Brutally Honest Post Explains How Girls Are Abusing Their Boyfriends, Check If You’re Not Doing It Too
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We usually think of abusive relationships as black eyes and broken noses but abuse isn’t limited to physical traumas. Psychological scars can be just as – if not more – painful and, sadly, any relationship can inflict them, even if you’re dating a teen girl.
Signs of an abusive relationship, however, is sometimes hard to spot even for the victims. Especially if they’re madly in love. That’s why someone posted an honest message on Tumblr which should help identify if a teen girl is abusing her partner. The post quickly gained attention and so far it has amassed almost 290k notes. People are even reblogging it in spite of losing followers. Scroll down to read the brilliant text, and let’s hope more people will openly discuss this uncomfortable yet very important topic.
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That whole post is a massive thumbs up. Thank you kindly for the support, ladies!
If abuse isn't right for girls - it isn't right for boys. Abuse isn't right for ANYONE! Those cops need SERIOUS training!! Those boys may have fear issues from toddler stage which is impactful for life ... Maybe the abused boys were brought up to respect girls. Maybe those girls have anger issues from dad? And ALL else!! (way too much to get into!) - all abusers have self esteem issues & subsequently unacceptable behaviour toward the abused. We cannot 'double-standard' this one ... sorry. Gender has no place here - the issue is ABUSE! Period.
Like they said : "If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abouse but since it's the other way around it's considered normal". Of course abuse is the issue, but in that cas it's the fact that the abuse is someone perceived as normal because it comes from the girls, so it IS a gender issue in that aspect...
Exactly Frederic! Some of these boys may have been badly beaten just for spilling milk, 4 crying out loud! There are a lot of 'nut bar' mothers out there. The boys don't know how to be treated any other way (& this is just 1 scenario11). Men have "enough" having to internalize as it is in this society - must they 'stuff' this one down too?!!
The way our society works, men are rendered helpless since they can't physically hit back the woman if she's beating them. They'd have severe repercussions and through that they are rendered physically helpless in such a situation. Not always but defs happens.
"The way our society works, men are rendered helpless since they can't physically hit back the woman if she's beating them." Except for the part where two women a week die at the hands of their partners (UK). I am not saying the reverse isn't equally as bad, but male domestic abuse is far more likely to be fatal.
The sad truth of the matter is that in many countries, there's a legal disparity no one in power ahs ever addressed. In some countries, like the US, police are obligated to arrest the man in every case of domestic abuse, even though the perpetrators are in almsot half of all cases women. In many other coutnries, like the US, the UK and even Switzerland, rape on men doesn't even exist. In Switzerland specifically, the law states that only men/boys can rape and only women/girls can be raped. Non-consensual sexual activity with a man/boy is classed as sexual assault, for whihc the maximum punihsment is equivalent to teh minimum punishment for rape. Something is seriously wrong here.
What would those cops do if he would fight back? Year in prison and restriction order for 500 yards?
Cops were very clear with me that I must not fight back. In fact, they were very clear that there was absolutely nothing I could do.
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nice deflection attempt
This is kind of a rare thing too see. A post about fighting for mens right on boredpanda haha. But I applaud. I hope to see more of this to get a more neutral Boredpanda.
That whole post is a massive thumbs up. Thank you kindly for the support, ladies!
If abuse isn't right for girls - it isn't right for boys. Abuse isn't right for ANYONE! Those cops need SERIOUS training!! Those boys may have fear issues from toddler stage which is impactful for life ... Maybe the abused boys were brought up to respect girls. Maybe those girls have anger issues from dad? And ALL else!! (way too much to get into!) - all abusers have self esteem issues & subsequently unacceptable behaviour toward the abused. We cannot 'double-standard' this one ... sorry. Gender has no place here - the issue is ABUSE! Period.
Like they said : "If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abouse but since it's the other way around it's considered normal". Of course abuse is the issue, but in that cas it's the fact that the abuse is someone perceived as normal because it comes from the girls, so it IS a gender issue in that aspect...
Exactly Frederic! Some of these boys may have been badly beaten just for spilling milk, 4 crying out loud! There are a lot of 'nut bar' mothers out there. The boys don't know how to be treated any other way (& this is just 1 scenario11). Men have "enough" having to internalize as it is in this society - must they 'stuff' this one down too?!!
The way our society works, men are rendered helpless since they can't physically hit back the woman if she's beating them. They'd have severe repercussions and through that they are rendered physically helpless in such a situation. Not always but defs happens.
"The way our society works, men are rendered helpless since they can't physically hit back the woman if she's beating them." Except for the part where two women a week die at the hands of their partners (UK). I am not saying the reverse isn't equally as bad, but male domestic abuse is far more likely to be fatal.
The sad truth of the matter is that in many countries, there's a legal disparity no one in power ahs ever addressed. In some countries, like the US, police are obligated to arrest the man in every case of domestic abuse, even though the perpetrators are in almsot half of all cases women. In many other coutnries, like the US, the UK and even Switzerland, rape on men doesn't even exist. In Switzerland specifically, the law states that only men/boys can rape and only women/girls can be raped. Non-consensual sexual activity with a man/boy is classed as sexual assault, for whihc the maximum punihsment is equivalent to teh minimum punishment for rape. Something is seriously wrong here.
What would those cops do if he would fight back? Year in prison and restriction order for 500 yards?
Cops were very clear with me that I must not fight back. In fact, they were very clear that there was absolutely nothing I could do.
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nice deflection attempt
This is kind of a rare thing too see. A post about fighting for mens right on boredpanda haha. But I applaud. I hope to see more of this to get a more neutral Boredpanda.