Part 3 - Fin
Throughout this whole thing, I've been very clear on my wish to aid the community. That's all I've wanted, and I've gone about it with that in mind the whole time. I don't regret doing any of this; I fully believe it to have been the right thing to do and it was not on a small amount of thought. Once again, I'm super grateful for all the support, all the kind messages - from new people, from old friends, thank you so much to every single one of you :) . You guys are awesome, and regardless of what happens now, well - you guys are pretty damn cool in my eyes.I didn't want to put this entry out here quite so soon, but I've been getting poke-poked to release it as soon as possible. I guess 2-2.5 hours of thinking time is plenty (and I'd brought the idea up with Dragoneer previously, so it wasn't entirely new).
I outlined a way that Dragoneer could fix everything, and he would not have to trust me at all to do so. I'm going to be showing that conversation log below - the whole thing.
My hope was that he would have the courage to be honest, open, brave and to ask for forgiveness, publically to FA. Everyone makes mistakes in life. There's no shame in making a mistake. But it takes bravery and fortitude to admit you've done wrong and to ask for another chance.
I wanted Dragoneer to admit the issues as being real, as proven by all the logs so far, and to stop attempting a cover up. A community built on a lack of trust does not work - and once the trust with a community is broken, you need to be extremely open and honest to get it back.
Here is the full log of my conversation with Dragoneer, where I tried to get him to realise what needed to be done.
kimithelion
If you're not willing to talk with me one-on-one, just say. But I have a way all of this can be sorted. Not just this, but all of the previous problems too. Vivisector, Diocletian, Eevee. All sorts of people. If you are willing to talk, I'm waiting. I don't hate you. I don't hate FA. I can't force you to talk with me directly, but... If you can find the bravery to chat one-on-one... I'm here.
I saw you typing :-) . I'm not going to shout or be angry with you. No one knows I'm messaging you here, even.
hyenafire
Don't take this the wrong way, but I have zero way to trust you. After our last "private" chat was made public, I do not feel I can trust you or that you're in any way trustworthy.
Don't take this the wrong way, but I have zero way to trust you. After our last "private" chat was made public, I do not feel I can trust you or that you're in any way trustworthy.
kimithelion
You do not need to trust me for the solution.
You do not need to trust me for the solution.
kimithelion
You've got a really good chance right now. With all that out there, you can start a clean state. You can come clean to the users. You can say sorry for all that's happened. And then from there, you can outline how you're going to solve things. Step by step, build back up.
All of the corruption, all the empty promises. They're all revealed. You didn't have the courage to admit them yourself.
You've got a really good chance right now. With all that out there, you can start a clean state. You can come clean to the users. You can say sorry for all that's happened. And then from there, you can outline how you're going to solve things. Step by step, build back up.
All of the corruption, all the empty promises. They're all revealed. You didn't have the courage to admit them yourself.
hyenafire
You've already stated this before.
You've already stated this before.
kimithelion
Take the chance. You can have a fresh start.
What's holding you back?
Are you afraid of what the users might say?
Take the chance. You can have a fresh start.
What's holding you back?
Are you afraid of what the users might say?
hyenafire
So you can post whatever response I give in your next log of leaks? No thank you.
So you can post whatever response I give in your next log of leaks? No thank you.
*Smiles*
I can't convince you I won't, so I will not try.
I'm willing to voice chat, if you are fine for that as "off the record". I want what's best for the community. Your chance is now. It's already out there. So just admit it. You fucked up, so what. Everyone fucks up from time to time.
You can ask for forgiveness.
Apologising is only half though. You have to give the other half too. How it will improve.
To get the users' trust back, you need both halves.
If you never come clean, the corruption/lies and such will remain even if improvements are made.
And if you come clean but still nothing happens, users will view it as empty.
hyenafire
We seem to have two different methods. You feel that to improve the community you need to set it on fire so that it has a chance to regrow. I want to mend things and cultivate it and try to improve it.
We seem to have two different methods. You feel that to improve the community you need to set it on fire so that it has a chance to regrow. I want to mend things and cultivate it and try to improve it.
kimithelion
That was my first line of approach. I spoke with you about all this stuff in the admin chat, and in private. Though even if that /did/ happen, the allegations of corruption and lies would remain (and rightly so; they were true).
Sometimes you have to break things down to build them back stronger.
With a foundation that's filled with holes, you can never have a solid structure on top no matter how hard you try.
You never had the courage to do this yourself without any prompting. You hid your head in the sand. I've given the 'ooomph'. Make it happen.
That was my first line of approach. I spoke with you about all this stuff in the admin chat, and in private. Though even if that /did/ happen, the allegations of corruption and lies would remain (and rightly so; they were true).
Sometimes you have to break things down to build them back stronger.
With a foundation that's filled with holes, you can never have a solid structure on top no matter how hard you try.
You never had the courage to do this yourself without any prompting. You hid your head in the sand. I've given the 'ooomph'. Make it happen.
kimithelion
Not for me, not for you, or for Summer or Sciggles or anyone else.
But for the whole community.
If this just goes by, then two, three, five years from now, don't you realise there will still be these exact kinds of problems?
My first post was almost empathic for you. I got quite a tapping for viewing you as "kind" and such. I do not hate you, at all. You're the only one who can do the right thing here, though, Dragoneer.
Do you have the courage...?
Not for me, not for you, or for Summer or Sciggles or anyone else.
But for the whole community.
If this just goes by, then two, three, five years from now, don't you realise there will still be these exact kinds of problems?
My first post was almost empathic for you. I got quite a tapping for viewing you as "kind" and such. I do not hate you, at all. You're the only one who can do the right thing here, though, Dragoneer.
Do you have the courage...?
kimithelion
If you do the right thing on this, the blog will be replaced by a pointer to your announcement on FA, and I will back you up publically on there. Things can be mended and grow back stronger than before... But only if you give them the chance to do so.
Dragoneer chose not to reply to me. Not only that, but Dragoneer mentioned in the admin chat (yes, I still can see what's being said - multiple sources, and no, don't fire more random admins as believe me it'd be like roulette) how I'd told him I "think the site should be torn down and rebuilt from fresh". You can quite clearly see above that that's not the case and not even the slightest bit representative of what I said.
If you do the right thing on this, the blog will be replaced by a pointer to your announcement on FA, and I will back you up publically on there. Things can be mended and grow back stronger than before... But only if you give them the chance to do so.
kimithelion
I realise even now it'd require you to be very brave, and might need some time to think about. If you'll give me a reply in a reasonable amount of time, I'll hold off on part 3 for now. You must get it out of your head though that I hate you, or hate FA, or anything like that.
I realise even now it'd require you to be very brave, and might need some time to think about. If you'll give me a reply in a reasonable amount of time, I'll hold off on part 3 for now. You must get it out of your head though that I hate you, or hate FA, or anything like that.
Dragoneer chose not to reply to me. Not only that, but Dragoneer mentioned in the admin chat (yes, I still can see what's being said - multiple sources, and no, don't fire more random admins as believe me it'd be like roulette) how I'd told him I "think the site should be torn down and rebuilt from fresh". You can quite clearly see above that that's not the case and not even the slightest bit representative of what I said.
I tried. I did my best. This blog will all remain online - all the entries are backed up and referenced in other places.
When I was young, an old lady said to me that it's okay to not achieve every goal, so long as you give it everything you've got. Even after all this, all the lies about me, the sharp actions, the denial... I still was willing to hold my paw out to him and back him up, to tell people "give him a chance, let his actions speak for themselves". He smacked my paw away and instead chose to live the lies and corruption he always has.
As I've been saying all along, I wanted what's best for the community. I'm not the antichrist of FA (makes me laugh even reading that...!) FA does have a place, but... When even given a chance such as the above... Mmm. You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make it drink.
There are other things I've not revealed - quite a lot - but I take on board the comments of people that the first post contained (most) of the things most relevant to users.
One final time - thanks everyone :) . It's been one hell of a ride. 17.5k views and counting. For the most part I'm a very quiet and shy individual; shall remember these unique few days for the rest of my life! Sometimes you just gotta stand up and do the right thing even when others are scared to do so. Especially when others are scared to do so.
Goodnight.
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