Tumblr’s #please talk to me tag is so #mood right now
Except not literally, because I have no trouble talking to people. I wan’t to hang out with people in person.
But it’s not even that! There’s a party at my house in a few hours, so that isn’t even a real problem I have right now. It’s specifically wanting to hang out with people individually.
Honestly, there’s a sense in which it’s worse that I have no trouble getting everything adjacent to what I need, because then it feels bad to complain about how specific the thing I need is. It feels like you need unreasonably high standards to feel lonely in the middle of a party.
(But it feels like people at a party see right through you and aren’t really there for you the way people who would spend time with you even if you were the only one there are.)
And there’s a sense in which it’s annoying how many people send the signals of being interested in spending time but never follow up, y’know? Like when two hundred people say they want to date you, and one in forty actually talk to you about it. When you meet a cool guy at a meetup and then try to message him later to ask more about the philosophy of consciousness and he never responds. When you talk to someone online who lives half an hour away and they’re never ready to meet at a coffee shop.
Like, some of that is romance-coded, which is its own can of worms, but it doesn’t have to be? It’s just a general pattern of people giving every sign of liking your company exceeeeept where it counts. And I have no coping strategy; no game plan. I’ve never lived in a country where people were like this until now, and it just feels like a gaping wrongness in the world that sucks out all the happiness.
I don’t really know what I’m saying here or why I’m saying it. I’m just so depressed and hopeless and everything about me looks cheerful because I’m the type of popular where everyone talks about you and no one’s really with you and I can’t tell if it’s actually tolerable. I feel like it’s not and it’s broken and I must scream.
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phenoct said: You don’t need high standards to feel lonely in the middle of a party. Different forms of interaction fill different needs and lacking any of them can feel lonely.
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extrakatamiba reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
Were you getting much more one-on-one interaction when you were in the US last year?
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sdhs-rationalist said: yeeeeeeeep, that’s the long and the short of things, most people are kinda terrible at keeping comms up and the planning fallacy’s a bitch
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kechpaja reblogged this from spiralingintocontrol and added:
To expand on that: for most* Americans, it’s socially obligatory to act like you like a person and want to spend time...
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I hear this is a common complaint about Americans for people coming from other countries, even countries like Britain...
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luminousalicorn said: come to my houuuuuuuuse I know it requires BART but there are substantial periods of time where it’s just me and a baby and you should come here and hang ouuuuuut
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