Hi, I'm 28 from the UK. I thought I would tell my story of how I have become a MGTOW.

Growing up there tons of peer pressure in my teens to lose my virginity, which I eventually did. Then I was culturally brainwashed into thinking I had to be getting laid all the time in order to be a man and not be a loser. I believed it. So I would go out drinking A LOT thinking I needed to find a woman to have casual sex with.

After after while, in my early twenties, I ended up in a long term relationship. We were happy, it was good. We were "in love". But I had come down with a long term physical illness caused by a tick bite that meant we couldn't do many things together. My ill health destroyed the relationship and we ended up breaking up.

Gradually over time my 'romance-tinged spectacles' (so to speak) cleared, and I started seeing more clearly. I became friends with my Ex but this time was very much aware of her flaws. I am friends with her to this day but that is all I want from her.

As I continued to mature, I realized that sexual desire isn't actually about biology. It's about psychology. In my late teens and early twenties I had chased sex so much because I needed an ego/self esteem boost. Of course sex feels great, but the real reason I went after it so doggedly was because my self-esteem was in tatters (for other reasons from my past I wont bother explaining now). Since then though my self-esteem has recovered and I no longer feel the need for sex to prop up my self-esteem anymore at all. In which case, why bother with the hassle of seeking and maintaining a long term relationship?

Things I have learned:

• Romance is an illusion
• Believing you "need" sex is a psychological thing.
• The family unit has it's merits, but ultimately its a legacy from religion.

At the end of the day I don't hate women at all. I love and respect all the women in my family and have a few female friends who are very nice.

But I think there is a lot of truth here about the power dynamics between the sexes. When in their late teens and early twenties, women are at the height of their attractiveness and so tend to use that power foolishly sleeping around with "chads". As they approach "the wall" and start to lose their looks (and therefore power) they are forced to wise up and look for guys with decency and intelligence to help care and provide for them.

When I became an Uncle I discovered I do not want children of my own. I find spending time with infants incredibly tedious, stressful and boring.

TL;DR: I still enjoy sex but no longer feel I need it. I don't believe in the conservative dream of the family unit. I don't want to start a family.

All I want is to recover my health and be a workaholic (musician and philanthropist is my dream) and contribute to the progress of humanity. MGTOW!