Background - LTR live-in 4 years. Unplugging since December, entered relationship on good terms (independent and fun), but became more of an emotional fag and we eventually started having shitty relationship with lots of arguments and not much fun. Things been going a lot better since December when I found RP. So far I have been lifting, read WISNIFG, NMMNG, Models and have been enjoying a more fun and less bitchy girlfriend. I have been reconnecting with my hobbies and doing more things for me, dealing with shit tests a lot better. Before RP I was insanely deep in her frame and I am still working on getting out of it and being more self focussed.

 

Last night fucked up and need a bit of input on what I could’ve done better.

 

Had an argument (first mistake - should’ve brushed it off and walked away, but felt part justified because I felt like she might’ve crossed a boundary). Situation: was explaining that Dr said I needed a test, so she would have to change her plans to fit. She responded along the lines that there was nothing wrong with me, that I had fabricated an illness and I that I kept pushing and pushing till I found something wrong with me. I got quite pissed off at this as I have had recent surgery, and have had a slight complication, that whilst unlikely, could be dangerous, and therefore I wanted to rule it out. I explained my health is important to me, and posed the question what would you do if it was you?, your family? I felt angry that she didn’t seem to care (AWALT?) - she'd forgot the name of the illness, this made me very pissed off. (I tried not to show it).

 

I said I don’t want to stay here in an argument if you’re going to be moody I’m going to leave. I got my stuff together and drove to stay at my mums. The argument then progressed to her saying “You never care about me, you don’t want to listen to anything when I’ve had a bad day”. This is certainly not the case, pre RP I listened endlessly (she still said I didn't listen), now I let her chat a bit, but change the conversation and laugh about other stuff - she seems to go for this. Anyway, last night I just said if you think that is the case then I’d better go, I left then. (What is she really saying here - I need help translating this into logic.)

 

She texts me “sorry you didn’t think I cared for you” and rang twice, asking where I was. I explained I’d gone home. She said she’d made a mistake calling and hung up. I ignored it - in the past I would've driven back to her, but I didn't feel like playing chase.

 

I was a little butt hurt, perhaps. Less than I used to be, I tried to reign it back and not be too pouty. To be honest, I didn’t really want to be around someone who seemingly didn’t give a shit. Previously I would’ve got my stuff ready to go and made a scene and then backed down (extreme faggot).

 

Please give your input. Particularly how I should’ve handled it better and what is going on when she flips the argument to her saying I don’t care about her?

 

EDIT Should be clear - I am currently sharing her apartment. Yes, I am working on buying my own place right now. I know this is a major fuck up area, that will need to be solved ASAP.