There's a repeated theme of my wife looking for attention from other guys on social media. I've verbally established that I'm not cool with it but she continues to find new unique ways to press it.

I realize that my insecurity made this a bigger problem than it should've been in the past. I'm not worried about cheating anymore, if I find out it is what it is, can find better and hotter, AWALT, just my turn, etc. What I'm concerned about is this seems the disrespect and violation of a verbal boundary. Relationship has improved immensely since MRP, body and frame is on point, been fucking daily lately. I don't see a hard nuke in play here or ultimatum that I wouldn't carry through on, I can't see myself being okay with breaking up the family over something silly like attention seeking.

Disrespect examples

Instance 1: She was liking former fuck buddy's instagram pictures. I told her I wasn't cool with it, she agreed to stop.

Instance 2: I found out she was Snapchat "best friends" with same fuck buddy, same "resolution" as #1.

Instance 3: She liked the picture of mutual friend's flexing gym picture, I took the phone and showed me unfriending him for her.

Instance 4: Happened just now. She showed me a message from BIL on snapchat, so they've recently added each other. This is after instance 2 where I told her I didn't want her being snapchat friends with any guy who would find her attractive. She agreed this was fine.

All of these guys are taken, it's all "innocent" but I find it extremely disrespectful especially through the progression of it all.

In the past, I've nuked and hard nuked her taking too much time to get ready and a few instances of her hitting me. Neither of those have happened since.

What am I missing here? Ideas?