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[Florida] I am a grieving teen and I lost my entire family in an accident. I asked for help on Reddit and someone offered to come and help me, and I accepted. They begged to live with me and I said ok. They are stealing from me, doing drugs, threatening me, and will not leave my home. (self.legaladvice)

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There was an earlier post to this in r/relationships, which I cannot find and I don't remember the name of the throwaway account I used to make it. Sorry.

Around a year ago my whole family died in a car accident. I was 18. I inherited a large amount of money and a family business and a home. I wasn't able to handle anything, so I dropped out of college and all my obligations, sold most things beyond some possessions very very quickly and moved to a small apartment. I have an amount of money in excess of three million that I haven't spent more of 15k of. I have been severely agoraphobic for the last year. I did not leave the home for any reason for a period of months. I lost so much weight, and I wasn't big before, I just became so emaciated. I paid someone to buy cheap microwavable food/ramen most of the time so I wouldn't have to leave, and I pushed away friends from HS who came and tried to speak with me. I was a mess (I still am.) I spent my time sleeping, eating, and watching Pokemon over and over again and nothing else.

That was where I was at when I made my first post, where I spoke to relationships asking for advice. Most of what I received was really constructive and helped me a lot. I private messaged and then called a lot of people. Someone went through the trouble of working with me to set up therapy in my area with a good person who helped me but died soon after we started. (I'm planning on getting another soon.) Another person helped me make a commitment list of things I "have to" do each day. It started off small (no more eating ramen, I have to walk outside for 15 minutes) and slowly built up. Following it was changing my life too. I still talk to that person weekly and they are helping me a lot.

Then "Sarah" messaged me. Sarah messaged me on Reddit, saying she doesn't browse but she saw my story posted on another site. She said she was a trained therapist and she wanted to visit. She acted very convincing and said she help me clean my house and sort through my stuff, and that she happened to live nearby. I said okay. It was dumb, but she was very convincing and I'm very stupid.

When Sarah got there she had a large bag of luggage with her. She watched me clean and asked if she could live there to "help me" and gave me a story about her dad kicking her out. She is a little older than me. She made it sound like she would only be there for a few days.

Sarah has been here for slightly over a month. She's not a therapist. She invites her obese boyfriend and they do drugs. He lives here too now. She stole most of the furniture and objects not in my room. Her boyfriend carries a knife and subtly threatens me a lot if I don't give them money often. I've probably given them over eight thousand dollars in the last month. They invite people over and party in the other room and I hide in my room. I haven't left it more than twice in two weeks. I'm shitting in a jug I dump out the window and eating ramen again. These people scare me. I know they are taking advantage of my grief and sadness but I still cannot muster up the energy or think about how to handle this. I feel insane.

A week ago I gained the courage to ask them to leave and she told me she planted meth everywhere and would tell the cops I gave it to her if I didn't let them live there and give them more money. She says she is a legal tenant now. I don't know if thats true.

I'm too afraid and embarrassed to tell anyone. I don't want to go to jail. I don't care about the money but its clear they won't leave. I've fallen into another funk and I'm not thinking right and I have no idea how to handle this. Please help me.

Edit: I fell asleep for awhile after posting this and didn't notice all the messages. Thanks for the good advice.

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[–]Workaphobia 369 ポイント370 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Make sure to lay low in the future as far as public postings go. For instance, you mentioned the amount of money you inherited in this post. Do not bring that up in the future, either in person or online. It invites unwanted attention from bad people and paints a target on your back even among friends.

Manage your post history, throwaways, etc., to avoids leaking identifying information. Be suspicious of offers of help from strangers.

[–]Jellyka 89 ポイント90 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This, op. I would also discourage you from replying / listening to people who private message you on an account where you said how much money you have. I know you received great advice in the past, but for this post, I'd encourage you to only listen to the public posts in here, the sub is heavily moderated you won't get scammed. That cannot be said of PMs.

If you want more personal contact or advice in the future, do so from another account, and don't mention insurance money at all.

[–]Sheylan 1946 ポイント1947 ポイント  (29子コメント)

You are in serious danger. Leave the apartment now. Pack a small bag. 1 change of clothes. Toothbrush, toothpaste, laptop, etc.

Go to a hotel. Check in. Contact your landlord and inform him you want to terminate your lease, effective immediately (this will cost money, but less than they are costing you). They are not on the lease, so once you terminate, the landlord will handle eviction. DO NOT GO BACK TO THE APARTMENT. Once they find out what you have done they will hurt you.

You need to break contact with these people hard and fast, or you will be in serious trouble. Either legally or in physical danger.

[–]io-io 790 ポイント791 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Take all of your financial information (credit cards, bank accounts, brokerage statements, etc.) with you. Put in a change of address with the Post Office - they can hold it for you at the post office until you get a new address. Get a cell phone if you don't already have one. Use call forwarding from your old apartment's land line to your new cell phone. Remember to take your computer with you - hope its a laptop (or pull the disk drive and take it with you).

Sign up for credit monitoring and ask to put a lock on your credit profile. I'm going to assume that they probably have some copies of some of your financial records - this way, they will not be able to do any identity theft and open up additional lines of credit.

[–]KingKnee 258 ポイント259 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I agree completely, this is a very shit situation that could rapidly get much, much worse. I'm sorry about what's happening to you and I'm angry about these assholes, but right now you gotta muster up all your courage and get out of there, it doesn't even matter if you bring anything with you, you can buy necessities later. Call a taxi in the middle of the night if you have to. Get them drunk and leave while they're out. Anything to get yourself safe.

[–]danhakimi 71 ポイント72 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Shouldn't OP file a police report at some point to make sure she gets her story on the record, in case Sarah tries to lie to the cops? And best case, the cops recover some property.

[–]beimpermissible 78 ポイント79 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah, I'm puzzled that all this advice is about scramming from the apartment, etc., instead of calling the police.

I don't trust police, myself, but s/he can call the police and say these people are threatening him and using drugs, etc. S/he can say exactly what s/he said here about the threat to plant drugs. S/he can even ask the police to look for said drugs, etc. They're not going to have his/her prints on them, so no big deal.

The point is, I don't understand why people aren't saying "Call the cops and tell them these people have threatened you. They're not on your lease and they won't leave the apartment, and you fear for your life."

The police will come and the psychos will, indeed, be not on the lease.

After that, OP should scram, because these sound like unstable people. But s/he should get these people thrown out by the cops first, for sure.

[–]Kooderna 66 ポイント67 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I think the issue with this is that he has agoraphobia and although most here will jump to "the danger here is THEM is real, and agoraphobia is not" agoraphobia feels MORE terrifying than the threat they pose to him right now. It's crippling

He's scared to leave the house, and This is the problem , is this accurate OP?

[–]53045248437532743874Quality Contributor 170 ポイント171 ポイント  (13子コメント)

They are not on the lease, so once you terminate, the landlord will handle eviction.

Legally the landlord would evict OP as well, as OP can't unilaterally terminate a lease and isn't surrendering the property. He can brake the lease, but he isn't breaking it if his stuff and his (psycho) tenant are still there. (The property has not been surrendered.) I do agree completely that OP should get out of there, but then have the psycho served with 15-day notice to vacate, and then if the psycho doesn't vacate, start his own eviction of her (since he is her landlord now under Florida law) and lets the courts deal with it. OP doesn't want the landlord to evict him, as that will make it virtually impossible for him to rent again for 7 years. But again, agreed that immediate safety takes priority.

[–]I_Never_Think 169 ポイント170 ポイント  (10子コメント)

Would having 3 million dollars make up for an eviction? I just assume OP could somehow buy his way into a decent apartment.

[–]Grammar346885 145 ポイント146 ポイント  (5子コメント)

Yea, prepaying rent for a year would get a potential landlord to ignore your eviction pretty quickly.

[–]Erin42 67 ポイント68 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Not if new LL calls old LL for a reference and the old one says "S/he let 2 people live there without being on the lease, and they were using drugs and left the place a mess when [OP] left the property in their control." Managing property has a lot of elements, and not all are focused on just a rent check.

[–]QuiescentBramble 64 ポイント65 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Which is a good reason to talk to the landlord like an adult. If the landlord is an ass about it they can cross that bridge when they get there.

Also, there will always be a (good) landlord that will write a lease for the full amount of the lease. After that the only thing they'll give a shit about is whether or not the pipes, floors, and walls are still intact.

[–]shhh_its_me 22 ポイント23 ポイント  (0子コメント)

"And she paid in a timely manor to cover all of our damages" Also makes a difference.

[–]fliplovin 17 ポイント18 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Who cares? The guy has over 3 mil in an account, he can buy himself a nice oasis on a big plot of land for ~200k or so in Florida. He needs to get out of there now.

[–]sonofaresiii 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Nah, a lot of places won't want you to prepay. I know it sounds counter intuitive, but I think the reasoning is they think you're going to fuck everything up, maybe sell drugs or whatever. It helps but it's not a sure thing.

[–]meat_tunnel 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Easily.

[–]Erin42 26 ポイント27 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Well, there could be a slight problem, but I assume OP could work his/her way around it. Sure, he could go to an apt and offer to pay a lease term up front. That can be a red flag with a recorded eviction. Money does not make a good tenant, and a new landlord may not be accommodating even with cash-in-hand because the recorded eviction could mean OP left the property in shambles, was doing something illegal, or some other huge "bad tenant" thing.

The solution is to secure a new place ASAP and before any eviction proceeding. Im not sure that's a sure-fire way if the new LL contacts the old LL for a reference, but it's better than waiting until an eviction takes place.

If the market is good, it would prob be a better idea (and a wise investment) to purchase a small condo that meets OPs needs.

[–]crawshay 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

If I were her I'd just buy a multi unit property as an investment/home. Obviously she's got a lot to sort out beforehand though.

[–]smocesumtin 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

He can find another apartment before the broken lease registers.

[–]100jumpingbeans 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

The other tenants are not on the lease

[–]scifiwoman 56 ポイント57 ポイント  (1子コメント)

OP should take photos of the place before he leaves so that he can prove any subsequent damage to the property was not caused by him.

So sorry that scumbags have taken advantage of OP in this way.

[–]Ihavenootheroptions 15 ポイント16 ポイント  (0子コメント)

But OP let them in, so in a way they are responsible for anything they do.

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        [–]MrMattyMatt 459 ポイント460 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        Get the hell out. In future, stop telling people you have millions. When you're down and out, you're like a crazy-person magnet.

        [–]usarmy973 31 ポイント32 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        great advice!

        [–]ooogoodlawd 515 ポイント516 ポイント  (2子コメント)

        Call the police for an escort out of your home. Let them know you believe you are in danger and you just need an escort to safety. Offer to pay if it comes down to it, but police routinely do escorts in situations like this.

        Take all your personal belongings with you.

        Once in a safe and secure place, let your landlord know you are breaking the lease. Contact a lawyer for help getting a restraining order so that Sarah and boyfriend can not come anywhere near you.

        Get into therapy again. I had agoraphobia in 2003. I know how paralyzing it is and even though I can't solve it for you, I'm here to testify I've gotten out the other side. What worked for me was getting a job. I walked to apply and got a job on the spot after not having left my house for months and months. Once committed to the job(it was a hotel front desk job, very easy) I cured my phobia. My anxiety eventually led to me quitting that job, but the agoraphobia was gone.

        [–]BLOOD_WIZARD 116 ポイント117 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Police will likely do a civil standby, allowing OP to gather any important belongings without fear of the roommate.

        [–]IndustrialTreeHugger 53 ポイント54 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Definitely good advice here IMHO. IANAL, but If it were me in this situation, I'd have a lawyer and the police involved asap in order to get myself out of that apartment.

        [–]onecommentpony 65 ポイント66 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        OP, there is a plethora of good advice here. IANAL, but I thought it all may seem overwhelming, so I want you to break what you have to do down into simple steps.

        Step 1: Grab your phone, wallet, keys. Step 2: Get out of the house (run if you have to) Step 3: Find somewhere to hole up. A motel, a hotel – there will be somewhere you can go. If you are female then there may be some women’s shelters in your area that can provide assistance.

        These are all steps for your own safety. The sooner you have done these steps, you can move onto the next part – which is getting those ass-hats out of your house.

        If they in any way try to threaten you, prevent you from leaving, or otherwise intimidate you, call the police immediately. Down the line, you should also make police reports for the harassment and threats. But for now, we are just going to concentrate on those first three steps.

        Be strong. Be safe. It is understandable you would suffer from agoraphobia after your bereavement and trauma; but right now the biggest thing you have to fear is in that apartment. If you wish to look for meaning in this whole horror-show I suppose you could say that at least it will drive you to leave the house. It’s a shame it had to be this way, but hopefully you will be stronger for it.

        [–]TheAlfies 47 ポイント48 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Also, u/iamintrouble2222 -- This here is great advice.

        Be sure to close all of your existing bank accounts. You'll want to get out of there in a hurry, so you may accidentally leave identifying documents behind. By opening new accounts and moving all of your funds, you protect yourself from identity theft.

        I would also see if you could put a freeze on your credit to prevent them from opening credit cards in your name.

        Definitely just get out of there.

        [–]shhh_its_me 43 ポイント44 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        In this exact circumstance only; make sure you have rental insurance that covers damage a subtenant does rent a fully furnished apt elsewhere(on a month to month basis ) or a hotel , take the clothes on your back and order anything else you need online. Walk out the door and don't go back until the sheriff moves them out , then if you go back make sure to change the locks. Inform your landlord of what's going on.

        Then call a lawyer tell them you are suffering from agoraphobia and ask to do everything via Skype and ups , file to evict crazy roommate and boyfriend.

        Then hire a therapist of your very own.

        [–]thepatmanQuality Contributor 180 ポイント181 ポイント  (19子コメント)

        She says she is a legal tenant now. I don't know if thats true.

        That's almost assuredly true. She was a legal tenant once you agreed to let her stay there. Did she sign a lease with you, or did you both sign one with the landlord?

        If you both signed one with the landlord, you can't make her leave. If you are the only one on the lease with the landlord, then she's your tenant and you have to follow proper eviction processes.

        [–]iamintrouble2222[S] 92 ポイント93 ポイント  (17子コメント)

        She didn't sign or pay for anything.

        [–]derspinyQuality Contributor 175 ポイント176 ポイント  (14子コメント)

        As u/thepatman says, without a lease she's almost certainly month-to-month. Florida only requires fifteen days' written notice before the end of the month to terminate a month-to-month tenancy. Give her written notice that she must vacate by May 31st, and go to court for an eviction if she's not gone on June 1st. Start clearing the common spaces and your personal spaces daily to make sure there isn't really any meth there, but - as a rule - addicts lie. She's not going to waste her stash trying to ruin you, because then she can't smoke it.

        You could also, in parallel, get ahead of this. Speak to a criminal attorney about how to protect yourself, then report your tenant to the police for drug possession, threats, weapons charges, and extortion.

        Get a financial advisor to help you manage your money and assets. Three million bucks is enough for you to live a very long time on the proceeds alone, if you manage it responsibly. It's okay for you to be shocked out by the loss of your family and by the sudden change in your personal situation, but you may want to talk to a personal counsellor, as well.

        You are in control of the situation. She is not. Do not let go of that fact.

        [–]iamintrouble2222[S] 64 ポイント65 ポイント  (12子コメント)

        She did many drugs in my house, and she is making the claim that she will say they were mine if I move to evict her.

        [–]derspinyQuality Contributor 201 ポイント202 ポイント  (2子コメント)

        She may do that. You can't stop her. The police are aware that addicts lie, too, but if you're sincerely concerned, you can get real advice from a lawyer.

        Personally, I strongly doubt she's telling the truth, because if the police come to your house, she's far more likely to go to jail than you are.

        [–]I_Never_Think 59 ポイント60 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        Yeah, she is fucked either way. She essentially wants to turn losing her home into an absolutely massive drug charge.

        [–]27Rench27 29 ポイント30 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Some people will actually hurt themselves if it spites somebody they dislike/takes the other down with them. Fucked, but I've seen it happen.

        [–]bubblestring 83 ポイント84 ポイント  (3子コメント)

        Do you also do those drugs? If it came down to it, there'd be something to be said by the fact that you could pass a drug test and she couldn't.

        [–]tommmyboy7785 55 ポイント56 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Also, people who do meth generally just don't have extra lying around to set up unexpected roommates.

        [–]scifiwoman 49 ポイント50 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        Good point. OP should get a drug test on record now, before his food/drink gets spiked. Sorry to introduce more worry into the situation, but it really needs to be tackled head-on.

        [–]u-void 8 ポイント9 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        If any part of this is real, its a given that they have no access to his food and drinks. He said he doesnt even leave the room to use the toilet - his food is in his room and he cooks it in there, its safe to say.

        [–]TheWoman2 41 ポイント42 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        Move out immediately. Since you have money but not the ability to deal with this, call a lawyer and have them take care of notice and eviction. While you are at it, ask the lawyer how best to defend yourself against the threats

        [–]standbyyourmantis 21 ポイント22 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Can OP call the cops on Sarah and her boyfriend and then serve the eviction notice while she's in prison? Seems like that would be the easiest way.

        [–]zebrahippos 24 ポイント25 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Here is the reality: you are a millionaire with the financial resources that will make you, pardon the pun, a million times more credible than these deadbeats.

        Follow other users advices, get out, get a hotel, and hire a lawyer. Sit back and let the lawyer and the police handle the situation.

        [–]crawshay 32 ポイント33 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I'd like to point out that smoking meth causes very serious damage to a home. The chemicals can saturate the walls and it can be very harmful to other people living in the building afterwards. The landlord may end up paying a lot of money for chemical testing and hazardous waste repair/cleanup. He will also legally have to disclose the knowledge of previous meth use to any prospective tenants or buyers, which hurts the value of the property.

        This could cause him serious financial harm and I would anticipate he will come after you for it. Unfortunately, I think he would will have a very good case against you if he did.

        [–]madpandaswag 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I suggest you uber out of there. Call the police and get a police to escort you out. If they say they planted drugs in the house and are gonna frame you for it, ask the cop to do a drug test on you so they know you aren't one of those druggies. Play the victim that you are. This is not your fault. Gather all of your things, money and important documents including bills, ccs, mail, everything and just move. Call the landlord and pay to terminate the lease and they will have to kick out whoever is there.

        [–]aarghj 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Or, just call the cops on them and say, My house guest has invited an unwelcome stranger into my home and they are doing drugs. They threatened to put the drugs on me if I called police, and also threatened me with a knife. They are here now and I am afraid for my safety. Please come rescue me.

        [–]thepatmanQuality Contributor 22 ポイント23 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Great. Then she's a month-to-month tenant, which means you don't need a particular reason to evict her.

        [–]A_Soporific 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Basically, you say that her time is up and she needs to go in 30 days. If she is still there on the 31st day then you file for eviction. The process will take a couple of weeks or so. After the hearing you can then pay a little bit of extra cash and have the Sheriff come out and physically remove her.

        There's no argument that she can make that will allow her to stay longer than one month because she's an "at will" tenant. She's allowed to be there because you say so, nothing more or less. There are just some rules in place to make sure that people have a chance to find a new place to live before they have to go. Make sure that you do it in actual paper writing and be able to demonstrate that she got it.

        I would also recommend documenting her threats. Recording her wouldn't be admissible in court without her permission to the recording, but making a journal of what she threatens when and how will go a very long way to discredit any of her claims.

        If you don't want to deal with this, you can hire a lawyer to do it for you. It would cost money, but it's a way to get things handled if you aren't confident you can handle it yourself.

        I'm sorry for your loss and hope that you figure things out soon.

        [–]etchedchampion 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Could OP call the cops and tell them what happened and have them arrested on drug charges to get them out?

        [–]chiaratara 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        First off, listen to all these people with their advice about protecting your financial assets and getting out of there. I would contact a lawyer. The money you pay them is worth it.

        What strikes me is that the way they are acting, I wouldn't be surprised if they had been arrested for something before or have pulled something like this before or would be willing to do it again. More reason to get the authorities involved.

        [–]OTL_OTL_OTL 52 ポイント53 ポイント  (2子コメント)

        I remember your relationships post...

        Can you reach out to that same person who referred you to a therapist? Ask them for help? You need to get out. This chick will lie to you to intimidate you. Can you call a relative? An aunt, uncle, or friend you use to talk to? It may be a year but any friend would be understanding if you reach out to them now for help.

        A lawyer can also help you navigate the police. You will need to contact police eventually to evict her. Your landlord can help you with that too.

        [–]BiondinaQuality Contributor 47 ポイント48 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        You remember OP's post? Can you find it? I need convincing that this is real.

        [–]backpackerbabe 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I remember it too, it was a few months ago I think. I would search for it but I'm on mobile.

        [–]Phoxie 13 ポイント14 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        Please leave that apartment asap. You really aren't safe there. Go to a hotel for now. You're going to need to take action to get out of this situation. You can do this. Once you're safely in your hotel room call a local lawyer and explain your situation. Let them advise you. Find a mental health counselor to help you on that front. Lastly speak to a financial advisor once you've seen lawyer and therapist. DO NOT GIVE THAT CREEPY WOMAN ANOTHER CENT. She's manipulating you and playing you like a fiddle.

        [–]Iammeandyouareme 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Also make sure you pack any pertinent paperwork and anything in your room you can grab that's of value to you. You don't know what they might do once you leave.

        [–]bubblestring 55 ポイント56 ポイント  (5子コメント)

        Can you take some of that 3 million and break your lease early and leave w/o telling her where?

        [–]MoeFOE123 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I cannot stress this enough!!! Get the fuck out now!! You need to contact the police and landlord. Do not tell them where you are going!! Take every bill and piece of paper with finacial records. As sheylan said. DO NOT GO BACK!! I know you are agoraphobic so seeking councling will be wise.. Leave now

        [–]seamoresees 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        First things first, lawyer the fuck up. I get that you may be hurting and sad and mentally out of it, but this is the time to gather up all your energy and fight back. Lawyer up PLEASE! Do not let these terrible people leech off you when you're vulnerable. Source: am lawyer, hate leeches.

        [–]nimble2 256 ポイント257 ポイント  (24子コメント)

        Is there anyone besides me who thinks that this isn't real?

        [–]OTL_OTL_OTL 67 ポイント68 ポイント  (7子コメント)

        I actually remember reading a post in Relationships about OP's situation, so I don't think it's fake. Unless this is an elaborate months-long hoax.

        [–]ceeceesmartypants 38 ポイント39 ポイント  (4子コメント)

        Can you find the post in r/relationships, because I spent more time than I'm proud to admit searching and came up with squat.

        [–]InerasableStain 29 ポイント30 ポイント  (2子コメント)

        Unfortunately, due to Reddit's fucking atrocious search feature, your results are inconclusive

        [–]Dranthe 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        You can direct Google so search reddit directly which, obviously, has better search capabilities. Maybe something like "parents died car accident site:reddit.com/r/relationships". That exact search doesn't turn up anything but it's a starting point.

        [–]ugottahvbluhair 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I remember the post and just tried searching with different things I could remember but I can't find it. Maybe OP deleted it and forgot.

        [–]firewings86 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I remember this post too. It might be deleted now but OP did post this exact story with details like eating only ramen and watching Pokemon over and over. Lots of "Oh my, you are understandably severely depressed, please go to grief counseling ASAP" comments, etc.

        [–]IAMA_Shark__AMA 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I remembered the post instantly as well.

        [–]Draqur 143 ポイント144 ポイント  (6子コメント)

        Yeah, I'm here too.

        The part about posting something very negative on reddit with an exact story, involving someone else who is also on reddit and threatens OP... Seems very, very unsmart.

        [–]nimble2 69 ポイント70 ポイント  (5子コメント)

        I mean it's certainly possible that the OP is describing a real situation that they experienced, but there are just some odd things. Like for instance the OP initially refers to "Sarah" coming to the OP's "small apartment" as follows:

        When Sarah got there she had a large bag of luggage with her. She watched me clean and asked if she could live there to "help me" ... She made it sound like she would only be there for a few days.

        But then shortly thereafter the OP says:

        Sarah has been here for slightly over a month.

        It's kind of odd to refer to someone coming to your small apartment as "when she got there" and "asked if she could live there" and "she would only be there for a few days", instead of the much more obvious here that is used in the following paragraph.

        If this is a real experience for the OP, then their sentence structure etcetera is certainly excusable, and I apologize to the OP for doubting their story. But the whole there/here thing could also be an indication of someone describing something that didn't really happen to them personally.

        [–]27Rench27 58 ポイント59 ポイント  (3子コメント)

        No, it makes sense how they wrote it, you need to parse it differently. What you identified here is a break between past and present, like two separate chapters. Everything before and including "like she would only be there for a few days" is in, say, the end of Chapter 1.

        Insert page break/begin Chapter 2

        "Sarah has been here for slightly over a month". Does that help it make more sense? Reddit doesn't have a well-known way to make major breaks like this besides Enterx2 (I've seen them before, but I have no idea how to make it happen). OP probably just continued with the same format, assuming the time jump would make sense to everyone like it does to OP.

        [–]u-void 21 ポイント22 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        This may also simply valudate his diagnosus of Agorophobia - if he consideres his private room "here" and everything outside his room, like the common areas, "there".

        [–]BiondinaQuality Contributor 20 ポイント21 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        I'm with you. I think it's bullshit.

        [–]nabeel_co 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        This kind of thing is not uncommon to happen to people in OPs situation, it's called a home takeover.

        [–]Davidjhyatt 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        It seems there's a lot of different advice in here and mamy concerned this story isn't real. So, OP, if you read this, stop telling peoplr how much money you have. Pack everything with any of your information and leave with the ibtention of not coming back, take an Uber if you don't feel comfortable driving. Call a lawyer and have them aasist you with what to do and how to handle these people and your lease.

        Sorry this advice is so crappy and non specific but there is something off, and it may just be because of what you're going through. Make your move asap.

        [–]whatevenmotherfhcked 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Call the police now.

        [–]ilikeeagles 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Umm you need to call the cops ASAP. Leave.

        [–]malachre 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        If you have money , you can afford to just vanish from these people. Hire a lawyer to come in and handle your removal. They can set you up in a new and undisclosed apartment and hire some security professionals to get you out safely and take your belongings with you. The lawyer can set up an llc which will essentially rent the property for you and thus not leave an easy trail for those people to follow. Don't trust any random redditors to come and get you, just google a lawyer in your area and get them going as soon as possible. Alternatively you can just hire a security firm to remove you tomorrow and you can go to a hotel until you sort things out.

        [–]sammydow 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Leave Leave Leave. You clearly don't have to worry about the money terminating your lease.

        Your health and well being is the only thing that matters.

        [–]PartyHardNattyGuard 13 ポイント14 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        Hey OP, and I don't know if this is real, but what city do you live in? I know the last thing you need is extra comments from internet strangers, but I would run to the nearest police station and tell them the whole thing. Better to do it now than for a meth bust to come a knockin and you to get swept up in all of it.

        Also, go to the nearest lawyers office, even if they do tax law or some shit, and ask to retain an attorney for all this. They can point you in the right direction. And try to seek out financial management counseling with your bank, so you can get the best benefit for what I believe is your trust.

        More than anything, it's time to stand up for yourself, and take action. Do it. Now.

        [–]7up8down9left 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Aside from what /u/thepatman is saying about eviction, you may also report the BF's actions/threats to the police.

        [–]u-void 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        There is lots of good advice on here, i would recomment reading the child comments before taking any of it. If its bad advice it will be called out quickly.

        You have no obligation to cover for your roomates while they are doing illegal drugs. Youre free to call the police and report your room mates while theyre doing drugs, and youre also free to cobsent to them searching the apartment.

        If you call the police in and they catch the dopers in the act, search the area the dopers are staying in and find more of the type of drug the dopers are doing, its unlikely that the dopers saying "he planted the drugs in our space" will hold any weight

        If they happen to be arrested, that would be a great opportunity to leave to a hotel and gather a larger portion of your items.

        Stop telling people how much money you have, you will ve targeted. Even if you had $0 to your name the advice would be the same - you need to leave.

        [–]legalbyebye 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        OP, money does not buy happiness, but it may be able to buy you some help here. You can pay for a drug test to show that you don't use drugs, which of course will not completely clear you if they are in your house, but lends credibility to the claim that Sarah planted them. If you are not able to leave the house, there are qualified therapists (look for MD, PhD, PsyD, MSW, or other credentials) who will work with you over the phone or by Skype. Please reach out, and if you don't know how to, please post back for some ideas.

        [–]PopcornPlayaa_ 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        Leave, go directly to the police.

        [–]SCDude66 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        IANAL, there's a lot of good advice already, and some bad advice. So to sum it up: Gather your important documents, a change of clothes, and hygiene stuff and leave. Get a hotel room. Change your passwords. Call a lawyer tomorrow.

        [–]InstigatingDrunk 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (2子コメント)

        This looks fake..

        [–]IndustrialTreeHugger 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (1子コメント)

        What is there to gain by calling out the OP as posting a fake story? If you are right, then we get possibly one of the craziest stories on this sub so have a discussion about - even if it is fiction. If you are wrong then you are alienating someone with major personal and psychological issues who is in a very unsafe situation.

        Sure, it is important to protect the integrity and intent of this sub, but with no hard proof to go on we can't be sure of what the truth is.

        [–]BiondinaQuality Contributor 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        What is there to gain by calling out the OP as posting a fake story?

        People providing advice could be helping people who actually need help, for starters. Further, as you mentioned, maintaining the integrity of this sub is important. This sub cannot become a breeding ground for shitposts. We remove bullshit posts all day long, as it is, and we have to be militant about it here.

        [–]noneyabeezwax 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        So you are going back to Reddit for help?

        [–]shiba500 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I feel like this is one of those obvious fake posts that people like to make up on throwaway accounts.

        [–]1stXer 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        get a Lawyer, call the Police, feed them Nematodes, buy a yatch...

        [–]snowclick 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        All you have to do is leave then call the landlord saying you need to cancel the lease and explain everything. Have them call the cops and then tell the landlord to call you back when the cops get there so you can head over or tell the cops where you are and sort everything out

        [–]h3nchman27 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

        I'd hire a body guard while moving your stuff out. Move out and terminate lease, you may be subjected to a fee. Every day will get worse as you are enabling these people. try to keep your head up, join some group therapy sessions and start hanging out with people who have steady jobs and who don't use drugs. Much love goes out to you! Stay up