@SuzanEraslan hey im really sorry this happened to you and also i thin kthis is a really good take are boosts okay

@SuzanEraslan I'm really sorry this happened :( Thanks for offering this perspective.

Maybe consider that the way you go about trying to get vengeance is actually re-traumatizing the people you are defending. Justice doesn't come just from believing victims, it comes from giving them back their agency and making them feel there are places and people who are safe.

They are the only ones who can decide how that happens and what that means.

(Boosts OK, but I'm really not interested in anyone defending the opposite point.)

@SuzanEraslan
This really echoes something I've been feeling for a long time but couldn't put into words!

@SuzanEraslan ppl feel focused on revenge against the offended as opposed to helping survivors/listening

Part of me feels that’s a natural reaction, feelings of justified anger r v satisfying

part of me feels society teaches ppl that justice=revenge which is not good
and I don’t like seeing it in leftist spaces at all

@SuzanEraslan
Im a child abuse suvivor (not sexual but bad consent violating thing)
Hurting my abuser wouldn’t change *anything*
Changing the law so it can’t be done to other kids would be immensely helpful and mean so much more then empty threats.

Bc keeping children safe is much more important then hurting an abuser.
And again, I don’t like seeing ppl in leftist spaces focusing on the latter over the former.

@SuzanEraslan people saying that to me always made me feel good, personally. Because rapists deserve death lol

@SuzanEraslan *witness pebble*

Because this is wise and nuanced - a huge accomplishment in the midst of pain.

@SuzanEraslan I remember feeling very similarly about this, even though I only revealed I was raped a long, long while after it happened.

I vividly remember someone going along those lines, and even though I knew there'd be no way to track them down by this point by anyone ever, I still had something at the back of my head that went "what if it did it, and it failed and they found out, oh god i'd be fucked"