I'm writing this post as an expansion on a comment I've just made but I feel the point deserves it's own post. As with everything I post, it's all from actual personal life experience, this and observing the world around me.

I don't really care how old you are, in this life you have certain responsibilities. One of these responsibilities is to survive life - Let's just call this winning at life but perhaps not in the American Dream sense of it all. You don't need to be some famous rapper or earn millions or drive a Ferrari.

Instead what you do want to do is at least experience as much of the good side of life that you can, try to make some sense of it all. Never stop being in awe of the miracle of life, try not to end up on the slag heap of life, be at least respected for your character, and not to have too many regrets as you start getting older. Essentially to live a good well rounded life.

You might not immediately relate what I've said to control or being in control so let's continue.

You see life is holistic, everything works together most of the time. Take the weather. A storm system on the west coast will drive a weather pattern on the east side. It's like this with you, your ideas, dreams, practical manifestations of this cannot be isolated from such basic things as your happiness, mental health and physical condition. Everything works together.

Back on topic, one of the most basic skills any man can have is problem solving. In this regard, I've seen some guys who can solve just about any problem you throw at them. Eg: Getting stuck keys out a car without breaking a window or fixing a washing machine. Consider that many of these tasks do not strictly involve any more dexterity than you possess, neither do they require tons of brute force strength, one can argue that it is "The know how" that makes the difference. Many guys just argue this away as a form of practical intelligence and some guys who aren't as handy will come up with excuses to justify their lacking skills. Eg: I grew up without a father, that's why I can't take care of this shit. Or I never actually tried, or I'm good at other things, we can't all be good at everything. And while these points might have some truth to them, they're certainly not the deciding factor.

This is all about CONTROL. But before we get there, let's talk about mindsets and confidence. One thing I've noticed is that when a truly handy man fucks something up (which happens all too often), people are way more forgiving. When some 1/2 handy cunt destroys something due to his shoddy work, people are critical. When both do the same job exhibiting the same quality - the handy guy gets more credit. Why is this? Some will say this is all dependant on how the guys marketed themselves and the perception others have of them. What I'm saying is it all originated with the mindset which will exude the confidence which will lead to the perception. Don't short circuit this and try and emulate that confidence without the mindset, likewise don't focus on self promotion and marketing at all! That will happen automatically for you in a natural way. Don't believe, know you can - in the matrix sense of it all.

And it's not just about fixing shit. It's about everything you do in life. Be that work, goals you set (eg: you might want to drop some weight), you can apply this to finance, pretty much anything. The relationships you have and the friends you keep.

Now let's get to the heart of it. When you feel out of control in your life, eg: When a woman is sitting on your head telling you what to do at home, what to eat, how to dress, when you consult her like you're asking for her approval on everything you do from what underwear you will sleep in, to how fill the dish washer can get. It will fuck up your internal confidence and it will take years to fix this. You can throw away any hope of the good shit I spoke about above, if you are completely cucked like this.

Remember I said life was holistic? Next time you're at work, the decision makers and the ones who seem to be respected, even if they're not managers, compare these to the mindless followers who go along with everything to keep their jobs. Now ask yourself, can you spot the cucks? You simply cannot take a complete cuck who's been under a womans thumb totally dominated by her, and expect that cuck to lead a company to success or even have any real responsibility that involves creative original thought to pull off.

I know I was married, I was exactly the cuck I'm describing above, and it really fucked with my mind. You know it took me a full 2 years after my divorce to get uncucked to the point where I started fully seeing the full potential of life? Like right now, who is to say I can't have a Jacuzzi in my room? I don't have to ask anyones permission to make that shit happen, well do I? Try pulling that shit off cucked. And I can see how being uncucked flows holistically to other areas of my life. The respect I'm getting from RL contacts now reminds me of the time prior to my marriage. I never thought I would get any of that back.

Remember human brains are incredible, resilient and can bounce back from many scenarios and adapt, but they're also lazy, prone to procrastination, defensive and WILL seek out patterns.

So the TLDR: Don't hand over power of your will, ideas and creativity to a woman, and if you're not strong to understand the value of the above, rather hang back from women in general until you fully get it and the importance of why you need to be in control of your own shit and faculties.

Just do this and you should survive life!