sorry for judging you. I didn't know these people were aggressive harassing heartless assholes to this fucking insane degree you're doing a hell of a lot better than I would be in your situation. Also, the thing about "this toxic mindset that I deserve everything that happens to me because it’s not structural oppression and now that I look back at them, one person treating me with compassion would have helped" is true. I used to have that mindset and the only reason I don't now is because I've

been watching you and people like you yelling about how that isn’t right. And honestly, if I hadn’t gotten over that pain with your help, I could never even had suggested that you let go of yours and be nicer to feminism. So yeah, I’ve kind of reversed my opinion. What you’re doing does more good than harm, it certainly did for me. Thanks again and be well.      

thanks i guess.

again, this is not really a feminism thing. i don’t intentionally mention it. it’s a factor that’s divorced from it in society entirely

full disclosure: there are people who actually literally ask their doctor how they can have a medical castration so that they would get over their guilt. that is not just Scott Aaronson. that turns out to be A Thing people do. this is to me horrifying beyond belief. how is this happening? how is this allowed?

there need to be way, way more people that say “you know what? something isn’t right here. something’s fucky. people are suffering for no reason, for nothing that they’ve actually done. why is everyone’s reaction ‘get fucking owned’? Why do we have to have designated groups for this? This isn’t Omelas!”

but it takes one person that says “hey, you didn’t do anything wrong, kid. you’ll be alright”

a grain of compassion.

a seed.