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I fucked up. I should've listened to you all. (self.MGTOW)

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So I fell in love. Yeah, I know. She lived long-distance. We had a great playful relationship over the phone and through Skype.

Last week, she moved in. Travelled across the country with her 2 cats and moved in.

I won't go into details but after the past 2 weeks, I wish I had listened to all of you MGTOW.

  1. I have no alone time. Literally. I work from home and require lots of concentration and alone time in order to get my research-based work done. She works from home too, but basically isn't disciplined AT ALL and will go in and out of her work all day, trying to talk to me, have sex, have me cuddle her. (I'm not opposed to sex, but I have bills to pay) If I tell her I'm busy and have work to do, she gets upset, freaks out all day and then we have a long talk where she tells me how unwanted she feels.

  2. My smallish apartment is now full of decor and shit that I would never put here. I'm a proud minimalist--I don't like "stuff".

  3. Her cats are waking me up every single goddamn morning. I've been getting 5-6 hours of sleep, which for me, isn't enough to perform my best.

  4. She shifts from grown woman to little girl in a few seconds, and is unknowingly trying to emasculate me. Her biggest problem is that I "talk harshly". Last night, my "harsh talk" was trying to end a conversation so I could go to bed early because I was tired.

  5. There's overall no consideration for my space or time. I could write it out but you MGTOW know exactly what I mean.

This is the second week and I already feel like this is the lowest point I've hit in my life. I'm angry, a little sad, frustrated with myself, and cannot believe I how low my productivity has been in the past week since I've been dealing with her constant whining, shifting moods, and criticism of the fact that I have work to do. I have the worst taste in my mouth, and frankly, don't even feel like fucking her.

Guys, please listen to the MGTOW message. I was down with it, swallowed the Red Pill a few years ago and drifted away from it. Having my girlfriend move in is the dumbest move I've ever made.

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[–]Solado25 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Don't worry bro, men don't tend to do the "told you so". We pick each other up, yeah you made a mistake. So what?

You need to be calm, protect yourself first. Then assets. Then ask her to leave.

[–]OcculusResurrectio 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Exactly. Most of us have been there too. Ive made this mistake twice, which hopefully is enough for me to have finally learned my lesson.

[–]Terribledragon4Hire 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

As a married guy, this is your life now. It will continue to change to. Generally not for the better for you either.

[–]Marque01 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

If I had to guess, she probably burned her bridge heading to you, so 'sending her back' will be a problem due to her self-sabotage. That's just a theory, but I'm guessing she monkey branched to your place because something terrible was going down where she was. Blaming you for upsetting her is a shit test. She wants you to be trained to bite your tongue and let her get away with all the shit she wants to.

You have one thing backwards. She's not going from adult to child in seconds. She IS a child that pretends to be an adult. You're seeing the mask fall off.

Try this approach "So I was thinking. Maybe you should get the fuck out" and just leave it at that :)

[–]phreshstart 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thanks for refreshing our beliefs trough your mistakes. Don't move in with a woman, it works only in Disney movies. Also worth mentioning that after 2 years of living together she has the same rights as if she's married with you... meaning she can divorce rape you without actually marrying you.

[–]nemosolder 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

she is crazy enough to move across the country. she is liable to do anything treat her with kid gloves and watch your ass! never stick your dick in crazy (grasshopper)

[–]LibraryGuyMGTOW 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Dude what can I say?
You fell for the NAWALT scenario but at least you woke the fuck up after a few weeks and not years.
Get her out any way you can even if you have to pay for her and her shit to travel from whence she came.

This vid will remind you that NAWALTS don't exist.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OhGrSJJZo0s

[–]hackableyou 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You need to decide to either end it or work out the problems. It sounds from your post that you would like to end it. Just do it and get it over with. If I read that wrong and you would like to keep her, then you need to talk with her and come up with a plan and boundaries. Like don't come in this room during these times and I will give you attention during those times and I will talk to you less harshly and we need to get rid of the cats.

[–]casra888 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

"Unknowingly"??? KNOWINGLY!!! Kick her out NOW!!! Do not believe the tears!!! OUT NOW!!!

[–]mercwithamagicsword [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

Ugh, the "harsh talk" thing brings back nightmares. I remember saying one time "We need ketchup" to myself, my wife at the time overheard the remark and felt it was an assault on her homemaking abilities. Run Dude.