I've been away for a long while and figured it was time for me to return. I've been training and building my life into what I envisioned after I realized I had some semblance of choice and power over what actually happens around me. I've put in the work to tweak the minor things that comprise my daily functions. I've automated a lot of basics. I've been the oak for a while now. But some of the lessons I've learned this past year in addition to everything I've learned here have been weighing on me. I've had to realize not every other man knows these things. So let me give a brief history of my exploits since I began here so we have a jumping off point.

I started my marriage as a kept man. Everything my wife knew about me was virtue signalling and lies designed to impress her sensibilities. I lied about everything and misled her as to who I was. After we said I do I began to fall apart and crumble. I gained 100 lbs in our first year of marriage, stopped working, knocked my wife up, and then couldn't be bothered to even help her with the kid at all. I completely bullshitted her as to who I really was. Who I really was... was a guy that expected others to handle my shit for me. Who I really was... was a guy that couldn't even hold down a job because I couldn't deal with even constructive criticism. But God dealt me a hand that most of you could only wish for. Basically a unicorn in a sense. A woman not completely governed by her feelings but a code of moral ethics and somewhat solid logic. And she married me, an emotional manipulating do nothing irresponsible piece of shit. I really lucked out being married to her. She's never threatened to leave me or take my kids. She's never tried to control me beyond just wanting to see me take responsibility for the shit that comes out of my mouth and make something of myself. As far as she was concerned she was only gonna be married once and she had resigned herself to us being a sexless joyless bullshit marriage.

The sexless part for me as for many of you was why I ended up here. Dead bedroom eventually brought me here somehow. And around the same time I found out about the ketogenic diet and paleo. And I lost 165 lbs eventually. I started putting in work. Lifting, running, shooting guns, archery, taking tactical combat courses, enlisting reserves, making my wife stay home with the kids, getting promoted at work, and hell I even changed political philosophies. I went from anarcho commie to fucking balls to the wall Capitalist pig and even started my own business. I've also started a men's group and redpilled plenty of men in person. People have asked me over and over how I did that. I lost my fucking job and started my business and stopped caring what people thought about me.

How did I stop basing my value on external validation? I came in here and was honest. So honest it hurt. And did it over and over until it stopped hurting. Whinemoreplease did me a great service. I carried that antagonism that said, "Ego is the enemy, stop being a faggot pussy." I stopped censoring myself. I straight up told my wife what I thought of her shit with no filter. I didn't tailor my words to manipulate people into doing what I want like I was some character on game of thrones or something. I started seeing the truth about how things really work and then spoke plainly about it.

I'm here to tell you that most of the dumb shit in your life is due to you believing some stupid lie about yourself. Most of the things that make you miserable is your truth avoidant attitude. It's the protection of your fragile pointless ego that never did anything for me you but make you a shittier version of yourself. You should hurt every fucking day if you're doing it right. Life is hard for hard men, and we welcome it. Seeking comfort and convenience is not going to lead you down the path to fundamental truths about who you really are. You can pretend to be that person or actually do it but you can't have both.

Once you make that fundamental change, you sit down at the negotiation table with the ability to get what you want as long as you have the balls to walk away from sunk cost fallacy. Once you establish outcome independence it becomes a fun game, instead of a crippling emotional ordeal of life or death. Those of you who are here seeking answers... you can't just pick and choose bits and pieces. If you want that relentless indomitable spirit that comes from actual masculinity, you have to surrender all those comfortable and convenient lies. I've never been in danger of losing my whole family because of my failures. But I was unhappy with who I was. I was unhappy with my dishonesty with myself. But those of you who are on the verge of losing everything... even if you do you can always start over. I'd give up everything I have right now before I would go back to being the idiot I was before I came here. There's value to what is taught here. So shut the fuck up, read the sidebar, and listen louder when the men speak to you.