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I haven't raped anyone (self.TrueOffMyChest)

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You invited yourself over. You didn't tell me you were drunk. You consented, and said you were okay with everything I was doing. I made you food because I knew you were hungry. I made sure you were calmed down before we had sex. You consented, and for the most part, took the lead all night.

Your excuse was you, "didn't want it, but didn't want to tell me".

You told everyone you knew that I'd raped you.

You made me need to move, because I started to get attacked at school.

It's so frustrating, because I can't even do anything. We both know I didn't rape you, but you're the one with the power. I also haven't been, and don't want to be forceful, because I know it was a terrible night for you too.

I haven't lost my friends, because they know what kind of person you are. I hadn't lost my teachers support, because they know what kind of person I am.

My only hope is that you realize what you did, and let the guilt stick with you for as long as it needs to until you change. You aren't a bad person, I'm not a bad person. We're just people who make mistakes.

But the way you handled your mistake has hurt me since that day.

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[–]phrasal_grenade 34 ポイント35 ポイント  (0子コメント)

That sucks man. Unfortunately this girl probably won't change... She'll go on being a toxic person the rest of her life. At least you got out of the mess relatively unscathed.

[–]Lastrevio 111 ポイント112 ポイント  (14子コメント)

False accusing of rape should be punished as bad as actual rape.

[–]GOODSHIT_RIGHTTHERE 45 ポイント46 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Exactly. Raping someone destroys this someone's life. False accusations do the same.

[–]Lastrevio 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

:(

[–]AalphaQ 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yeah but they dont offer therapy or support groups for the falsely accused, so the coping is an issue.

[–]ACW-R 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (8子コメント)

Then people who've been raped won't want to speak up if they're not certain they can't prove it happened, or they just won't do it at all regardless because they don't want to be sent to jail for being unable to prove they were raped.

Not a cut-and-dry issue.

[–]deddead3 17 ポイント18 ポイント  (4子コメント)

What if you limit it to only cases where you can prove the accusation is false, not just not enough evidence either way? For examples you have text records from both parties saying something along the lines of the sex was great last night or a similar situation. I've personally been caught in this situation. Not with rape, but sexual harassment. It was enough to clear my name but she still got off completely Scott free

[–]Lastrevio 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

you're even righter

[–]RapeThrowaway7 -4 ポイント-3 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Those texts don't mean anything. I sent those texts to my rapist. I didn't realize that "hey holy shit that was rape" until after speaking to someone about it two months later.

[–]deddead3 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Would there be evidence that would warrant a false accusation charge with rape or sexual harassment? In no way at all am I trying to say that your situation falls under this, but I just want to further discussion.

[–]RapeThrowaway7 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Me saying it was great and we should do it again would probably warrant a false accusation claim, I think. It's such a thin line, false rape accusation laws. Because it is VERY hard to prove someone is lying or telling the truth about that, and it's almost impossible to moderate without fucking over rape victims.

[–]ScottVandeberg 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Your pitting potential victims against already established victims. There are people who are already hurt every single day because of very very common stories of the girl who cried rape. Entire families lives are destroyed simply because of a lie. Rape victims are met with skepticism a lot of the time because of these false accusers. Harshly punishing false accusers is the only way to make rape something to serious too lie about, and fully support real rape victims. It isn't that difficult to make a case that a rape actually happened. Trust that system. We need to stop ruining the lives of young men and their families everywhere.

[–]acox1701 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's very cut and dry. Don't punish unproven rape accusations; that would be stupid. Punish false rape accusations.

No-one gets hits with "filing a false police report" just because they don't convict the guy who mugged them.

[–]Lastrevio -3 ポイント-2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

wait you're right

[–]FarawayMaiden 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Absolutely !

[–]rdmentalist 15 ポイント16 ポイント  (1子コメント)

"You aren't a bad person, I'm not a bad person." No, she's a bad human being.

[–]DidUBringTheStuff -5 ポイント-4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

She should have her vagina filled with cement so she can't ruin any more men's lives.

[–]Seventeenth_Precinct 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (1子コメント)

This is why I videotape every sexual encounter. (Semi-/s)

[–]Reddisaurusrekts 30 ポイント31 ポイント  (1子コメント)

They know you didn't rape them but are telling people you did? They're not a good person.

[–]YOU_FILTHY 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Did you try /r/legaladvice ?

[–]agentf90 26 ポイント27 ポイント  (23子コメント)

stop contributing to rape culture!

j/k man, that's bullshit. Women can say whatever they want, no evidence necessary. Pretty much that way too with kids if you ever get a divorce just watch them pull the stops: "He raped me, he beat me". Fucking joke man.

[–]Golden_Spider666 11 ポイント12 ポイント  (0子コメント)

That's exactly what my mom did to my dad during their divorce. I'm pretty sure that the only reason he got visitation rights at all was because I said to a counselor that I would rather be with him than my mom

[–]butttstuffff 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Let this letter close the issue for you somewhat. I say this only because it's not going to get better. There are no repercussions for this person, and there is no recourse for you. You must just let it go – you were hit by a force of nature. I am truly sorry

[–]everythings_alright 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Might sound stupid, but if I were you, I'd try to secretly record her confession on tape. Put a microphone in your sleeve and talk to her, or something. Then out her in front of all her friends, or go to the police with it.

[–]mother_of_joe_biden 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Depends where you are. In my state for instance using a recording where the person was not aware they were being recorded is illegal.

[–]SentientJelly 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

this same shit nearly happened to my brother. police were involved as well and luckily she retracted what she said. it was stupidly close of it going to a full court case thing too.

[–]Amethyst_Lovegood -4 ポイント-3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Why was it a terrible night for her too? Why did you need to make sure she was "calm" before you had sex with her? And you really didn't know she was drunk?