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Random problem for Tumblr: How does one plan a wedding? What goes into planning a wedding? How is it similar to or different from planning anything else? Are there actually people who are good at this shit?

(Feel free to answer only one or a few of these questions. I just really really want some answers from someone, even if you don’t have any good ones. Pls no bystander effect s’il vous plaît, gracias.)

((Yes, I’m aware that I’ve already said I’m married. That was the civil ceremony; actual getting-married-ceremonially-with-guests-in-attendance is still upcoming.))



  1. bariumsulfateacetone reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    You need Food Cake Venue Clothes Wedding party Invitations Rings Music Photos Decorations OfficiantGenerally you...
  2. virtualyric said: If you can, ask someone close to you, who doesn’t already have a role in the wedding, to be your “in charge” person for the day. They should be involved in the planning process and then on the wedding day, if anything goes wrong or last minute decisions come up (there are always some things like this) they will handle it instead of the spouses or the wedding party, who already have enough to deal with.
  3. mathionalist said: Didn’t Leah libresco plan her own wedding?
  4. tyson-ot-nw reblogged this from maybe-a-lizard and added:
    As a recently married person, learn from my mistake. Settle on your guest list BEFORE getting the venue. We barely fit...
  5. britvulcan reblogged this from loki-zen and added:
    So useful! Also “A practical wedding” is a good website for more advice.
  6. davy-the-sorcerer reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    - Decide when, roughly (or specifically if you have a significant day in mind) the wedding will be - Pick a few...
  7. fuckyeahelizareeve reblogged this from laylainalaska and added:
    A tip that I read somewhere early in my wedding planning that was so amazingly helpful for me was to take accurate...
  8. a-wing-to-fly-to-heaven reblogged this from transgirlkyloren
  9. lenyberry reblogged this from transgirlkyloren and added:
    A good friend of mine got married in her backyard, with a friend officiating, and basically just threw a small house...
  10. nentuaby reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    There’s a butt ton of details, obvs, but the essential components are just a set of pretty well defined tasks: 1) Choose...
  11. aconiteherbalist said: Everyone’s advice is great, so I’ll just offer this: Decide on your budget first. Then make all the decisions to fit your budget. There’s a lot of ways to do things cheaply- my dad got married at the school he was working at, offer breakfast rather than dinner, keep the number of people small or don’t have sit downs, skip the flowers. Its also a good idea to solidify why you want a marriage ceremony. A religious wedding looks different than a celebratory one, etc
  12. transgirlkyloren reblogged this from loki-zen and added:
    If you REALLY don’t want gifts, I found “please donate to the Against Malaria Foundation instead of gifts” worked really...
  13. musicalmathematician reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    Sorry, can’t plan your wedding, but I’d recommend having a look at Offbeat Bride (http://offbeatbride.com/) – in...
  14. teogli reblogged this from loki-zen
  15. ilzolende reblogged this from shieldfoss and added:
    I know someone who works at a national park and her advice is, when reserving things, to never say it’s for a wedding,...
  16. helicoidcyme reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    i am not, nor have i ever been, a wedding planner. that said: i think your first decision has to be scale. my (new)...
  17. tadrinth reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    The wedding-industrial complex is kind of insane. The average wedding costs $30k, and I think the median cost is like...
  18. spiralingintocontrol said: it’s probably fairly similar to planning a Solstice in many ways tbh, depending on number of guests you want
  19. spiralingintocontrol said: since you’re in the Bay Area rationalist orbit: your best bet venue-wise is to ask a UC Berkeley student to help you acquire a campus space for it. more broke-ass wedding tips: have a potluck, get a friend to take photos for you. I have a nice camera and would be willing to lend it to someone for you if you’d like.
  20. loki-zen reblogged this from sinesalvatorem and added:
    I’m sort of in the early stages of planning a wedding myself, so I’m happy to talk about it with you! I haven’t planned...
  21. sophiegrouchy said: Many people sell their wedding decor on Craigslist super cheap (what are you going to do with 200 Mason jar candleholders after your wedding anyways?). A lot of work is repetitive (if you are doing it yourself rather than buying), so it’s both useful and fun to have a small group of friends that will do it with you