I'll go ahead and assume most comments will be sarcastic in nature, followed by comments of "Just go your own way bro" I however feel your pain. I came here from The Red Pill, which is essentially spinning tires and no traction. I too would like to find a place in my life, settle down, have a family, etc. I picture woman being part of this dream, specifically a wife. However like you've mentioned I can't reasonably get a wife in today's day and age. Threats of infidelity, divorce rape, rape accusations, hypergamy, etc all make me feel like I am better off on the sidelines. I'm not saying I want some push over for a wife either. I want a good strong woman. But the fact of the matter is like you said society has encouraged so much bullshit that now I'm more likely to get assfucked than live happily ever after with my equal. I can't advise the pump and dump route either. My college days were fuckbuddy central. It's unfulfilling longterm and more importantly just fucking dangerous. All it takes is for one of them to spite me or claim something or other and I'm fucked for life, proof not required. Or worse get pregnant, move away and I'll never raise the kid and be stuck with child support until my asshole bleeds. Sadly too say men have bent all they are going to bend without breaking. It's the woman who are going to have to fucking step it up if relationships are going to survive. Marriage is already down huge. It'll continue that way. Men are backing out. My best advice is to just wait. Do what makes you happy. Grow personally. If you saddle up now you likely won't make it to the destination. Its a shitty solution but until the masses of woman get off their fucking high horse and realize that men and woman are inherently different, each with built in strengths, etc then we're like to be in for a long fucking celibate winter my man.