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[–]InChargeMan 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

My wife(37y/o) is ripping ass constantly

she had gastric sleeve surgery

through my CPAP machine

You guys sound like a mess...

[–]stonewall1979[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I know. We are working on it. Diet and exercise are not guaranteed to help sleep apnea. I've had sleep apnea since I was a teenager, back when I was thin and in shape. I've been teased by family for a doctor writing "small mouth and enlarged tongue" in my med file after a sleep eval, and called 'window-licker' after that one. It is what it is, I need a cpap or I sleep like shit and risk dying in my sleep.

Took a long time to accept it but I have. My wife has given me shit over it, going as far as tellling me "I woke up pretty horny last night, and I was going to wake you up but saw that thing on your face and decided to go back to sleep instead". Of course like a little bitch, I whined and pussed & moaned obey it and I'm the end just accepted it as my fate.

Now, I'm trying to fix my life and need advice on helping modify this behavior of hers. It's not exactly something you can 'lead' or 'alpha' into her. Since finding MRP, I've tried to withhold my own gas as part off rule 3-don't be unattractive. (1-lift, 2-be attractive) I've gotten better, stronger (threw her in a fireman's carry a few days ago and carried her upstairs), handle her and my kids better, take care of my house and cars, pass a lot more shit test (not all though), started seeing a counselor, and feel a lot better about myself. A while back I said I'm 100% better than I was, but I still have a long way to go to get where I want to be.

As part of my progress, I'm asking for help with this. It bothers me like no other, and just sucks in general, get flirty and tease her and 'ripppp' she lets loose. Not going to even try and fuck that tonight, dont want to get gassed out with a fart on each thrust or chance a shart from her. So I walk and do my own thing when that happens, go to a store, go to my workshop, etc.

[–]maxofreddit 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Get some digestive enzymes, a broad one that includes lipase and protease, two of the big ones for digesting fat and protein, respectively.

Also, you can work with Food Combining, some people think it's a little pseudo-science type stuff, but I have a few personal friends who have seen major changes in their digestive symptoms by addressing the combinations of food they eat.

[–]stonewall1979[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I know she had some probiotics prescribed at one point, I'll have to see if she is using them still or get some new ones.

The food combining looks really interesting. I'll have to read more on it, this is the first I've heard of it.

[–]maxofreddit 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

The easy thing about the food combining is you can start today. You don't have to change what you're eating overall, just when & with what else you eat.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Whole 30 Diet. Make it your lifestyle.

Seriously. It's a motherfucker at first. Now, Ian pain free from chronic Shit like football injuries and I don't snore almost at all.

Wife had gallbladder out 13 years ago. Total silence. Seriously. She is a lot more comfortable. She is losing weight fast too. No fucking excuses about how women couldn't lose weight fast.

Whole 30 is one on many but takes it to a whole new level. Believe it or not I used to eat this way when I met my SO. My sister sees me six months into the LTR and states "what in the Fuck is that ? " pointing at my stomach. I fought it off. And worked my ass off through the years.

Now ? There is no work Just eating what's in tune with me

Guess what - absolutely no sugar. I feel fucking great. I prepp all my lunches and cook most meals. It took about a month. Snoring went away almost completely. Apnea ? My wife has commented Gone. No processed foods or sugar at all. That's all I can equate

You need to cut the mental barrage of low value because of being overweight or her not appreciating all that you do. Fuck her if she can't appreciate it. But most of all fuck you fir not valuing yourself. Wake the fuck up. You are the prize. Fakevit until you make it.

Live your life, crush it. Do things because they have to be done and take pride in what you do. And, she can hop on board, or not.

Dude change the mental Shit and side bar. Get to the gym. You got money somewhere to take care of numero uno. Got it ?

[–]SteelToeShitKicker 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (7子コメント)

You almost got me. I almost answered your question.

Instead, I'm going to ask: Are you worth giving a shit over? Are you worth her changing her diet to please?

You mention that you are aware of things that can help the issue, yet she just doesn't give a crap. Why is that?

[–]stonewall1979[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (6子コメント)

Am I worth it for her to change? NOPE. I'm still a fat faggot, but I'm aware of it and working on it. I am doing body weight fitness at home (no money in our budget for a gym) and I've lost 50lb, with another 75 to go at a minimum. As I said, and say to myself regularly, I'm a fat fuck, but I'm getting my shit together slowly.

Worse yet, she is losing weight due to the surgery which has swelled her ego making her lower my SMV. Like me, she has a ways to go.

Edit, sorry forgot finish. 'Why is that? "You asked. It's simple, I'm not worth it to her. I'm worth a once a month starfish IV/pity fuck to keep the bills paid and food in the frig. Sure, I can fool myself into thinking I'm more valuable than I really am with things like: but all the home & car care have to count for something, and I did laundry & the dishes, I made a chair for your vanity, ran electric, fixed plumbing, took care of your Mom, etc. But it doesn't mean shit to her.

It took a lomg time to adjust my mentality, and recognize my covert contracts, but I'm not doing it for her anymore. I care for my house and cars because its important for me to get to work. I keep on with woodworking because I enjoy it and I like making things. I fixed the electrical because I wanted new decora style plugs and switches. I fixed the plumbing because she's an idiot and clogged the drain with half cooked rice, should have made her snake the drain but it would never get done then. Seriously, that was retarded on her part.

But the point is, I know she doesnt value me as much more than a paycheck and biological babysitter. Hearing "its just my turn" or "add 'with you' after a hard no" in MRP posts just reminds me every time, that I have a lot more work to do. Asking for help is part of my process in becoming a better man. If this were as simple as stfu or drop the contact, I wouldn't ask. I know this is a matter of "she wouldn't fart in front of Chad" but until I reach that level of SMV is there an option or tactic to be used that can help my situation?

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (5子コメント)

Still this the issue is her ass?

[–]stonewall1979[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Yup. Very literally, her ass or gas is the problem. She stinks, and farts regularly and unashamedly. Tonight, she was sitting on the couch and farted, loudly, 3 time in 30 minutes or so.

As I said, I know this is ridiculous. I've teased her about getting her a butt plug or gluing a cork in her to stop it and all she says is "I can't help it, if i hold it, it hurts. We all get gassy, but come on.

[–]FireTemperedred beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Nasty smelly persistent gas, along with belching and gagging, is a side effect of the bariactric surgery. She can't help it. Makes the surgery not very appealing. It can get better over time.

[–]stonewall1979[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I've googled it and had hoped that was a short term side effect. But at 15 months post surgery I'm tired of the lingering stink. Burping and random vomiting I can and do handle easily enough. The gas that could knock a vulture off a week old roadkill carcass has reached the limit of my patience.

If I saw her trying to make kind of move to stop or curb the gas I would be more sympathetic. Try the OTC gas relief pills, try adding a little baking soda in gassy foods, or just avoid those foods, try anything more than leaning over to free a cheek and an half assed apology.

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Hence my sentance. Not the gas, you want her to be considerate to you.

Since you dont seem to be willing to leave over it, its not a deal breaker, so youll just sulk and complain instead.

Hence, are you the kind of guy who can command courtesy? What do you do on this front to have it?

[–]stonewall1979[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You're right, its not a deal breaker and she does have value in other areas. This does boil down to courtesy and I'll have to think about it that way today. Thats really clicked for me, taking it up a level above the physical act to the behavior.

We all know it wouldn't happen in front of Chad, so why do I let it happen in front of me...

I have to pull apart a lawn mower now, but this is going to be in my head the rest of the day. What do I do to get courtesy? I've stepped up my game in a lot of areas in my life, this has been neglected though. Asking politely hasn't worked, talking about options to fix it (diet, meds, etc) haven't worked, walking away hasn't worked (I leave and she just enjoys the solitude). Its obvious she doesn't respect me enough to control this on her own.

Fuck, I feel like a kid who got called on my the teacher, because the teacher knew I was distracted. Doing some physical work should help clear my brain.

Thanks Stoney

[–]BobbyPeru 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Lift, but don't get too gassed where you can't have sex when you become attractive.

[–]Ken_Zinger 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

You guys should get into Dutch ovens.

[–]stonewall1979[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I have a nice 5 quart red one from the Paula Deen Collection, geat for pot roast. Thanks.

[–]BluepillProfessorMod / Red Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I wonder if anal sex would block the gas.

I don't think being polite will do it and if being direct doesn't help it is time to pull out the AMOG. Tell her you are sending her to your room when she rips it in front of you because it is not appropriate. Then when she does it ORDER her to her room. Take her by the hand and lead her to her room. If she doesn't cooperate then I would leave the house for the rest of the day. When she demands to know where you were all day just tell her you needed to get some fresh air.

This is an easy boundary to set because it already violates social conventions and good manners. What would you do if your 12 y/o child ripped it in front of you?