First of all, let me say: thank you for existing. This place is where I come for wisdom, not just about MGTOW stuff but about life in general. And this is also where I come to remind myself that there are still men in the world. I've been lurking until now, but thought I'd join the discussion with my two heavily-taxed cents.

You're probably familiar with the term "suspension of disbelief," which is said to be a prerequisite of enjoying works of fiction. From Wikipedia: "The term suspension of disbelief or willing suspension of disbelief has been defined as a willingness to suspend one's critical faculties and believe the unbelievable; sacrifice of realism and logic for the sake of enjoyment." The interesting thing is that the original term is "willing suspension of disbelief": the person who loses his disbelief isn't a victim, but a perpetrator against himself. It's not an accident, but a conscious choice.

I've realized that this is a perfect description of what happens at the moment of physical attraction. When a vanilla blue-pill man sees a hot girl, his critical thinking is immediately suspended. There's no longer any character judgment; he forgets that she's a person who must be judged by human standards. And let's be honest, this is what initially happens to all men. The only question is how long this effect lasts.

I used to think that men could only ignore a hot woman's character for a few months, or a year at the most: you get attracted to her looks, and when the novelty wears off, you gradually start seeing her for who she really is, rather than for what her body looks like.

But now I'm beginning to wonder. Could it actually have a much longer effect? Is it possible to suspend your ability to judge a woman's character indefinitely, for as long as you find her attractive?

So this is basically a question for married and ex-married guys. How long were you under the spell of your woman's physical beauty, despite having all the evidence you needed to see through her character?