"Hey guys"

mixandmatchgirl · 1ヶ月前

You shouldn't be worried about it. They probably assumed your friend is male and used gender "neutral" term. That would be my assumption.

Hugs

dreamsindigital01 · 1ヶ月前

It is pretty standard to hear "hey guys" for any group of people. When I worked in food service I made a special point to always say "hi ladies" to a group of all women and "hi folks" to any other group. Screw conforming.

Myredundancy · 1ヶ月前

This week i was driving 2 friends around.

Friend 1 refered to the both of us as "guys"

Friend 2 said "you mean guy and girl"

Friend 1 responded that he ment it in general, but was glad to change it to something more gender neutral... so changed it to "bitches"

I laughed and was amused and happy with both of em ;)

CoraZin · 1ヶ月前

I get that a lot, and also being called dude. But other women around me call each other guys and dude too.

Kazeto · 1ヶ月前

It's one of those things that feminists, the actual feminists rather than the screaming banshees you can sometimes see, fight against: the casual sexism that nobody pays attention to unless it hits them.

A lot of stuff assumes that men are either “better” or “the default gender”. This “Hey guys” thing is an example of the latter. It doesn't necessarily mean that they perceived you as male, it might just as well simply mean that they used the “default” expression.

SarahMerigold · 1ヶ月前

Guys is gender neutral. After all, no one uses the term gals anymore.

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