Back story, mother was very abusive growing up (36 now), father killed himself when I was 12. I did get very very lucky with grandparents and a set of Godparents. Pretty bad growing up, more dudes than a truck stop, she told me about an abortion, at 12, (apparently I needed to know this). Verbal and physical stuff until 13 (last time I was slammed and choked into a wall by her being told to kill myself). Anyhow, left home at 18, (18 years ago) and came back for a few months at 22, when I got home from Iraq, injured and ill, I did begin to drink, I will admit that years ago I did for a bit, don't blame her (and I quit a while ago, Paleo and do yoga for physical therapy) but a little help before get out of the house would've been nice. Meh, it worked out, got my own place at 23 and all is well that ends well :). We have our years of and on off communication, mostly insane arguing that I look back on as a state of lunacy on MY end for engaging, it was like I was being spousified (as I was growing up knowing about eviction notices and being broke, blah blah, that was a very secure feeling). I ghost her, then years ago I had a kid, thought it would be good to have mom in kids life (blue pill, I know I know, but I LOVE being a dad, it's great), it's been shitty since, bad idea, now, her husband my stepdad has cheated on her she wanted done and is very ill, asked me to help her with with health and blah blah (she says my stepdad never even went to the doctors with her or he just waited in the car, whatever) then she backtracks, I call her out last week on some stuff and not getting me lists of what she wants help with (after crying and I am sorry and this is a cry for help b.s.) and it turns into a s*** show, right after I called her out last week I was met with "you just want to fight I am going", she was off on some important things. Don't talk to her, and today this is what I am met with. She did call I just kept saying I didn't want to talk, could her step dad in background. Honestly, I am relieved I don't have to deal with it and I think this fall out will be entertaining, I am not even going to say a word about how she is probably going to get screwed over...and I won't help this time.