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When I was 17, I stole my childhood friend's girlfriend. While he was in a coma. AMA. (self.casualiama)

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[–]Farpafraf 77 ポイント78 ポイント  (2子コメント)

He might have been your friend but you sure as hell weren't his.

[–]zolo912[S] 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Damn that was deep. Hit me pretty hard too :/

[–]NEET-Feats 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Hope you felt bad about it.

[–]PennyroyalSoda 44 ポイント45 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yo just came by to say fuck you

[–]mynameisntdoug 23 ポイント24 ポイント  (0子コメント)

1: Nice! 2: You're a terrible person. Seriously.

[–]TheHLkjm 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (5子コメント)

Did he find out?

[–]zolo912[S] 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Yeah he did, it was months down the road after he woke up but yes.

[–]TheHLkjm 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (3子コメント)

What was his reaction?

Were you still friends afterwards?

[–]zolo912[S] 22 ポイント23 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I think he questioned me a few times and I denied it over a week or so. Then eventually he asked and I told him online. If I remember right it was a really quick angry response, and then he blocked every line of communication. We didn't really talk much, but he would threaten to fight me if he ever saw me again. Which he never tried to fight me. Then apparently he would just talk really bad about me when my name would come up in conversation with other people, really bad stuff like wishing I'd die, I ruined his life, he'll fight me if he sees me again, and lots of name calling.

EDIT: No we never became friends again.

[–]montypissthon 33 ポイント34 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Sounds like you really fucked him over and you don't sound the least bit sorry about it

[–]zolo912[S] 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm just being objective, but I am extremely sorry for it. It's just so long in the past now that I detached emotion from it so it can just live in the today.

[–]foxyshizzam 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Did he ever wake up?

[–]zolo912[S] 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Yes he did, he was in a coma from October to January, then in intense rehabilitation from January to March.

[–]elmstfreddie 60 ポイント61 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Wow, only a few months. You and his gf sound like shitty people

[–]zolo912[S] 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

We were. I know I was. But I learned from it.

[–]WhoTheFuckTookLunus 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Why did you do it? Do you regret doing it?

[–]zolo912[S] 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I did it because I was young, and very emotionally/morally underdeveloped. And a pretty girl paid attention to me which already caused me enough problems already even at that point in my life even before that happened.

I regret it all.

[–]SheeEttin 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Are you still together? How long are/were you together? How did he not find out that his girlfriend had left him for months?

[–]zolo912[S] 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

We were together for over 5 years. But broke up several years ago, on pretty bad terms too. I don't talk to her either.

And we were all young. They didn't live with each other. She just didn't hang out with him much.

[–]Ifeellikeafatbaby 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I don't know if you're a good person or not, but you did do a really, really shitty thing.

That being said, do you regret it at all?

[–]zolo912[S] 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I was a shitty person, absolutely. I regret it all, but I am thankful that I have been able to learn so much from it. I just wish it weren't at the expense of someone else.

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[–]MyVeryUniqueUsername 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Hey! Almost all people are just saying that it was a shitty thing to do. I am sure, though, that you are not nearly as shitty as your action back then. It is in the past now and you know you can do better - and did, for sure. Stay awesome!

[–]zolo912[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thanks I actually appreciate that. It was a very eye opening experience for me, but I used the mistake to be better.

[–]askolsunburcu 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Wow, that's cold. Would you say it was worth it? If you could go back, would you change anything?

[–]zolo912[S] 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It wasn't worth it. If I could change anything it would have been to just not do it. I never realized how delayed I was in terms of moral and emotional development until then. I got a ton of great life lessons, but I just wish I could have gotten them without hurting someone else as bad as I did.

[–]ErisC 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

How did he get in the coma?

[–]Undead_Bunny 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

What exactly did the girlfriend think about all this? How can you "steal" her if she consentually left him for you? Doesn't she deserve some of the anger from him here? Is he not angry at her?

[–]zolo912[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I thought that a lot right after it all happened. But it was me trying to displace the blame so I felt better.

[–]Undead_Bunny 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

She could have made shitty choices with you having blame as well. I'm just curious as to her reasoning for it all.

It's good that you own up to your personal mistakes.

[–]zolo912[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I never tried to pin any blame on her but she said I was really sweet because I just checked in on her and offered my assistance. Which honestly at first I had no bad intentions, I was just being nice. She was also very unhappy in the relationship with him prior to the accident. Doesn't excuse any of it, but that's the reason.

[–]hiyosilver64 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (19子コメント)

Did you marry her? How is your friend now? Are you still friends? What are your thoughts about this whole thing?

(Nana has questions)

[–]zolo912[S] 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (5子コメント)

Not married, dated for over 5 years though. And no still not friends, I've wanted to apologize but he isn't on Facebook or any social media. I also don't want to reopen any old wounds for him.

I really regret the whole thing, I did more damage than I could ever imagine. Like I can't even imagine the trust issues and additional trauma that he has because of my choices. But that being said, I definitely did a ton of introspection and made myself a better person from those mistakes. I feel like from being such an awful person I learned what a good person is.

[–]hiyosilver64 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Mistakes are made. Learning from those always make us change - we can only hope, for the better.

You seem to have done that - you can take solace in that.

Nana internet hug

[–]zolo912[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Thanks I appreciate that. I just try to avoid thinking about it but something I was doing today reminded me of it.

[–]hiyosilver64 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Only learn from it now --- do not 'beat' yourself up over it any longer.

[–]zolo912[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I just avoid thinking about it and only remember what I learned from it. But sometimes I'm reminded of it from some type of media, which just happened yesterday so I made this post.

[–]hiyosilver64 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Some memories do return - sometimes with a vengeance -

You take care :)

[–]zolo912[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

And damn that posted the same thing so many times over

[–]hiyosilver64 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

HA! Everyone wanted to know - including me --- thanks for your answers :)

[–]kidsonreddit 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

is she your wife?

[–]Cheesuschessus64 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Reminds me of the book Feed when the main character has a girlfriend in a coma but forgets about her and screws her friend, shitty book but that part was alright.

How long was he in a coma for? Did he wake up when you two were dating?

[–]zolo912[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

About 3 months, and then was hospitalized for an additional 2-3 months.

[–]SamCasey98 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Scum is scum.

[–]brouter -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

women cheat so easily, i dont blame you honestly