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[–]Klondike52487 197 ポイント198 ポイント  (12子コメント)

ohhhh my god it just keeps going and going and going...

[–]Uneekusrnm[S] 139 ポイント140 ポイント  (11子コメント)

Every new message--I cringed.

EDIT:

A little background for you ladies, because some are unhappy and feel that this post is a bullying attempt. That's not my intention at all. I'm genuinely just trying to show how persistence like this can cross from being a virtue to a flaw.

This man and I went out once about 8 years ago. I always thought he was pretty cool but he did tend to objectify me like this and I told him, "You're not very good at being my friend. You've asked me for sex multiple times and I've said no every time. I always think that will be the last time you ask but it always comes again. You never really and truly accept me saying no so--I don't want to be your friend anymore".

We had that talk probably twice. I'd give in and try to be his friend and he'd ask me for sex AGAIN. So eventually a few years ago, I just cut him off.

Even after cutting him off--he still asks. He just can't take no for an answer. And although he's not rude about it--he ALWAYS says "I'll drop it if you say you've never thought about it" but he NEVER drops it. He always talks to me like what I say doesn't matter and I'm just a prize to be won and then tossed.

So no--asking for sex is not a crime. I appreciate honesty. But this sort of persistence is not okay, in my opinion. I know my replies were curt and cold but I'm really just tired of this sort of attitude--the "If I try just one more time, maybe she'll give in and I can get what I want" attitude. It's exhausting and demeaning.

[–]SugarTits1strong independent troll who don't need no bridge 29 ポイント30 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I fucking hate when guys pull this shit on me. Like yeah, buddy, I'm certain you'd enjoy sex with me, you'd probably enjoy sex with a heated up watermelon. But I'm like 5000% certain you wouldn't get me off so if we actually did have sex it'd be you having the time of your life while I'm stuck there thinking "how much longer is this going to take?" or "does he think I'm enjoying this?"

But of course you could never say what you're really thinking because it'd hurt their tiny man egos to hear that you need to be attracted - emotionally and physically - to sexual partners in order to fully enjoy sex, and therefore you either become a whore, slut, or cunt. Sometimes a lovely combo of all 3!

[–]Keyspell#NastyWomen2020 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'll take a #3 combo then

[–]SugarTits1strong independent troll who don't need no bridge 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm sick and you just made me snort ungodly things all over myself but I'm not even mad because that was funny af. I honestly love it when I make people mad enough to call me a whore, slut, or cunt. It just shows that my perfectly acceptable behaviour has bothered them so much that they now feel the need to try and bring me down to their level of bothered-ness by throwing irrelevant words at me. Am I a slut and a cunt? Probably yeah. I've never accepted money for sex so I'm not a whore per-say but I definitely have had sex knowing food was going to be provided so maybe I am.

Although, ironically, the only time I seem to be a whore/cunt/slut to these people is when I refuse to do the very things that these words imply with them.

[–]ProgressiveFragility 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

yup, social life can be pretty hard for asexuals.

[–]Vanetia 53 ポイント54 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is legit /r/cringe material. If you haven't posted it there you should

Possibly /r/niceguys as well

[–]ZemylaAll you wanna do is see me turn into a giant woman 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Post it to /r/creepyPMs.

[–]raziphelshameless plug: visit /r/troll4troll! 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (2子コメント)

he's not rude, but the persistence makes him passive-aggressive.

If he respects you, he respects your decisions.

[–]unamessahmahvehrrall that is needed to topple empires are tits out of control. 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Very much so. Could he put another lol in there?

[–]raziphelshameless plug: visit /r/troll4troll! 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I kinda expected more smileys. :P

which is also something I myself am bad at at times

[–]PhoenixPillsTrans Grill 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Jesus I'd just ask "wanna fuck?" and if they say no play it off as a joke or just be like "hey it was honestly on my mind I hope this isn't awkward, kthx have a good evening?"

lmao

ALSO ONLY IF ITS RELEVANT TO THE CONVERSATION

[–]BeckyDaTechie 165 ポイント166 ポイント  (1子コメント)

"Just had to say it because I felt it's true"

And you're so entitled to this woman's time and attention that she had to for sure know you just wanted to fuck her instead of listening to her about going TF away.

What. An. Idiot.

[–]ProgressiveFragility 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

not as entitled as those fucking insurance companies, that keep sending me their long ass contracts I have to read.

as if I owe them my time lol

[–]glowworm2kuterUS? I ain't sharing. 132 ポイント133 ポイント  (5子コメント)

"It's a legitimate question..."

Legitimate in what way? Grammatically? Socially? Within the realms of social decency?

Because I'm pretty sure texting someone you haven't talked to in ages to tell them they need to have sex with you "but for science, because who knows!" is pretty much not a legit thing to do unless you're being a greasy flying cockwaffle.

[–]daidrian 18 ポイント19 ポイント  (0子コメント)

A legitimate question in that it ends with a question mark.

[–]StankAssBarbieCome on Barbie, please stop farting 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Greasy Flying Cockwaffle sounds like a great 24-hour diner.

[–]Jechtael 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Lambert's ("Home of the Throwed Rolls") absolutely needs to start serving airborn chicken and waffles by that name.

[–]ProgressiveFragility 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

not just that, he basically gaslighted her and implicitly threatened her. classical abuser behavior!

who knows what he was doing at home, this might have been remote fartrape as well.

[–]tuki 72 ポイント73 ポイント  (1子コメント)

"I know you don't like my personality, but how bout just some sex then?" lmfao

[–]SugarTits1strong independent troll who don't need no bridge 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

See, this sentiment with this wording I get. But why wait so long after being rejected to ask? And chances are if OP was cool with some casual sex before parting ways she probably would have mentioned it.

I've had guys ask for "just sex" after I decided we weren't compatible. Granted most times I've been able to say "I'm actually good on that front, but thanks for the offer" and it ended at that. But if a guy I rejected a while ago asked me the way this guy asked? I'd probably freak at him having the audacity to think that sex with me would be any different than sex with literally any other woman. Go find a woman who wants to have sex with you buddy, don't try and convince a woman who has no interest in you. I know he probably enjoys the chase but that just makes it so much creepier.

[–]PagodaMonster 67 ポイント68 ポイント  (0子コメント)

"I have a question. I want to have sex with you." Not a question....

[–]delta_14i <3 naps, but i'm still woke 93 ポイント94 ポイント  (3子コメント)

"You just compared me to an unturned rock"

BHAHAHAHAHA you go girl. What an idiot.

[–]SugarTits1strong independent troll who don't need no bridge 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I loved his "You know what I meant" like, dude, I'm pretty sure you don't know what you mean.

[–]ChkYrHeadConnoisseur of Labia Confetti 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Man here! Women LOVE it when they feel like they're part of a search party for sex.
"Will you have sex with me? No? Oh..there's another girl I can ask."
#hopefullyobvioussarcasm

[–]slavkody 53 ポイント54 ポイント  (20子コメント)

All I can think of: (´･ω･`)

[–]discardedcheezburger 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Wow... I needed a break before reading part 2.. Just wow. Thanks for introducing me to this. Currently packing up some hamsters to send my bf to show him my love.

[–]AnneBancroftsGhost*Nanny Ogg is my spirit animal.* 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (4子コメント)

CAN'T. STOP. READING.

[–]PM_ME_KITTENS_PLEASEI have to return some videotapes. 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Seriously. WARNING: This is a five-parter and you will want to read all of the five parts!

[–]AnneBancroftsGhost*Nanny Ogg is my spirit animal.* 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yes. And while worth the ride it didn't handle the dénouement very well.

[–]PM_ME_KITTENS_PLEASEI have to return some videotapes. 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Agreed. All those cliffhangers and then it just kind of drops off. I hope it was just made up.

[–]brevityisFemale?! You are not a Ferengi! 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Want to have even more fun? Listen to the narration.

Hint: The narrator reads the (´･ω･`) as "stupid fuckin' hamster face"

[–]SmoogyNot a [pat]riot 31 ポイント32 ポイント  (0子コメント)

He just should have typed :

"Give me constructive criticism so I can explain myself to you instead of work on myself"

Every single response.

"what if someone you had no interest in kept harassing you " ...

"well I wouldn't like it but I'm just not good with girls "

he's explaining how someone else's standards should be lower even than his own just to favour him.

How entitled could one be?

[–]KatomegaPrincess Grossalot 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Here's an audio version with mild commentary and amusing voices for anyone interested

[–]brevityisFemale?! You are not a Ferengi! 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Oh damn, you beat me to it. Well done!

[–]slavkody 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

"Stupid fucking hamster face."

[–]kandoras 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (6子コメント)

Why did he keep posting emoticons of a pair of nuts?

[–]gullwinggirlI run on sarcasm and chocolate. 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I think it's supposed to be a teddy bear.

[–]Azure_Providence 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

To show how shy he is in a cute/playful manner. He thinks he is cute.

[–]kandoras 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I get that they're useful, and can be played with. But I've never seen any testicles which I would call 'cute'.

[–]JlmmyButler -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

i think i've seen you around here, you're awesome

[–]JlmmyButler -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

i think you're an extraordinary person. pretty sure i've seen your username before

[–]Alcohol_Intolerant 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

God I knew what this was when I saw that face and I still clicked it.

[–]PillowfiendFloppytits McGillicutty 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

My goodness. I read all of that and am still not sure if he was a master troll or just seriously terrible at understanding women and social cues.

[–]DuckWithBrokenWingsA troll's gotta do what a troll's gotta do! 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

For the sake of my sanity I'm going to refuse to believe it's real.

[–]hellopooop 14 ポイント15 ポイント  (2子コメント)

The unturned rock thing really makes it sound like he hast to have sex with every female he sees.

[–]raziphelshameless plug: visit /r/troll4troll! 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

maybe he has a misplaced geology fetish.

[–]ProgressiveFragility 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

except the uggos of course

[–]BitchesMakePuppies 24 ポイント25 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I know you said you feel we aren't compatible, butttt are you surrrreee you couldn't just let me use you as a wet hole just to make sure? Lol, what gall.

[–]SourNotesRockHardAbs 54 ポイント55 ポイント  (0子コメント)

He never actually asked the question...

He just hemmed and hawed about wanting to have sex without saying "Will you have sex with me?"

[–]bardofthemountain 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I hate the mentality of "Come on, we have to at least try! You'll always wonder what it'd be like if you don't at least TRY it!". I have heard guys use this in dating/sexual situations when they have already received a no. Not cool. "No" means "no", not "please cajole me into something that I'm clearly not interested in doing".

[–]yobsmeznI'm on a whiskey diet. I've lost three days already. 17 ポイント18 ポイント  (0子コメント)

the cringe... it's like a Moebius strip, it never ends

[–]ElliOopFeminazgul. 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

That fuckboy use of "lol" and "haha" drives me up the wall.

I'll just not take a no for answer or listen to you at all, lol

I think I'm owed attention and sex from a woman who's not into me, haha

[–]durtysox 40 ポイント41 ポイント  (5子コメント)

My perspective is slightly different from everyone I've read so far, in that I have seen sometimes that people do have amazing sex, who should not be in a relationship. It's a real phenomenon. The mind-blowing sex with someone you can't otherwise stand.

I can tell we just have different standards, but I found it surprising how much the topic of the text wouldn't bother me in comparison to everyone else here. Everyone so mad at him for asking such a gross question. I didn't find the question gross, just everything about how he approached it.

What bothered the shit out of me was that usage of "lol". I would have rejected him outright for that surfeit of "lol". Then, the wall of text. He should have expected it to go south, accepted her cues, and not rambled into her silence. It's not a neutral topic.

The reason why I would not have been personally offended by someone asking once is because to me an invitation or a question about my level of sexual interest isn't inherently offensive, whereas assuming or dictating my desires to me is deeply offensive.

People do take each other up on these invitations and it's usually a disaster, I hear them caterwauling insults at each other in, for example, a 7-11 parking lot. Most of the trashy violent relationships are two people who have subzero fire or good chemistry out of bed.

I avoid these pairings in my own life. If someone offered, I wouldn't be upset, but I'd be uninterested. And they'd have to offer only once and never again, or I'd cut them out of my life like a surgeon.

TL;DR: Ask me anything, but accept my goddamn answer as final.

[–]Fraerie 15 ポイント16 ポイント  (0子コメント)

TL;DR: Ask me anything, but accept my goddamn answer as final.

A pretty good rule for life.

[–]rachaek 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Yeah, I thought the same thing. I'm totally fine with guys asking me for sex, there's nothing inherently wrong with asking a person straight up if they'd like to have sex with you.

He asked for something, and by the sounds of it it was quite difficult for him to do. He also asked in a reasonably polite way (if a bit awkward and long-winded). He didn't try to play any sneaky games, like negging or whatever - he was straight up about his feelings and even gave OP an out saying that he'd leave her be if she didn't feel the same way.

I'm all for guys being more open about relationships. Demonizing them for voicing their feelings and desires leads to them to resort to sneaky pickup tactics instead of just simply saying from the start - "hey I just want to have sex with you, do you want to have sex with me?"

If you answer them with "nah, I don't want to" and they don't accept that, then they're a jerk. But just asking? Totally ok in my opinion.

[–]LadderOne 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

This is a great comment.

[–]rachaek 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thank you :) you're a great person

[–]LokisLocksmith 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I feel the same, kinda. I would have rejected the guy based on that shit show of a text. BUT I'm not offended by the question.

I couldn't fuck someone that oblivious. Dear god.

[–]bravetravels 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (0子コメント)

r/sadcringe

[–]The_Saltiest_DickNo, YOU made it awkward. 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

In other words, "I know I'm a piece of shit but I won't give up on trying to fuck you."

[–]Badabumppp 13 ポイント14 ポイント  (0子コメント)

God, I cringed through this whole thing.

[–]RTSchemel 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

"I'm kind of surprised you're texting me..." would have been the time to bug the fuck out.

[–]carolinablue199 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Your... you're

[–]megabyte1megface 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

And the "would of" and the incorrect use of the conditional... nope nope nope!

[–]D_Andreams 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think I actually find it less creepy if this is a "sneaky" come-on than if he legitimately was just wondering if you ever thought about that.

[–]Angramis546Butt rub advocate. 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Is that the shit that runs through peoples' heads? Why would anyone ask that? That isn't a question you go around asking people you have met

[–]StrawberryFieldsfor 14 ポイント15 ポイント  (43子コメント)

Does anyone else think this post is a bit mean-spirited? I'm a lady, and I love trollX, but should we all be cringing at this awkward guy? Clearly it was a blunder on his part BUT he wasn't especially hateful, rude, or enough of a jerk to warrant mockery on this sub. He obviously tried to be polite even in his eye-rolling messages. Let's have a little empathy for someone who is socially awkward. This might belong in /r/cringe, but not here.

Edit: We're having a civil, relevant discussion here. Please don't downvote.

[–]GlibTurret 101 ポイント102 ポイント  (28子コメント)

Nope.

Dude wanted to have sex with her not because he liked her, or wanted to pursue a relationship that would be good for both of them, but because he "didn't want to leave stones unturned." He wanted to check her off his to-do list. Her feelings or even personhood were not at issue for him. He reduced her to a set of legs and an ass, a notch he could carve in his bedpost. I don't think his problem is that he is "socially awkward". I think it is that he is an entitled, narcissistic douchenozzle who does not even see the problem with the nature of his request. She has presumably already told him that she is not interested (he knew they were "not compatible") and yet here he is again to ask her to be his sex robot so he can "see what it's like" and check her off of his list.

She should feel free to shame him however she wants. He's not a lost puppy in need of guidance; he's an entitled little dick. He can get over himself and realize that women are people, not rocks for him to turn over. He can learn that when a woman says they are not compatible, that means fuck off, not keep asking.

I hope she cross-posts to r/niceguys.

[–]StrawberryFieldsfor 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (4子コメント)

I think you are reaching here. You can see someone as a person and still mourn the physical relationship that you think might have happened had things been different. I didn't see at all how he's reducing her to not a person or that he's entitled. If he was entitled, he would have gotten angry she responded negatively--which he did not. He would have been shocked, shocked that she could ever deign not to sleep with him, but instead the whole conversation reeks of an awkward guy who's trying his hardest to stupidly win her approval, not seeing her as a robot.

And she can shame him however she wants, but that doesn't mean we have to participate.

[–]GlibTurret 59 ポイント60 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I think you are reaching here. You can see someone as a person and still mourn the physical relationship that you think might have happened had things been different. I didn't see at all how he's reducing her to not a person or that he's entitled. If he was entitled, he would have gotten angry she responded negatively--which he did not. He would have been shocked, shocked that she could ever deign not to sleep with him, but instead the whole conversation reeks of an awkward guy who's trying his hardest to stupidly win her approval, not seeing her as a robot.

He already knew she wasn't interested before he sent the first message in the thread OP posted. Yet he persisted. Because he wanted to, not because he cares what she wants. How is that not entitled?

It is good that he didn't call her a cunt when she rejected him, just as it's good that he didn't show up at her house with a gun and some rope. But should we really give him credit for that? He knew when he started the conversation that she was not interested, and he did it anyway. That's rude.

And she can shame him however she wants, but that doesn't mean we have to participate.

You're absolutely right. You are free to downvote or leave the thread at any time.

[–]Cassie_Blake 17 ポイント18 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Ahem. Seriously, I think you're the one reaching in this scenario.

[–]jumpin-jack-flash 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (21子コメント)

Calling him all those things just from this post isn't accurate. He wasn't demanding sex, he just asked her if she was interested. His wording wasn't the best but it didn't come across as entitled to me.

[–]GlibTurret 56 ポイント57 ポイント  (7子コメント)

Presumably he already knew she was not interested (because he already knew they were "not compatible") but he felt he could blow her phone up with dozens of texts of his not-question because he felt it was "legitimate", then get shitty with his "You know that's not what I meant! I'm not good at talking to girls!" when she correctly (and hilariously) called him out on comparing her to a rock.

Bottom line: he already knew she was not interested, yet he still sent all these texts. How is that not entitled behavior? How would being nice this time have gotten him to leave her alone?

[–]StrawberryFieldsfor 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (4子コメント)

No one said she should have been nice to him. By all means, I support her being as hilariously cutting as she wants, but I don't support the rest of us mocking him.

[–]Uneekusrnm[S] 34 ポイント35 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I actually understand what you're saying. I didn't mean for this to turn into a shaming event. I was genuinely just trying to show that sometimes men don't even understand how they can be offensive. And by replying "You just compared me to an unturned rock", I was trying to show him that. I was trying to show him that he was treating me like a conquest and not a person. I didn't intend to expose him as a jerk--more so show how even men who don't reply negatively, men who think they are nice have still been conditioned to see women as objects and are almost confused when we explain to them what they actually communicated.

Thank you for pointing it out though. Sometimes, trying to teach someone something can make them feel condescended to. I think I probably should work on a better way to communicate what their words actually mean without demeaning them.

[–]GlibTurret 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think you were hilarious and entirely appropriate in your responses. Please don't change.

[–]Cocoasmokes 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (1子コメント)

It's kind of classic fuckboi shit, it's pretty mockable. I don't think one has to be derisive in one's mockery or be excoriating in criticism, but I chuckled and finger wagged in real life to this.

[–]JlmmyButler -5 ポイント-4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

hi. i love you. bye.

[–]jumpin-jack-flash 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yea blowing up someone's phone isn't cool but I don't agree that he's "getting shitty" when he said that's not what he meant. Personally, I think it's a stretch to say that he's comparing her to a rock, it's an expression and I really don't think his tone was entitled at all, to me he just seems nervous. "Anyways just thought I'd ask and see if you ever thought the same thing I guess. Maybe it's just me lol." I just can't see from his texts how he deserve to be called everything you called him.

[–]ChkYrHeadConnoisseur of Labia Confetti 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think we're aware that it's an expression. What OP was trying to say was that by him saying that, it made her feel like she was just another woman this guy was trying to hook up with. Like dude was going down his contacts sending texts....turning over stones, looking for sex. Call me crazy, but that's not terribly enticing.

[–]LiterallyShakingRn89 27 ポイント28 ポイント  (12子コメント)

He went on for 7 PAGES OF TEXT about how she owed him her body. That's creepy, rude and gross. Are you seriously defending this? I seriously can't even

[–]virginal_sacrifice 14 ポイント15 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I know! Have standards been set so low that if a guy doesn't berate you and insult you after begging for sex then he's a nice guy? This guy is a toolbag! He clearly has a script that he uses on other women.

[–]queenkelleeThe vending machine says Hi 21 ポイント22 ポイント  (4子コメント)

He did a couple of douchey moves. He approached in such a self-centered way. Look at how it starts: I need to ask you a question (my boner can't wait). Then he backtracks a little with a 1 sentence attempt at conversation he actually doesn't even care about really. He just plows on. Only then did he finally let her know who was texting since it seems there was no guarantee of taking up space in someone's contacts any longer. Sounds like he gave this about 2 seconds of thought before embarking.

Then he goes on a multi-text tirade, not stopping to see how any of this is being taken - just a monologue of what he needs and what he feels, hoping she feels the same but not actually trying to have a conversation about it. It's about as subtle as someone trying to sell you a magazine subscription at your door with some kind of monotone sob story that sounds like a scam.

He wants this girl to have sex with him, but he can't even be bothered to engage in 2 seconds of actual conversation after texting right out of the blue. No, his boner needs an answer Right Now. Then when he crashes and burns he begs for forgiveness, again he's the victim here again, and she should feel sorry for him and fuck him right? He's not good at this! Doesn't that deserve a sympathy fuck?

Honestly even if it was someone I had physical attraction to this exchange would turn me off as it's just so much about him him him and really treating her like a means to an end.

It's not the worst fuckboi move but we can all learn from fuckbois. Oh, and dude isn't harmed by this in any way, but if we can teach other young ladies to learn to see the inner fuckboi, and teach young men not to be fuckbois, then what we've done here is fine.

[–]LiterallyShakingRn89 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Look at how it starts: I need to ask you a question (my boner can't wait).

Exactly this!!! This this this!!! He feels completely entittled and it shows. What a gross creep this guy is. Absolutely disgusting

[–]Uneekusrnm[S] 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I agree. I was genuinely just trying to show how sometimes, even nice men who initially accept no, will keep women in the back of their mind and come back. This is probably the 4th time he's done this to me in about 8 years and I suppose I'm just tired of it. My intent wasn't to bully him but to sort of vent about the situation.

[–]MeanMelon 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yikes. How old is he ? I have a friend like him.

He'd message me every other year, being like "I really regret that we haven't dated when we had the chance blablabla". It was always so annoying. Like... ugh. I could tell that he'd only do this when he was going through a recent break up. And it's so frustrating to be the token girl he thought he could fall back on as consolation.

There's a saying for it in my mother tongue which roughly translates to "You are using me as your cork" (but in way more vulgar). As in, people who only remember you exist when they are bored and need someone to fill the current 'hole' in their life.

Well... I don't know what sort of magical personal development he went through in the past two years, but he messaged me a while ago and apologised about his behaviour over the years. I was super skeptical at first, but it was a real apology. Like... He actually mentioned everything he did and how shitty he thinks it was.

I'll admit I did have a lot of trouble believing him (and I don't know if I trust him tbh), but we had a pretty honest conversation and talked some more since. He sounds like a much friendlier and more empathetic person now.

I really don't know what changed. Maybe he grew out of his stupid teenager/young adult phase. Maybe there's hope for humanity someday ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[–]ProgressiveFragility 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is probably the 4th time he's done this to me in about 8 years

wat? OMG haha that guy is a miscarriage of genetics and culture

[–]raziphelshameless plug: visit /r/troll4troll! 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

politeness doesn't make it any less persistent, unwanted, or inappropriate. It just makes it passive-aggressive.

If he respects her, he respects her decision. If she says no, he shouldn't continue trying to talk her into it. Especially not eight years later. Dude needs to just move on. But he isn't because he's super thirsty and doesn't respect her. No amount of politeness can fix that.

[–]LiterallyShakingRn89 18 ポイント19 ポイント  (0子コメント)

No. Just, no

He was creepy, rude and gross. He felt entittled to her attention and her body because he wants sex. I can't believe anyone would defend this behavior. It's too bad we can't name and shame this fucking disgusting creep.

[–]Cassie_Blake 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (3子コメント)

No. He was just fishing for sex. I didn't see "awkward" at all.

[–]Timekeeps -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I agree. This sub is turning into a bullying subreddit and I don't like it.

[–]lilygolightly 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

How so?

[–]QueenDoggoOfNeverlnd 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Because we don't give standing ovations for men just because they don't scream that we're cunts.

[–]ProgressiveFragility -2 ポイント-1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

haha what a bunch of dorks

first of all, why write a thesis for this? just ask:

hey bby want sum fuck?

all that other nonsense is a waste of energy. if she's interested then that's enough, if not then she will react the same way no matter how nicely you bring it up.

and the woman, who i'm sure was literally shaking that someone wants to have sex with her when she isn't interested...

no, dork OP, the male dork didn't compare you to a rock, he compared the missed opportunity, the thing that you never tried, he called that "an unturned rock".

lol

[–]DigBuox -5 ポイント-4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't see what's wrong here...

Actually I kind of get it. I don't think FWB's are good at all either. They're meaningless and if you get in a relationship with somebody else it should be emotional and not just physical. Good on OP for turning him down.