Thank you. I'll be seeing you around!    

By Tarangryph, 6 years ago
Thank you all for your support in the last couple of days. I’ve been completely overwhelmed by the number of comments, notes, text messages, and phone calls I’ve received. I had no idea my journal entry would draw this much attention; it was an outcry of frustration, not a political statement, and the response to it has taken me completely by surprise.

To set the record straight regarding a number of issues brought up in comments:

1.
I’m okay and I’m safe. I’m currently working in another city than the one known to the user harassing me, and my fursuits are stored with a member of my family, so there’s little chance my stalker will find either me or my suits even if he does show up at my home.

2.
Dragoneer has been in contact with me regarding the situation and I am hopeful the FA moderators will work to prevent the user harassing me from preying on other members of this site. However, I still feel the situation was inadequately handled.

3.
I will not be deleting this account, as it holds evidence against my stalker as well as photos of other people’s fursuits which the owners have favourited. I will, however, create an account elsewhere to post new fursuit photos when I take out Ngala and Breynz again.

4.
I apologise for mentioning my gender and the gender of my stalker in an offensive way. I realise my previous journal entry was poorly worded (as I said, it was an emotional outlet not intended to reach such a large audience) and distress caused me to generalise personal experiences; while I have only ever been threatened online with physical and sexual violence by men, I know women can and do stalk men and other women too. Please stop sending me angry messages about this.

5.
I am not leaving the furry fandom forever. I just need some time to regain my footing after everything that has happened. But while I have been disappointed with the actions of a few members of the community, my overall experience with the furry fandom has been incredibly positive, and I am very grateful for the support and kind words I have received. Thank you so much for your empathy and offers of assistance!

For now, I’ll be signing off. I’ll be fursuiting again in the future, though, and if you see me, do come and say hi. Also, feel free to post any photos of my fursuits wherever you like (but please no photos of me out of suit). Thank you. I'll be seeing you around!
31 comments

User replies

  redstripecougar

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
So you're not leaving after all?
  tarangryph

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
It is my intention to leave my FurAffinity account inactive and create a new main account somewhere I'll feel better protected by the administrative staff against abuse. I'm not leaving the furry fandom, though; the support I've received in the last couple of days has bolstered my confidence and shown me that the furry community does not deserve the harsh words I afforded it in my previous journal entry; you guys have been amazing. I'm sure in time I'll put this bad experience behind me and return to actively participating in the community as a furry artist and fursuiter, and I hope I'll be welcome when I do.
  redstripecougar

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
I'm sure you'll be welcome any time you return!

I've heard that Inkbunny ( www.inkbunny.net ) is better when it comes to dealing with problems of this sort than FA. But that was from an article that had nothing good to say about Fur Affinity, mainly because of something that had happened here over a year ago (maybe over two years ago), which was before I had any idea of the furry fandom's existence.
  forfaox

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
It's good to hear you are fine! Please do stop by on the stream chat again, there's a whole lot of people there that I think would like to talk with you :)
  neweinstein

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Good to hear that everthing is (more or less) OK again. *hugs*

Hope to stay in contact and see you again
  wolf-bold

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Hope the best for you. Take the time they you need. *hugs* Looking forward to meet you someday again.
  wolftale

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
*Hugs* Glad to hear that everything is Okay again. (as it can be).
And thank you time, Sweety :) And I look forward to suit with you again <3

  wolftale

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
*take not thank c.c
  sanjiva

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
I am so happy you have some peace now, and you are safe! That's the only thing that matters really! Stay positive and I hope to meet ya some day! Many greets and hugs from Belgrade!
  shotking

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Im relived that justice has been served even if it was a little late. I just wish Dragoneer acted on it sooner then letting it go out of hand or at least take some protective measures first. His authority is still questionable to me though. The important thing is your ok and safe, and this came out as a fairly nice ending. Theres been too much bad news here in the fandom already.
  norsepaw-studio

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Glad you are okay n_n
  blackymoon

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
You may not know me but I saw you suiting at EF18 whilst you rode the elevator up - scared me out at the time when I saw your Breynz suithead pressed against the glass so suddenly ^^

Therefore - and to show my own support towards you in this case I'm glad to hear that you are OK and safe Tarangryph and wish you only the best :)
  rrolf

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Good to hear from you again. The "I'm safe" statement is what matters most.
  waismuth

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Glad the shitstorm's been dealt with, at least partially.
  emberzcat

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Taran!!! *hugs* Im so happy you are safe!
  wolfer

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Happy to hear from you again. Hope you wont have any problems like this again!
  kets

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Glad to hear that you're safe! Be sure to stay that way, too. \o/
  duamutef

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
I find it really disappointing that you had to include this point 4. the statistics show that the wording you used is right in the vast majority of cases. :| Anyway, I hope to see you around at other places and wish you the best! *hugs*
  rinthedragon

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
*hugs* so glad you are safe, hope to see and speak you in the livestream chat and at conventions
  arsemaus

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
It's best to play it safe.

Thank you for sharing your work throughout your time here on FA.
  aapur

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
I'm glad to hear that things are being sorted out.

And I can understand why you need a brake, so take care.
  tenseicat

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
im glad your safe i've been defending you on the backlines from journals by people who really didnt know the situation. cant help it, your a nice person and i hate to see things like this happen to those who dont deserve it. Stay safe <hugs>
  mijou

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
I'll follow you and support you, friend. I was outraged when I saw the news, and I'm very happy you received such positive support. Mijou is here for you, and sorry she didn't watch you sooner! ((I swear I watched you ;_; gwahh!))
  dragoneer

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
The stalker has been IP banned, and we will be changing our rules and policies to prevent this from happening in the future. Explaining what information we need, what you can do to better protect yourself and to try and ensure stalking/issues of this nature have more clarity.
  grumpypuppy

#link     Posted: 6 years ago

 
Glad you safe and hope your recovery go's well *huggles*
  bloodgod245

#link     Posted: 5 years ago

 
im glad to hear your safe and well *hug*
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  catya

#link     Posted: 5 years ago

 
Didn't know this was going on, but glad you're safe :)
  tahoesushi

#link     Posted: 5 years ago

 
Good luck, stay safe! If you ever feel good about going to a con again, maybe I'll have another opportunity to take a few photos =) Always in awe of qarrezel qarrezel's work and I love trying to take photos of them that are as dynamic as the suits themselves.
  keileon

#link     Posted: 5 years ago

 
While I sympathise, this is a somewhat silly reason to go inactive on FA...
  dracosilv

#link     Posted: 5 years ago

 
I know this might come across as 'odd' from a furry that you don't know.. but..

*a blue and white dragon walks up to you and gives you a hug*

I'm glad you're doing/feeling better.. and I hope that your stalker gets the mental HINT to leave you alone.