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Now, I love my sister. Love her to death...but for the past two months me and my mom have had her kids over this house during the weekdays when they get off of school.
My mom, being the loving grandmother, doesn't mind having them over most of the time...but now it become a baby sitting service and a constant trial of trying to get work done.
Me and Rook have tried to work while they're here...but with constant questions, bickering, and need for homework help, it's just not possible. Our main goal is to at least get 8 hours of work done before we go to bed. This has been cut down to...3 or 4.
My sister has four kids and is now at a point where she wants to have a life. Welp, she screwed that up when she fucked a dude who doesn't pay bills and is always MIA. The dude that mom told her not to mess with when she was in High school. And here we are...everyone is put in a bad position because of your hard headiness.
I've talked to mom about it and she agrees. She tries to keep the kids away but...Mom's in her 60's. She's retired, has arthritis and one of the kids is a toddler who is spoiled and never told no. My sister is working and when my mom ask to at least be paid something, my sister gets indignant about it.
Seriously!? She's been helping you out for how long? For months! For years! But when she says, hey help me out a bit to buy food to replace what the kids ate, you get indignant!
This is the problem with family. They EXPECT you to do things out of love and kindness. They expect you to put away your time to help without thinking about what you need to do with your life. This is one reason why we moved from Wisconsin...but it's all the same here.
We have bills to pay, commissions to finish, and a future to plan. And it doesn't help that they,my mom and sister, think what we're doing isn't a real job(If art is your job, you know this song).
Love my nieces and nephews...if they were more well behaved it would be better. But this is some bullshit.
I will try to do something here to cheer me up. It's just been rough and not working makes me cranky.
i know that feeling , like my brother he cant drive but when he wants to go somewhere i ask him politey to help with gas and hes always a dick about it
wtf is wrong with people in Wisconsin? I moved there a little over 8 years ago and I have to say that people in Atlanta, a MAJOR CITY are not as rude or crude as people Anywhere in wisconsin. I live in a town of 18,000 and I have yet to meet more than 10 nice people
I've met people from France before... the country folk are pretty nice. the people from Paris? not so much.
and that saying doesn't apply to Wisconsin.
I'm easily the nicest person I know, but native wisconsinites are Jerks. only people in wisconsin that are NOT jerks, are not From Wisconsin
This isn't true... but you do get a lot of that when you are in certain places in Wisconsin. Chicago is far worse. I was born and raised in wisconsin and people have gotten far worse as far as how they treat one another, but nothing like other places i've been.
I've been here over 8 years. I'm a Really honestly nice guy. I have a job and my own vehicle
Chicks act like I got ebola-aids or something. I haven't had a DATE since moving to Wisconsin, seriously! >.<
even the fat moo-moo cows bigger than *I* Am turn me down because I'm not good enough looking for them
This is why I have a strict no kids policy. As vengeance my mom switched to dogs, and I have literally had to wade through liquid dog shit. Dealing with family sucks, trying to distance yourself from family just makes it worse.
I hate to break it to ya, but your sister's not hard headed, she's just a reality impaired slut. Very common to come across them in advanced/developed countries. Consider renting/buying/building a space exclusive for work away from the family problems. Depending on your financial situation, you may need to take out a loan, otherwise enjoy that decline in income and the ever pressing needs of kids you didn't make nor seem to have been wanted.
Have you thought of distracting your nieces/nephews? Maybe they interrupt you while you're working because they're interested in/curious about your art.
Why not make up some art kits for them? You can get a pack of cheap pencils, some erasers, and some cheap drawing tablets for what, $10-$20 in total, if that. Personalise them with their names and maybe a quick drawing on the front or inside cover. Let them know, when you present them with their kits, that they can use them whenever they come over, but when you're drawing, you need them to be quiet and leave you alone until you're done.
Then encourage them to draw. Teach them. Work with them, because they're going to ask for help, because they know that you can draw. So use this to your advantage. Each day, teach them one thing about drawing. Use a (sfw) commission that you're working on to show them how to draw correct anatomy, or perspectives, or clothing, and so on. Then give them assignments to do. While they're doing the assignments, you can get on with your work.
Will you still be interrupted? Yes, but at least this way it'll be more on your terms than on theirs. And doing this will not only make these kids feel loved, but will also help to give them a love for art and drawing. Remember, kids are annoying not because they want to be, but because they want and need attention, love, and acceptance. Give them these things, and you'll probably find that they annoy you less. :)
Trust me when i say, none of this is why they interrupt us. They dont want to draw, they don't want to be given assignments. They don't even want attention, trust me when I tell you i've worked in child care for years as a younger adult. All of this has been tried and done, they don't care about drawing or positive attention at anything they seemingly want to do. What they want is to be able to do here what they do at home, which is whatever the hell they want. They don't care about any of that other crap. They are simply spoiled and used to being able to do whatever they want. They are used to not having to do their work and are upset and frustrated when they are forced to do it. I've literally witnessed a conversation where one of them joked with their friends that because we sat with them wasting their time making them do they're work that they liked to waste our time while we trying to work. I almost lost it on that one.
Bottom line is, people don't realize that children are smarter than you think. They aren't precious little gifts from above, their little people who like all people have wants and desires and find creative ways to get what they want. I love that you have this rose colored idea that all kids are the same and simple same methods can be used to get a desired effect from them. This just simply isn't true and I find it interesting that people actually believe this.
I appreciate your opinions and I appreciate your perspective. But they get more than enough love, attention and acceptance; that's not what they need. They need discipline, they need someone to tell them no and they need people to stop coddling them at every turn.
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