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plain-dealing-villain:

sinesalvatorem:

The two social networks that I know a lot of people around me use but that I don’t really get are Instagram and FetLife.

Like, what do you use these for? I get that Instagram is for posting pictures and FetLife is for being kinky, but… Where do you get the “social network” bit from, then? What do people do, socially? How does one transition from a lurker to an active user? (eg, on Tumblr the intermediate stage entails reblogging a bunch of shit.) Why would someone use either of these sites instead of, like, Facebook, or something? And, if I joined one, would people actually talk to me? (I crave attention, in case you hadn’t noticed.)

Basically, I can’t figure out what their reason for existing is, and I’d like as much of an explanation of one (or both) as you guys can give me.

People are on Fetlife for the same reason people who don’t really like Facebook are on Facebook: the events are scheduled there and so you need to be on it to see them.

Also many people _don’t_ live in a massive polycule of kinky and kink-friendly people and need anyone to talk to about kink shit.

OK, but how do you talk about kink shit? Do you blog like on Tumblr? Or post statuses (basically blogging) like on Facebook? How do you actually meet new people? If I were to join, would it only be useful to me to the extent that people I currently know are already there and would friend/follow/like/whatever me?



  1. awkwardly-angel said: Other Fetlifers constantly message me, but it’s mainly for pictures of my feet.
  2. plain-dealing-villain reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    You join groups on it
  3. hrovitnir reblogged this from glorious-spoon and added:
    I didn’t stay on Fetlife for long (I had what I thought was a nice conversation with someone that turned into them being...
  4. glorious-spoon reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    It’s been ages since I used Fetlife regularly, but IIRC it’s essentially an old-school message board. You can usually...
  5. loki-zen said: the main thing you would get out of it is probably finding local munches that are open-invite and going to them because of how much you like irl interaction
  6. kit-is-god reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    Nah, you join groups that are kinda a bit like subreddits in format (unless they changed in the last year or so) and...
  7. shedoesnotcomprehend said: Instagram for me is more-or-less the twenty-first-century equivalent of sending people postcards of wherever you’re traveling that say “wish you were here”; much less about communication, more about getting little glimpses of what your real-life friends are up to.
  8. reesemenezes said: You can join groups and threads, find munches to attend, or classes and demonstrations. It really depends on how much the individual themselves is willing to put forward. There’s also spots to add your photos, writings, and vids, and capability to add commentary to other people’s.
  9. lemayorq8f31 reblogged this from sinesalvatorem
  10. sinesalvatorem reblogged this from plain-dealing-villain and added:
    OK, but how do you talk about kink shit? Do you blog like on Tumblr? Or post statuses (basically blogging) like on...
  11. empresscelestia said: Also cute pictures of people doing lewd things!
  12. baroquespiral said: thirst following?
  13. chickadeedeedeedeedee reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    super possible! I live in a predominantly white area, and the few black people I do know probably don’t act the same way...
  14. h3lldalg0 reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    There are also super involved high schoolers. My sixteen year old friend and her friends claim to mostly use Instagram...
  15. h3lldalg0 said: I use Instagram for when I feel attractive, and to post videos of pole tricks. There’s a pretty strong pole dancer community on instagram, presumably because sharing videos and pictures of dance is really easy there.
  16. universejunction said: What @colloquia said about fetlife is accurate. Nudes, kinky events, discussion of kink, etc. Isolated from Facebook, so your relatives don’t see you being prevy.
  17. ambivalencerelations reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    @sinesalvatorem I’m a part of the Pottery Instagram community and I can probably give you an Insight into what goes on...
  18. poipoipoi-2016 said: Instagram is how people post pictures to Facebook. So… no clue.
  19. silver-and-ivory said: Ha, I need to keep to my commitment better.
  20. silver-and-ivory said: But it’s overwhelmingly just for people you know irl
  21. silver-and-ivory said: There are a few sj bloggers (AVOID INSTAGRAM SJ IT IS LITERALLY THE FUCKING WORST)
  22. silver-and-ivory said: Also, it’s pseudonymous, but can be privacy-locked so only people you allow can see pics
  23. silver-and-ivory said: It’s a thing The Kids use because their parents are on FB
  24. silver-and-ivory said: They follow their friends and their friends follow them back
  25. silver-and-ivory said: iirc people use it to connect with friends