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How do you guys stay faithful?? (self.marriedredpill)

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I find it so hard after being with someone for a while to stay faithful. I miss the chase. I love new pussy. I love starting over. I have a woman in my life who I always come back to. We have been off and on for 4 years now. Whenever I go to partying and plating women my life becomes a mess, I fall into addiction and spend reckless amounts of money and my life goes no where good. When I settle down with her she makes my life better and I want to have children and a family one day with her. I've been with over 100 women (seriously) and she's the only one that lasted the test of time.

But the dog in me won't leave. Especially since I got jacked. I have hot coworker, women on social media. Etc all trying to Fuck me. I used to fuck new women every week. Now I'm finding it hard to adjust to settling down but it's what's best for my life. She in no way will allow me to fuck on the side. And since I can't do it I've almost been obsessing about it. To the point I'm losing interest in sex with her. And craving other female attention. Maybe if she would come home and randomly blow me like she used to. But the distance is causing her not to. Because I'm putting up on my end. Lifting, money, etc. maybe I'm missing something. I'd rather try to fix this than leave her.

How do you guys do it when shit get stagnant. I see a chick with a Fatass in yoga pants and all I can think about is fucking the Shit out of her like I'm a 13 year old with his first boner. I'm sure you guys deal with this type of thing on the daily

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[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR 16 ポイント17 ポイント  (17子コメント)

Lets look at all your problems:

  • Validation Seeking
  • Attention Seeking
  • Covert Contracts
  • Lying to yourself
  • Overestimating your SMV
  • Failure to set and follow goals

You want to cheat because its how you validate yourself and holding that covert contract that she should magically suck your cock because she doesn't know about all the pussy you didnt run up in.

[–]Rollo-TomassiMANOSPHERE ICON [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

Is it validation or is the guy just finally actualizing a sex life that was denied to him while he was Blue Pill?

It's a hallmark of a BP mindset to presume men want to get laid for some deeper problematic reason than the biological urgency to fuck a hot woman. When you get a hard-on after looking at a Playboy centerfold is it because that image satisfies some psychological need, or is it because that's what your mental firmware evolved you for – efficient reproduction?

The FI would love nothing more than for men to pathologize their own sexuality. It helps constrain and limit them to be more useful tools to service women's sexual strategy.

https://therationalmale.com/2012/07/27/pathologizing-the-male-sexual-response/

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

I am going for validation because he is using cheating as a method to get what he wants from his sex life. Not solving the problem, but actually pushing it further down the road wherein he repeats the cycle. Of course we all want to fuck hot women, but doing it from the frame of "wife doesnt suck my cock so i am going balls deep in a barfly" is not ideal. Almost all of the men who come here could have sex with other women, in the process of blowing up their life, with little to no problem. There is pussy out there for every kind of man. Today is different for me. When I fuck other women it comes from a frame of getting what I enjoy in life.

[–]slurmfactory 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

How is he lying to himself, I am curious?

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I was pretty clear on this in my reply. Covert contracts and validation seeking.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (12子コメント)

I don't think that's the reason she should suck my cock. The reason is I'm jacked. I make good money and take good care of her. Support her and force her to better her self.

Those problems are pretty valid. I do seek attention but don't we all? I'm looking to fix that. How do you go from putting your self worth to how good you are at getting pussy to switching away from that to something more meaningful when pussy means so much to you for so long and it's something you're good at

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (10子コメント)

That's a pretty good assessment. Find the things missing in your current sex life and fix that. Fix up the rest of your life and when you have laid out your MAP and met most of the goals. Take a second look at cheating. Right now its a want. Is the reason for cheating the same or is now strange something you need. When you cheat because you want to, and not to put off life's other problems then I think you are going to have a different outlook on this.

/u/firetempered /u/olderpiller /u/rulezerodad and /u/over60_stupid_loner have written extensively on this subject.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Okay thank you

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (8子コメント)

I want her to come home rip my pants off and start sucking my dick. I communicated that to her once and she did it for a while but now she got lazy. Is this something I should communicate with her

[–]stonepimpletilistsHARD CORE NAVY RED 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (4子コメント)

What does she get in return, other than your beta providor abilities that won't make her wet?

[–]Bulk_king11[S] -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I'm jacked. I push her to better herself. I make her cum. And she knows women want me. What else should she get in return

[–]stonepimpletilistsHARD CORE NAVY RED 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

DEVI. you're thinking about what YOU want, and projecting it into her. If you want her to be your whore, you have to add a little game to your skillset.

[–]Coniferous_88 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

"What else should she get in return" Good question- read this:

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/5yejxu/most_mens_masculine_ideal_is_not_alpha/

But the short answer is this: FEELZ

Her 'feelz' is why AWALT. The same reason a SAHM with an attractive wealthy beta husband will bang the broke 'loser' with no career and a criminal record- he made her feeeeeel something. If you bore her, her pussy dries up. If you improve yourself and hold a covert contract that now that you're 'jacked' she should give BJs on the auto, her pussy dries up. Your expectations about what should make her wet and what actually makes her wet aren't calibrated. Think about how little sense it makes that some women flock to guys that treat them like total shit....again, feelz. You just need to figure out how tap into her emotions and then do that...lots.

[–]TurduckenII 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

OP this is important. The high water mark of an LTR couple is usually before marriage, if there is marriage. Meaning that even if you aren't married, sex usually doesn't get more frequent than it did at the beginning of the relationship, in the honeymoon phase. It almost never increases beyond that, and also rarely remains constant at that point either. The hard part about MRP is keeping mutual sexual enthusiasm and novelty at its highest rate through self improvement to the point where effort becomes effortless, and genuine IDGAF and attitude changes result from purposeful self improvement.

Your life was supposedly all over the place with drugs, partying, plating, and spending money. This is the Chad way of doing things. Chad is not healthy and does not have good long term goals, but oh man is he fun for a while! That's why it was easy for you to plate new women and have your main LTR give it up hard for you.

If you have even a modicum of knowing what you are doing, of course you stand a chance at short term hookups. That's why you keep getting IOI's. MRP is on hard mode, because it's harder to sustain consistent sexual interest in an LTR. Don't expect that just because you think new women have an interest in you that it's the same level of difficulty (or that you have the same SMV) as required to get the same from your main.

What's good for you and human development in general, is consistently putting in hard work and making healthy decisions. But that's boring! It dries up the pussy. It doesn't give her feelz. Feelz might be wild and crazy but they drive passion in the relationship.

How can you give her more feelz without fucking up your own life too much?

[–]Rollo-TomassiMANOSPHERE ICON [スコア非表示]  (1子コメント)

How much better would it be if she already knew that's what she should do? And how much better would it be if she were motivated by genuine desire to do so? By directly communicating this to her you've set an obligation and negotiated her real desire to do so.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

So what's the solution?

If I initiate sex and get her off she will do anything to me. Willingly. But I'm always Fucking horny. I want it all the time. So when she's not around I lust. And when she doesn't do the freaky shit I watch in porn I wish she would. Maybe I need to lay off the porn but like I said. I'm always horny. I take testosterone so I'm constantly like a 12 year old with his first hard on. Given the amount of years I spent perfecting my game and practically getting any woman I wanted. It's a bad combination given that's what I was so conditioned to

[–]Chump_No_More 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I communicated that to her once and she did it for a while but now she got lazy. Is this something I should communicate with her

There is nothing wrong with stating expectations. Stating more than once quickly becomes negotiating desire and we all know that the best you get from that is 'obligated compliance'.

An alpha man wants genuine desire from his mate. If you're not getting Alpha Tells from your wife then the short answer is you still have work to do... it's your job to figure out where.

If you genuinely have your shit together and you're getting external confirmation... IOI's, strange, beautiful women handing you unbidden phone #s, etc... then you should be ramping up your dread levels.

Still nothing? Time to move on.

[–]slurmfactory 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm in the exact same boat man. I think it's just part of relationships that you have to be mostly equal and accept that even if you have a very high value of yourself, which you seem to derive from societal implications (fit/ "jacked", can get unlimited women if you want, have a good job and all the things you feel make you so high quality that she should be sucking your dick/ treating you like a king, etc), even if you have all that it's gonna change when the relationship endures like it has, and you are still the man deep down you have always been.

I'm the same way, I've been married almost a year after just being a tinder-fiend and getting average but fuckable, to hot girls in unlimited quantities. I would just invest in myself and do whatever the fuck I wanted. Work, gym, get high play video games with bros all night/ play sports/ go out to bars/ go to concerts/ play with my multiple bands/ go on online dates, and then all of a sudden I'm married to a Brazilian after like 16 months.

I've had a lot of inner turmoil about it, especially when she is constantly fighting cuz she wants to spend 100% of our time together, and I am not used to that after being single but successful with dating for so long. (I was a beta newb til about college then have had ups and downs but got to where I wanted to be esp. in terms of dating lots of top, attractive women so not forever successful in that sense.)

The first two months I got with her and decided I wouldn't fuck around with others because I was interested, I was talking to so many women all the time, and had maybe 7 booty calls in that period from women, including two girls calling me at 230 am to meet them at a hotel (had to wake up for a huge work event at like 5am so my only 3some opportunity didn pan haha).

Anyhow, enough about me, I'm just saying its a huge fucking adjustment and I feel your struggle, as I am in the same boat. The sex was incredible and nonstop then now it goes through phases of being really good then just not happening (i had the flu for 2 weeks recently and we didnt fuck for another week after that and it just felt terrible and I was becoming extremely dissatisfied til we did and it got good again.) But its hard man. It's a whole lot easier to just not give a fuck about a relationship, do whatever you want all the time, and fuckin slay at life, but then like you said, we both become addicts, party and smoke weed and drink wayyy too much, have risky sex, stress out etc.

But then we get deep into monogamy and its like wtf this is a pain in the ass. This AM she is on her first full day of period and is just fighting me for the dumbest reasons (she is mad a band wants to take me out to dinner for 1-2 hours to discuss future gigging stuff,) when we have literally 6 nights in a row of just us, including the entire weekend. "Fine just hang out with them all weekend, do whatever you want." 1-2 fuckin hours?!?!

This post is a lot for me because I feel your struggle and I'm trying to decide how to approach this bs shes throwing at me. Keep frame and do what makes me/ you happy I think is the best move. Be the strong leader, be awesome and fuck the hell out of her and she will love you for it. It's hard to be that way all the time though, and I have been feeling real shitty lately so I get real irritable and annoyed at her and it makes her feel worse and blow up at me and the cycle gets fucking frustrating when I just wanna do "me" 24/7. Especially hard living in this area where I grew up and know 1,000s of people who invite me to do things, and she is new to the area obviously from Brazil, so the whole thing is just a whole fucking lot to deal with.

I got a ton of validation from getting girls, going out and being successful socially etc, so I understand that feeling of something being missing. What is life now if it's not playing shows and fucking hot girls and working out and going home and hitting bowls and playing vidya games all night and shit? Bed Bath and Beyond?

Helping the chick out with all of their many problems, because we're men and can handle all this shit easier... I dunno man. The answer is tough. "Cant live with em, cant live without em" I guess. I think the whole "validation seeking/ attention seeking" points are very valid, but not sure how you are "lying to yourself."

So I'm on here today trying to find similar answers, yet again. Let me know what you find out.

[–]UEMcGillMarried- MRP MODERATOR 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

We have this discussion once a month or so. Strange is fun as Fuck. Some hot 27 year old who will do anything, or a SAHM who's husband doesn't meet her kink fantasy? Fuck yeah it's awesome. But in the end they all have the ability to go AWALT if your frame sucks or your a pretend alpha. Find me a super model, and I'll find you a guy who's sick of fucking her.

Redpill is amoral,anx rule zero is paramount.

What is your mission and why is it failing?

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (19子コメント)

Not all of us are. Who am I to judge?

Abundance mentality is about pursuing what you want with multiple avenues to that goal. RP is an amoral sexual strategy. For many, sex with one woman makes little sense.

Personally, I enjoy fucking my wife and knowing I can fuck other women quickly if the want arises. But I'm one man, and not all men. To each their own, or own+.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (18子コメント)

Do you tell her?

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (17子コメント)

One thing I've told others, and I firmly believe in, is that true abundance mentality does not come dishonestly.

If you game while in a relationship, every woman you meet and intend to close should know of her status up front. If you choose to tell of your side actions to your main girl, be prepared for the consequences. If the outcome matters to you, and the loss is affecting and unexpected, you are not ready to tell her.

What do you want? Until you can answer that in ten words or less, LTRs are not for you.

[–]slurmfactory 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (11子コメント)

"What do you want" is tough when you want everything/ to have your cake and eat it, are borderline narcissistic, etc. I want fucking everything, I always have... seems the mods at least, here have a clear mission and I gotta figure out mine again after it gets cloudy...

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (10子コメント)

You need to remember that MRP skews older, so many of us have high n-counts, graduate degrees, and established careers. Owning your shit is pretty easy when accountable only to yourself. It's one of the reasons why TRP does not advocate marriage.

What a man wants usually changes many times in life, so if you want to slay different pussy nightly, go ahead and make sure that doesn't fuck up your life.

A better question, the one you should be asking yourself, is what Portuguese curse did Mamacita put on you to catch such a strong case of Oneitis?

[–]slurmfactory 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (9子コメント)

Thanks for response. Not sure what you mean by skews older? I have high n-count, grad degree, semi-established career (kind of a jack of all trades, working for my successful lawyer father at the moment doing a variety of stuff making ok money 52k plus in bands with some paid gigs to help out here and there.)

Fuck up my life? Hmm, I was pretty fucking happy when I was single (altho grass is greener I had some dark phases of depression, some borderline deadly hangovers haha, many trips to STD doctor after unprotected one night stands freaked me out.) and now im arguing with Mamacita about nonsense, on her first day of her period, and she is mad I suggested I meet up with a band for 1-2 hours to discuss future (paid) plans, during our "weekend of just US" aka tues to sunday spending every free moment with her (i usually have several other nonrelationship things a week/ weekend.) and its just annoying as fuck to have to argue over how I spend my time/ life while she hamsters and rationalizes everything she does (until she usually snaps out of it and apologizes etc).

Sad thing is, I've had brutal oneitis but I have an abundance mentality with this relationship. I know I could easily get more women and go back to the promiscuous lifestyle without skipping a beat, but I guess I'm more scared to hurt her, just fear breaking up for some reason (first real relationship that has lasted almost 2 years, most were very short and intense and terrible before). The fear of knowing if I break up with her she will move back to Brazil and I will never see her. That's the spell I guess. The intense affection and loving, good sex, fear of loss, "satisfaction" providing her help she desperately needed to get her life on track, which she is and is now working for a great company and about to start grad school (shes 25/ im 31) and all that since we got married.

What did your mamacita do to you, or how do you feel its different I guess since I believe you mentioned being married. Thx

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (6子コメント)

Married 17 years with kids. I'm your dad (in description, not literally, or maybe? Son, is that you?).

I was a consistent self-focused player who came across a woman who was his physical, sexual and intellectual match and wanted, but didn't need to be with me. I got sick and unattractive, which brought out her worst AWALT properties, and I was looking for reasons why, which led me to MRP.

Have you suggested that she take up some activities, or has she intimated that a baby might help "keep her company?" You also need to get busier.

By skews older, I mean most guys in MRP are not the jaded kids found in TRP, where most relationship advice is NEXT!

[–]Bulk_king11[S] -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (5子コメント)

Exactly most of the men here ARE older and don't have women throwing themselves at them or many options like they once did. So it's so easy for them to say "you just don't do it, keep your word" when they don't really have many other options anyway

[–]Aechzen 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Whatever dude. You're on a thread with guys who are powerlifters and guys who have girlfriends alongside their wife. I, and others like me, have women flirt with us while we wear our wedding ring, and while we are out with our kids. I'm 36, my girlfriend is 28. I had two dates with other women in 2016, while working full time and raising two kids, and keeping it all from the wife. I'm doing just fine, thank you very much.

I'm not faithful. I made it nine years of marriage plus while we were dating after we declared we were exclusive before I went outside my marriage. My wife has depression issues and takes SSRIs. They fuck over her libido and make it damn near impossible for her to cum.

Your whole post reeks of your inability to see the forest for the trees. You're not special. You're a guy who is above average attractiveness, and needs to decide whether he wants to stop slaying the pussy for the purposes of locking down this particular pussy.

TRP would say don't marry. I would say you're not ready for marriage if you have to keep asking this question. I don't know how old you are, but I think you're probably still in your twenties by the questions you ask. You're SMV will probably not peak for a few more years. You've already said your lady won't do an open marriage. She's not the right lady for you, and you're not ready. End it. I'll give you the line you use: "It's not you, it's me." And after you end it, lose her number, stop seeing her around town, stop fucking her, stop coming back to her.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Straight forward and to the point. I like it. Yes I'm in my 20s. 27. And no at the moment I'm not looking to be married but I also don't want to end it. Honestly. It's not oneitis. I've left her before. It was a an honest decision that my life is better with her around. Besides the fact I'm addicted to Fucking random women.

That's why I'd rather try to fix that because at the end of the day that lifestyle eventually becomes less fulfilling for me. I really want children and she's the only girl I have even considered that I would actually want to be the mother of my children. That isn't saying I'm going to do it at this point in my life. But I'm looking for the future and goals. That's why I'd rather try to fix myself then just end it with her because I miss banging easy sluts I don't have to deal with after.

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Your Sidebar is showing.

Read what happens to a man's SMV when he ages, then write something cogent. The troll accusations are starting to build credence.

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Skews older means an overwhelming majority of our members are north of 30 years old.

[–]darla10 -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Do you tell your wife?

[–]RuleZeroDADMRP APPROVED 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I've never strayed. That is a deal-breaker for both of us.

Part of expecting respect for boundaries is recognizing reasonable ones from other people too.

[–]bogeyd6MRP MODERATOR 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

slow clap

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

And she's okay with you Fucking other women?

[–]Blunter-S-Thompson 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Perfectly stated.

[–]addictedtoyourfaceUnplugging 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I find it so hard

First off, you need to embrace difficulty. You want something good it's going to be hard, so no more bitching about how hard it is. We all know it's hard, and your "hard" is a cake walk compared to some of the other guys here.

Whenever I go to partying and plating women my life becomes a mess, I fall into addiction and spend reckless amounts of money and my life goes no where good.

I don't need to say much about this. You know this is fucking you up...stop it.

When I settle down with her she makes my life better

Big problem. You need to learn how to "feel better" without a woman.

She in no way will allow...

...allow? Is she your mother?

You got a lot of work to do homie. You fucking a lot of bitches don't mean fuck all here.

[–]RPAlternate42MRP-Approved 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Cheating is just for sex... as an alternative to sex with your wife when she has exercised her right of first refusal one-too many times.

Monogamy is sexual exclusivity for sexual access.

If she refuses sexual access then she loses her right to exclusivity; if she won't fuck me, then I get to find other ways to fuck.

For me, "sexual access" is between two interested people. If she is starfishing on the regular, then I'm taking that as passive refusal; refusal isn't always "no."

I still follow the 12 stages of dread and since I've been at this RP stuff for over 2 years and married for over 16, I tend to move through the stages at about 2 weeks per stage -I don't have time for bullshit anymore. I already had a near nuke in the marriage for very explicitly-stated reasons and I won't have it again.

Your problem is that you have covert expectations about what she should do.

Maybe if she would come home and randomly blow me like she used to

Maybe if you just took her, when she got home, and initiated with her, she would. She can't refuse if you don't offer the option. Right now you are upset because she is refusing something you never even requested and taking it as a proxy refusal. So she used to do that for you, now she doesn't.

You can't control what she does, but you can create an environment and atmosphere where those things could happen, and you can definitely take her by the hand, put her hand on your crotch and tell her to unzip your pants. And if she says "no," you separate your time and attention from her. If she continues this pattern of refusal, maybe one night you aren't around when she expects that you would.

But now we are just talking about the 12 stages of dread again. Maybe you should read about those.

[–]Coniferous_88 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I found this post fucking excellent... pure gold. Internalize this OP- you have to lead the sexual dynamic of the relationship.

[–]alphabeta49MRP-APPROVED 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (7子コメント)

Value, man. Does the value she add to my life outweigh my desire for strange? Sometimes it does. Sometimes it doesn't. I have a rule: if I can bed a sane, beautiful, fun woman, with excellent logistics and plenty of plausible deniability, and it falls into my lap, I'll go for it. But since I've been working on myself so much, starting a business, putting more effort into my growing kids, yada yada... I'm not interested in cheating because I'm simply too busy.

Cheating is exhausting. I would continue only if I was addicted to the validation. Sounds like maybe you have an issue with that, if I'm reading between the lines correctly ("plating women my life becomes a mess, I fall into addiction and spend reckless amounts of money and my life goes no where good").

Being masculine doesn't mean uncontrollably sticking your dick into anything that gets it hard enough. Masculinity is first realizing your manhood then harnessing it to accomplish huge things with your life.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I like this. Hits home the best. I can tell with my career I'm extremely bored. The time I spend cruising IG lusting over hot girls. And texting snapchating them in this time. I need to fill my time better.

Also the validation part is spot on. My whole life I put so much effort into getting any girl I wanted. That it became an obsession. And what I probably base most of my self worth on

[–]alphabeta49MRP-APPROVED 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

I need to fill my time better

Fuck, yeah you do. Get off social media altogether, it's fake and makes you a mindless consumer. You'll find out how much time you were truly wasting, and it'll drive you absolutely insane until you find something else to do with your life.

Fuck man, I'm reading your other responses on here... you're not ready for MRP. You're not owning your shit. You're asking, what do I do with this raging boner guyz?!?!

Have you no control? Have you no mission? Have you no goals besides women? You know what we say to guys who make women their mission, right?

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yep and that has always been my mission for years. I need to get away from that. I'm slowing making progress

[–]TurduckenII 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Running away from making women your mission is still making women your mission, just in the negative.

Can you mention some of the things you want out of life and career? Do you want to be a manager at your job? Do you want to be independent and set your own hours? Do you want to travel frequently? Do you want to be an ideas man and generate creative content? All of these are great things to consider for your MAP.

What do you do when you're not trying to fuck, lifting, or earning money? It doesn't have to be too regular if you're busy, but there's more to life than being busy. Are you spiritual? Do you meditate? Do you enjoy camping or the outdoors? Do you play any sports other than lifting? Are you into languages, gaming? What else is going on with you?

Look deep into your past if nothing comes up. What could get more attention? What could you try to do again? What always fascinated you as a kid?

[–]ReddJiveMRP Approved 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

validation. Sounds like maybe you have an issue with that

Sums it up right there. It's the bane of every new guy that comes on here. Lack of sex is what brings them, rightly so. But soon you find that isn't the issue at all.

[–]alphabeta49MRP-APPROVED 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

So I work in addiction counseling. And 99% of the time, the addiction is only the symptom. Addiction forms when people want to escape from a harsh truth, but the escape method chemically, mentally, and emotionally traps them.

There is a pretty universally-held theory that the age at which someone starts using is the age they stop maturing emotionally.

On the flip side, when they get sober, there's usually a ton of underlying personality and character issues that surface that cause more problems for themselves. These problems, which by definition prevent them from handling problems maturely, lead them to relapse.

I really relate to these clients because I understand how easy it is to lie to ourselves when things get tough. By being honest with myself, I've come to realize just how much shit I have to work on. Sexual relations are just a symptom.

[–]ReddJiveMRP Approved 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

agreed.

I often find that people are stuck in time at a moment. They are literally reliving some glory days they once had.

In many ways that's what I was doing. Stuck right at a moment and trying to get it back.

[–]DeplorableRay 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I've had submissions rejected for less than this bullshit. Do you even lift bro?

[–]BobbyPeru 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Trolling. It's not just for breakfast anymore.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Yea not trolling. You people who come on these post and write "trolling" because it wasn't written how you would like it to be are the corniest people. No ones coming to the married red pill to troll writing this type of stuff quit being a dick

[–]j_arbuckle2012 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

This is some shitty trolling.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Yea not trolling. You people who come on these post and write "trolling" because it wasn't written how you would like it to be are the corniest people. No ones coming to the married red pill to troll writing this type of stuff quit being a dick. And offer something of value instead

[–]FireTemperedMRP APPROVED 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (5子コメント)

How Do I Stay Faithful??

I wear a stainless steel Remington Chastity Belt. $199 from Amazon. Be sure to order the Depends to match.

[–]addictedtoyourfaceUnplugging 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

$199??? I got ripped off.

[–]FireTemperedMRP APPROVED 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I had to join Prime. But it was worth it.

Now I live in an absolute Disneyland in my marriage. My wife is so happy.

She says someday she will give me a BJ, and sex too!

Only problem, I gave her the key. She can't seem to find it, and we are scheduled for sex week after next.

Maybe you should not give your wife the key like I did.

[–]Bulk_king11[S] -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Agree and amplify. Cute

[–]FireTemperedMRP APPROVED 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I have passed your shit test. Now we have sex? :)

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    [–]redmountainpill 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

    I'd say that you're not in a position to have a monogamous relationship right now. You can't take care of yourself while single, it's not like being married will magically fix your problems. I don't like to recommend therapy for most guys, but your problems are deeper than any MRP program can handle. Might have sex addiction. Definitely have other addictions. I went through addiction therapy and it definitely helped me gain insight into my life.

    [–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

    Did you do a 12 step program or one on one therapy

    [–]redmountainpill 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

    I did a group program. I tried 12-step but didn't like it. I also did personal therapy. What helped me most was personal therapy, MRP, and a period of abstinence to reset my circuits

    [–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    That's good to hear bc I really don't like NA. I have tried it but I can't stand those meetings

    [–]alphabeta49MRP-APPROVED 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    Addiction counselor by trade here. You have to customize your recovery to your needs, personality, intelligence level, etc. Do what works for you.

    [–]logger1234 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    fear of hell.

    Or, more accurately, a unwillingless to reject the authority of a righteous God.

    you asked.

    (Note: I am not judging. RP strategy is amoral. You asked.)

    [–]tslextslex 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (6子コメント)

    OP asks: "How do you guys stay faithful?"

    I gave my word.

    I keep my word.

    Next question.

    [–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (5子コメント)

    Jlo comes along and finds you in a dark alley way. No one is around to witness it. She wants to fuck you and suck your dick. Your wife isn't nearly as hot and she will never know. What do you do

    [–]tslextslex 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

    I'm sorry. My first response may have been confusing because it was so wordy and confusing. In answer to your hypothetical, will try again:

    I keep my word.

    I'll add this: I cannot imagine how anyone can be committed to many of the principles discussed here, to establishing and maintaining themselves as a man worthy of the name "man," and NOT place his honor above nearly everything. I can't get how anyone can imagine himself the leader of his house -- or his woman -- if his word is not to be trusted. I cannot imagine how anyone would think being a lying, weak-willed weasel would improve his SMV. It won't. It's the opposite.

    Want to game girls and spin plates? Good on you. You can do that without ever telling a single lie or breaking a single promise. It's easy not to break your word, just don't give it when you don't mean it. But you know the old joke about how if you suck one cock, you're a cocksucker? Well if you break your word once your word's not worth shit and your word is who you are. Do the math.

    So, if you want lots of girls, don't promise to be faithful to only one. And if you promise to be faithful to only one .. . well, you know what I'm going to say.

    [–]Bulk_king11[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

    But you can't act like you're not human and don't get Horny when you see a hot girl or get an urge to want to fuck other women. I know you're going to say yea but you just don't do it. But it's easier said than done. I also am not married yet.

    [–]tslextslex 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

    Fair enough. And for me with JLo I'm not sure I want a blowjob because I would want to make sure I could see that ass. Other activities come to mind.

    But that said, the answer really is as simple as I said I wouldn't so I won't. I would definitely be taking that home, though, and my wife would have some work to do to take care of what JLo sparked. But I gave a lot of consideration to making the promise I made. And I don't judge anyone who does not make that promise. But make it and break it? Yeah I'm going to judge the fuck out of you.

    [–]Bulk_king11[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

    I respect that man. If you were put in that situation and what you say is true. I respect the hell out of that.

    As for me? Idgaf. I'm fucking that pussy like it's the last pussy I'll ever get. Idc if I'm married or not. I'm going to eat that shit like it's my last meal. Like I have aids and her the back of her pussy has the cure. Idc who judges me because I fucked jlo lmao

    [–]tslextslex 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    An up-vote for you, my forthright friend.

    [–]Rollo-TomassiMANOSPHERE ICON [スコア非表示]  (2子コメント)

    Have a read: https://therationalmale.com/2012/02/28/fidelity/

    It's good that you're honest with yourself, never let that go or allow ONEitis to replace that honesty. A lot of Red Pill men scoff at the idea of that ever happening to them, but I see it every day.

    [–]Bulk_king11[S] [スコア非表示]  (0子コメント)

    Awesome read. something I really can relate to especially with the getting laid by all different types of women. That's always something most guys who comment on this don't have those options. I'm glad you touched on that.

    What you said made a lot of sense but I still can't understand what fuels me to want to bang these hot women when I've fucked way hotter so many times. And it was never anything "so crazy".

    To be honest the best sex I have ever had is with my SO and she's the only girl I have ever been with for a long period of time that I still am sexually attracted to and not "bored". But I can't pin point the constant obsession for my lust. Maybe it's due to my addictive personally? Maybe I'm so used to the validation I want to make sure I "still got it". Maybe I just like the attention? Maybe I want to feel wanted by all women. Maybe all that. I'm not sure. It's something I'll need to figure out I guess.

    [–]RP_SuitScholar 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    You have Oneitis for this girl and it's a bad deal for her. You need to read The Unchained Man by Caleb Jones and learn how to evolve one of your plates into an OLTR or a relationship where the two of you bring in unicorns to fuck together. It is the only way to scratch the itch of needing new pussy while at the same time enhancing your LTR's sexual relationship. You are not designed to be this girl's partner and you know it. It doesn't matter that she makes your life better, you are doing her no favors by making the relationship limp on.

    [–]InvincibleKraken -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

    K