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Why don't men pay attention to me anymore?
I've noticed that men don't seem to pay attention to me anymore while out in bars and all. My friends get hit on and I actually see guys checking them out, but never happens to me. Even the drunk ones next to me don't notice me. I was out with a few friends last week, and one of my friend's new boyfriend was there and he was trying his best to make a good impression on all of us and he took a little time to talk to everyone, except me. It's like I didn't even exist or anything. I traveled to Barcelona, Paris, Lisbon and Milan this year and not once did anyone pay attention to me or even try to flirt with me. My gay guy friend with me got more attention than I did.
I'm 30, although most people think I'm 24-26 years old, Asian, very stylish, smart, 5'2" and almost everyone I know uses the word "gorgeous" to describe me. I went through my 20s getting hitting on left, right and center to the point where it became a problem, especially at work. There would always be someone hitting on me wherever I went - be it the grocery store, the bank, you name it. And now I feel like I'm invisible. Also, I moved to Norway a year and a half ago and I was wondering if perhaps I can't measure up to the beauty standards over here as Norwegian women are stunningly beautiful with their long blond hair and perfect features.
Anyone have any insight as to what I'm doing wrong? why am I not being approached anymore? :(
I'm 30, although most people think I'm 24-26 years old, Asian, very stylish, smart, 5'2" and almost everyone I know uses the word "gorgeous" to describe me. I went through my 20s getting hitting on left, right and center to the point where it became a problem, especially at work. There would always be someone hitting on me wherever I went - be it the grocery store, the bank, you name it. And now I feel like I'm invisible. Also, I moved to Norway a year and a half ago and I was wondering if perhaps I can't measure up to the beauty standards over here as Norwegian women are stunningly beautiful with their long blond hair and perfect features.
Anyone have any insight as to what I'm doing wrong? why am I not being approached anymore? :(
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Environment is destiny. Maybe your looks just aren't hot in Norway.
Do you ever watch the sitcom Mindy Project? Mindy who is Bangladeshi says the way she finds white guys interested in dating Asian women is by hanging out in the Asians studies department of her university. Any Asian societies in Norway?Edited by the author -
It's probably a matter of attitude. I don't mean the finger waving, feisty kind. I mean they don't approach you because you look unapproachable. Some of our emotions are telegraphed and can be picked up from a distance. I don't quite know how to explain it, it's body language. If I go out "hunting" and my mind is in the right place I'm killing it with barely an effort. If I'm distressed or simply feeling antisocial not only will I not be approached - most people will keep their distance. It's the "vibe" that you give. I'm not a believer in auras but body language communicates a lot more than words do. You lost a good deal of confidence and don't feel as sexy as you did a while back. People can sense that.Edited by the author