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transgirlkyloren
transgirlkyloren

siderea has a post on her blog conceptualizing some forms of social phobia as essentially feeling entitled to everyone thinking well of you

this resonates with my experience

slatestarscratchpad

I don’t want to dismiss a psychological theory just because it sounds kind of mean. But I wonder if this makes any predictions different from a framing of “…essentially feeling terrified of anyone not thinking well of you,” ie the standard framing of social phobia that fits patients’ internal experience.

Actually, I find Siderea’s whole argument (link here) kind of hard to follow. She starts with the very reasonable theory that maybe people who were abused as kids have social phobia because they internalize social situations as the sorts of things that sometimes lead to being abused. But then she dismisses that because she doesn’t think it makes sense that kids who were abused by their parents should generalize this to the rest of the world.

But the mind isn’t logical. Why do Vietnam veterans with PTSD freak out when they hear sudden loud noises in America? Apparently they generalized their bad experience in Vietnam to inappropriate situations. So why can’t kids, who are much younger and less good at reasoning, do the same?

And if we were to frame PTSD as “the Vietnam veteran feels entitled to an atmosphere of perfect security where nobody ever disturbs them”, it would be obvious that we’re just reframing their problem in a way that seems less true to their internal experience, more condemnatory and stigmatizing, and makes it easier for other people to dismiss their pain. What’s the difference here?