u/FindingAmberMae made a post this week sharing her very controversial opinion that parents shouldn't commit suicide until their child is 18 years old.

"being brought into the world wasn't your decision.

What WAS your decision, though, was to bring another life into this world. They're not asking to be brought into it, and chances are, if you suffer from mental illness so will they. When you decided to have a child, you were making the decision to care for them, to protect them, to love them unconditionally, to help raise them to be respectful and successful human beings. You were agreeing to assist in equipping them with the knowledge and strength to survive in this eat or be eaten society.

Think about how bad your mental illness is right now. Do you enjoy how you feel? I know I most certainly don't; if I had a choice I'd be perfectly normal, wouldn't we all? It's absolutely horrible feeling how we feel, and I understand you. If you have children, there is a very big probability of passing it on to them. As a parent who decided to perform all the aforementioned parental duties, you need to help them develop the skills that they need to deal with their illness. Just like you, they didn't ask to be brought into this world.

As a parent, you are the main role model in your child's life. Most of the time, you're their entire world. They look up to you, they trust you will help guide them through life. They need you to be there for them so that they can be prepared to be on their own in the world.

Again, think about how shitty you feel right now. You're sitting on a pro-suicide sub because you want nothing more than to end your life. You're dying from sadness, anger towards yourself and others and constantly asking "why do I continue to go on?". You are putting this weight on your children's shoulders." - u/FindingAmberMae

Some suicidal parents and other commenters became very upset with her, even going as far as saying negative things about her in other threads.

"Unpopular opinion time. And I say this as an antinatalist who has no children and will never have children because I believe having children is immoral.

Your life is your own, full stop, parent or not. You don't give up the "moral right" to your own life if you have children. Furthermore, just because a parent is still alive doesn't mean they equip their children with the skills and confidence to survive in this dog-eat-dog world. In some cases, it's better of if they died so they'd stop abusing their children.

You can always frame suicide as an abdication of one's duties:

You can't kill yourself because your family will be sad.You can't kill yourself because you have a pet.You can't kill yourself because you have a duty to make sure society functions smoothly.

At some point, you have to be willing to shed these nonsense judgements and accept that people will judge you for shitty reasons" - u/chunes

And here's a comment from another thread bashing u/FindingAmberMae

"I agree: I thought it was severely messed up, considering how relatively hostile she is about asserting her right to die.

I think she just got a big head when that one person wondered if her absence was her dying and feels a sense of ownership and elevation, now. Very small behavior..

It's sad that the worst of us speak the loudest, and so to all the other quiet, not angry people who might be new and think that her's is the spirit of the sub- just know most of us aren't full of hate, and sometimes you're going to have to ignore/u/FindingAmberMae." - u/SuperFestigio