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Wife accusing me of cheating. (self.askMRP)

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So I have been lifting and reading and slowly upping dread and lately my wife is actively coming out and asking me if I'm cheating. I'm not as I'm too much of a beta to attract a woman but her hamster sure thinks so. I was ok with the questions but now the behaviour has turned to my wife actively sabotaging my new hobby. I am taking up target shooting and did the safety course before Christmas and have to apply for my gun licence. As part of the licence application they request a signature from the wife to confirm she has no fears of me obtaining the licence. If she does not sign the form they will call her. She refused to sign the form because I'm an alchoholic. Quit 3 years ago. I'm pissed but I'm not sure if I'm overreacting or going Rambo.

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[–]creating_my_life 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (2子コメント)

So I have been lifting and reading and slowly upping dread and lately my wife is actively coming out and asking me if I'm cheating.

Are you cheating? If "no", then DGAF. If "yes", you have different issues.

I'm not as I'm too much of a beta to attract a woman but her hamster sure thinks so.

Attraction is mostly physical. But her hamster thinking so IT IS "dread".

now the behaviour has turned to my wife actively sabotaging my new hobby.

Of course she is. Why would she want to lose her steady stream of resources and attention that she puts little effort into? She doesn't WANT change. You improving yourself is FORCING the change. That was the whole point for you.

If she does not sign the form they will call her.

Okay.

She refused to sign the form because I'm an alchoholic. Quit 3 years ago.

Wait until she refuses to sign, and then your license gets denied. follow the process.

You do you.

[–]knowncitizen[S] 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Thx points taken.

[–]murroc 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You should pay attention to her asking if you're cheating. It means that her mind has thought through the clues she has seen and it's a logical enough question to be asked. She might have weighed the pros and cons of your possible answers also.

[–]WesternhagenWinner 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

As part of the licence application they request a signature from the wife to confirm she has no fears of me obtaining the licence.

AYFKM? This can't be happening in the USA. In my state, they don't even ask for wifey to sign off on a concealed carry permit.

[–]Persaeus 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I am going to echo Bogey from another post, thank god for America

USA USA USA USA USA USA USA

Seriously, choosing between your wife and your guns. Get divorced and get your gun.

[–]zeteomegaleio 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It might not seem like it in the moment, but this isn't a bad thing in the long run.

Your gun license is temporarily on hold. Use this as an opportunity to exercise patience. This shouldn't be more than a week or two delay unless you fuck it all up, as I expect something is going to have to give and I'm sure she will eventually want to have "a very serious talk" with you.

Pre-emptive: this is almost certainly not going to be a Main Event.

Do not whine or argue with her about signing the form. Do not let her see that you're pissed - don't give her that power over you. Don't make a shitty comment, don't say anything that shows you are pissed off. Do not let her have any power over your emotions here or she will use this as leverage to manipulate you back into beta behaviors.

What you're missing is that this is all working. If she tries to pull you into a fight about you cheating, you have opportunities to put into practice what you've learned so far.

What do you do with women who are bitchy and shitty to you? Withdraw your attention and affection.

She wants to be a bitch and not sign the form that helps your hobby? Ok, smile and tell her goodbye as you're leaving to go to the gym again. Take it out on the iron for now.

Good wives get attention. Good wives don't sabotage their husband's hobbies.

The more you DGAF, the more you're going to win. You want to be like Jocko here and just respond to everything happening with "Good."

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (5子コメント)

You gonna post everytime she cries or throws out dumb shit?

[–]knowncitizen[S] 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (4子コメント)

If that's what it takes for me to evolve.

[–]edwardhwhite 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Good answer

[–]weakandsensitive 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (2子コメント)

it's a shit answer. replacing mommy with askmrp mommy is a dumb move.

[–]edwardhwhite 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Eventually he learns.

[–]Aaren_Augustine 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not good enough. Don't cheer a fat fuck on because you see his ass running in the morning. Right direction, but wrong place

[–]GargantuaBlarg29Red Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

So she specifically said "I'm not signing this because I think you're cheating." Or did you just hamster that she must not be signing it because she thinks you're cheating?

[–]knowncitizen[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

At first she said it was because of 3 things on the paperwork or lies as she put it. Lie 1. I answered a question about previous alchohol as no. I did this because I never entered the medical system to get sober. I did it myself. Lie 2. I answered no to depression. I never entered the medical system for depression as I was no longer depressed after I got sober. I saw the world in a whole new light and I got angry instead. Lie 3. I put my buddy Dan as a reference as he currently supplies access to my only chances to shoot. She doesn't like Dan cause he steals my time away from her.

When I proved her wrong on the lie crap she decided it was mental instability from alcoholism and she feared for her safety.

[–]weakandsensitive -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm with your wife. I wouldn't sign your form either with the way you're trying to bullshit yourself. You admit you had a problem with alcohol and depression, but rationalize it by "but mah medical systems". christ.

[–]LaLongCarabine 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Mine has her hamster in full gear, went off on me concerning just about everything. Said I thought I was "King Shit". I just smiled and nodded. Then she said I should find somebody else to sleep with because "you think you're hot shit". I smiled again and A&A'd "I'll pick one out of line". Then I went out to my garage to clean from a range trip.

The next morning she rolled over and initiated.

Acta non verba

[–]InChargeMan 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

"No, I don't believe in cheating. (pause long enough for her to think your still her Beta Bitch) When I'm read to start fucking other women I'll let you know."

[–]BrazilRedPill 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Say that you do have a lover. When she starts to complain, say that she is your lover so far, as long as she behaves well in bed.

[–]knowncitizen[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

She's not ready for that. I tried. Semi aggressive response.