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I Hate Being Attractive to Men (self.RadicalFeminism)

EStarwind が 投稿

I have been chasing the male gaze for so long only to find that I absolutely loathe it.

I have lost a good deal of weight recently, guys have been showing me much more attention than they ever have before; and I find myself in a terrible damn if you do, damn if you don't situation.

I hated my body when my curves were hidden by fat, but now that they're visible, I just feel weak and pathetic every time I see them in the mirror. I hated how unattractive and unfeminine my body looked before and now I hate every single conventionally-attractive, feminine feature of it.

Every time a guy puts their arms around me or starts peacocking, I bristle and want to say, "Get your goddamn hands off of me or "You look like an idiot and I'm not interested".

I am also constantly reminded of how much physically weaker I am than them. To sum it up, I look in the mirror and see a pretty, glorified incubator. The more men look at me, the more I feel my body is not my own, that I am not my own master.

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[–]juustforthis 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (4子コメント)

The way men look at us is truly violating. What they want to do to us is violating. And there are very few restrictions to keep them from doing it. The biggest joke in our society is that beautiful women are valued.

[–]EStarwind[S] 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (3子コメント)

This is what I wish women who think themselves ugly and absolutely despise attractive women would understand. I remember feeling the same way, but then I grew up and realized that we are all suffering under this.

[–]juustforthis 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Male attention is probably the most inherently worthless thing on the planet.

[–]EStarwind[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yep. Or harmful thing on the planet. For all the good you can do with it, there's just as much bad that can be done to you with it.

[–]dharmabird67 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Eventually all women get to the state where I, an ugly woman, have always existed - invisible to men, devoid of value to society, by necessity independent and self-sustaining because nobody will help or support you. At age 40 attractive women have it way worse than me as their looks fade - I instead have had my whole life to get accustomed to it and if anything I give fewer fucks than when I was in my teens and 20s. After moving to the Middle East I experienced, at age 49, overweight, more sexual harassment than I ever have simply for being a woman alone and it sucks. If that's what pretty girls have had to deal with their whole life then no thanks.

[–]Paddywhacker 9 ポイント10 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This sounds like depression or some mental health issue.
You actually hate that which is most basic and natural: physical attraction.
It's akin to saying; i was fat, so I won't eat, now I'm anorexic.

[–]gendersneer 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

There's nothing that's done more to make me appreciate being ugly than seeing how beautiful women get treated. Don't get me wrong—people are routinely awful to me for being ugly—but it's become so clear that it is impossible to exist as a female person in our society without being treated terribly in some way or another.

[–]taimoor2 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I apologize if I am intruding. If you feel uncomfortable answering/talking to me, you can ignore the post.

Do you find males attractive? Do you look at exceptionally handsome/muscular/or just attractive men?

Do other females find you attractive? Do they look at you sometimes? What does that make you feel?

[–]OhFerSure 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

What has to change to make you feel more comfortable with your body, or around men?

[–]EStarwind[S] 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I wish I knew. I honestly don't think I should feel comfortable around a lot of men, so maybe that is part of the problem. Even "mild" complaints women have about the men they date and marry make me want to punch something.