So i have a situation and its one of those situations where i think i know the answer but I want to hear it in different ways from different people with much more life experience than me.
I am 30, been living abroad for 10 months and soon to go home to a girl that has been waiting for me. When I come back, she wants for us to move in etc etc.
I should have ended it before I left. In fact I did, then the next morning, 3 days before my flight thousands of miles way, she texts and says how horny she is etc etc so I agree for her to come to mine (silly) we have sex and she convinces me to keep in touch and Skype a couple of times a week and she will wait for me.
Issue is, we should have broken up many times before. Her dad left when she was 2 (huge red flag I have come to learn from this sub and other friends experiences) It was when I met her mother for the first time a lot fell into place like how she used to just randomly shut down etc. My friends called her the energy vampire because i put so much into things but hardly got anything back. Well, the sex was good and on a plate whenever and she never said no in 3 years.
I'm a good looking guy, 6ft 5, good job and literally a whole load of opportunities ahead. I could go to another country with my job and think I will as home (UK) has its issues. Also have some bitcoin that has made me a good chunk of money as bought in at 1k and still holding a good amount.
More i think about it, MGTOW is the way. My brother is 33 and recently had a baby, bought a house and girlfriend quit job... Doctor told him recently he has high blood pressure.. at 33.
Only thing is I want to have kids at some point. I think I need to end this relationship before I arrive home. I know as soon as I start seeing her (oh yeah i went back at xmas but she never visited me so haven't seen her for 6 months. says she is scared of flying as is 11 hour flight but would be ok to fly if she was flying with me when she brought up bali as a holiday destination and i told her it was 13 hours away) If i start seeing her again, i know it will be a lot harder to leave. Only thing is I feel guilty as i am a naturally soft person.
Sorry for long post but any words of wisdom will be much appreciated. I have spent a few months reading these posts and maybe comments received below will help others.
One last thing, a couple of years back when I broke up with her, she told me she had an abortion. She said she did it because she could see i was ambitious and not ready for a kid.... MASSIVE RED FLAG. I had an idea she was making it up so i played on how guilty i was feeling then a few weeks later she told me she did it because there was something wrong with the baby and apparently they can tell that after 3 weeks. I know it was a lie and the only way i justified it was she loved me so much she tried to say anything to make me reconsider my decision. But as i look back I imagine if it was a friend in this situation and i would tell him he is nuts for staying in the relationship and I think I was too.
Cheers
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