I just want to know for myself if I am capable of getting a woman if I tried to but at the same time I know I shouldn't place so much value on female validation.

Excellent viewpoint, imo.

May I suggest:

1. go to a shop, buy a pack of condoms. Put them into your jacket, wallet, pockets, car, bike, distribute them all over things you wear/use.

(1a) Double check you did numero uno.

1. Then, and ONLY THEN, go out, try to get out of your head for a few seconds, have fun, have a beer or four. Talk to people, approach, be weird and fail. Failure is often the prerequisite for learning by doing. You'll improve and the rest will take care of itself. If/When you get an opportunity you're ok with, don't deny it. You'll be nervous as fuck, it's natural. By opportunity I mean what YOU perceive as an opportunity. You'll know what is right and what is wrong (prolly). Use the condoms you got in point 1 and checked you have on you in point 1a.

2. Don't overhamster stuff, really try to get out of your head and just have fun for yourself. Don't try to impress, you won't. Imo a good way to go about it is emptying your fuckstogive satchel. It will take time, you'll fail, it's ok. The process should take time because of you. If it were up to chicks, you'd be getting maburried asap. DO NOT. Don't fuck unless you feel like it, trust your instinct. If you don't hear your instinct, then train it a little by exposing yourself consciously knowing you WON'T be going out to get laid but to just have fun and talk to people. Lie, mislead, be ambiguous to them and observe them, see how it goes, if that helps.

3. The rest should take care of itself. You can do it, you were born with it.

Also, you already know not to get maburried. Also don't be a phag and take advantage of incapacitated chicks - it's problems down the road, for you, her and others.

If everything else fails, consider pros.