something similar occurred with my ex wife. I am trying to move on but it’s not easy.
Divorce is a pure failure. People get married with the intention to build a family and be together until death. If the marriage fails, it means the couple failed to establish a family. It means that both sides failed not only one person. I think you better think of it this why, we fail in one thing which is divorce, but we may succeed in accomplishing many other things. Certainly, divorced people are not losers. They can be very successful. But, sometimes just things do not really work. As simple as that, divorcing each other amicably is definitely sad but good act. Maybe one step towards success. I got divorced after 7 years. It hurts badly. I sometimes blame myself for not making things work. I feel I was also somehow responsible. But, I know I tried my best. In Japan, they say 仕方がない. It means that sometimes there is nothing we can do to make a situation work. I am now in the road of recovery. It’s not easy!
I am looking for a Martial Arts school close to Ikebukuro. Thank you
What martial arts are you after.
Full contact/ full resistance? (BJJ, judo, kyokushin, boxing, muay thai, mma)
Or more about mixing spirituality, art and history in the sport?
Or mostly about set routines, flow practice and touch only sports?
Each of these can be really interesting. Each of them comes with a different set of objectives.
Otsuka has one of the best boxing gym in Japan (kadoebi, right next to ikebukuro). Sugamo (2 stations away) has a really good bjj gym (Patos studio; really awesome) There is a good kyokushin in the ikebukuro area too if I recall correctly (I can ask my friend if needed)
I can help you with the first category, and may ask a few friends about the other two. I live in the area.
I'd need more details to know how to help you.
Which sport did you have in mind?
Thank you for the kind answer. I am interested in Kyokushin Karate or probably something Krav Maga. It depends on how good the gym is. If the gym has any foreigners training, it would be a plus
Hello, following up on kyokushin (極真) , my friend indicated that there are two good places not too far from ikebukuro, that do a lot of sparring
His exact comment was " 上板橋と下赤塚ってところが分かりやすいかもしれない！"
I guess that itabashi may be the closest
Thank you so much for the help. I think I found those doujou. I will ask for a Japanese friend to help me with the rest. 👍
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I ordered an item from Amazon Japan that is very important to me. They say it will arrive tomorrow but they didn’t specify the arrival time. The problem I am in a share house. They cannot call my room directly. So, basically there is no way they notify me they arrived unless they call me. What will happen to my item in this case? Is there anything I can do? I appreciate your answers. Thank you!
You're asking us how your sharehouse works? lol
If it's anything like my old sharehouse some crazy girl living there will instantly answer the intercom and tell the delivery guy to fuck off, and everyone will be wondering where their packages are for a while until the girl suddenly moves out without a word.
I think mine is different. 😊 Thank you!
Your girl or your sharehouse?
I meant the share house
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Don’t worry. You will be alright.
I cannot answer your question. After 7 years of marriages, I am going through divorce but it tastes very bad
Before buying iPhone XR, I was reading online about it. Many people says bad things about it. I am glad I didn’t listen to them. iPhone XR is cheaper. Battery quality is phenomenal, resolution is awesome. There is nothing about the screen. It’s very beautiful and clear. Forget about what is being told on the net. If you were using X, it’s fine to upgrade to XS or MAX. But, if you were using less than iPhone X. iPhone XR is a real deal. A family member got sick. I spent the whole day and night using my phone, the battery never ended. I think I was left with 43% after over 24 hours. This phone is a good deal.
Bought this phone yesterday. Hate it and am getting up to return it right now.
I’d love to be able to care about the fun tech features and all that, but none of it matters if I CANNOT HOLD MY PHONE.
My hand hurts after 5 minutes of trying. That’s not even attempting to use it one-handed. I’m talking strictly holding it.
I saw a few headlines about some feminist movement attacking Apple for the increasing phone sizes, indicating that they are sexist. I’m not attached to that theory. Just practically-speaking, people with smaller hands won’t be able to stay loyal to iphone at this rate.
It’s so frustrating as a consumer, because they also force you into upgrading. I had gotten used to my previous phone (7) and I don’t care about screens, battery life, camera quality, etc. I only bought a new one because it stopped working properly.
This whole system sucks.
I see. I used to like smaller screen phones. Smaller phones made my eyes tired. Also, they are not good for anything on the phone. If you basically use your phone only for calling and rare googling matters also don’t care about your eyes safety, then go for iPhone se. It is very cheap and functions better.
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