Hello there. First, allow me to explain why I’m writing. Recently, I’ve seen some public debates between feminists, politicians, trans advocates, pundits, etc. regarding the trans bathroom issue. I’d like to see some sort of reasonable compromise on the issue, but unfortunately more often than not, each side makes their points and then talks past each other. We need more dialogue, and ultimately solutions.

A couple things about me: I’m a transsexual (born male) and I think that’s the most accurate term since it corresponds to the biological/medical situation that I’m in.

I have debilitating sex (body) dysphoria and mild gender (social role) dysphoria. This led me down a road where I have a gone through the entire medical and legal process of transitioning and but still present as an androgynous/masculine leaning person.

Privately, I don’t consider myself a woman or a lesbian, at least not in the conventional sense. I would accept the ‘honorary’ label, since it corresponds to my biological/medical situation, but also to the experiences I’ve had as a transsexual.

I've seen the strife between women and trans communities rage on for years and lately I've become more gender critical, such that, if I freely express my opinions to the vast majority of LGBTQ people, they would either shut down the conversation or brand me as transphobic bigot or a transmisogynist. This has occurred both online and in person. My life is complicated enough, and the last thing I need now are death threats, rape threats, doxxings, or other aggressive behavior.

Here are some of the opinions I’ve developed:
Women have every right to be skeptical of any male born person or any male appearing in a public female sex segregated space. This is a natural instinct, and trans advocates are asking women to completely disregard that instinct in the name of progressivism. Women should have the right the challenge any male born/male appearing in any public sex segregated space. Privately, Women should have the right to assemble and associate in any manner they so choose, including wbw and without protests from male borns and especially from non-transsexual male borns. Camp Trans, I’m looking at you.

The ever increasingly vague and broad definition of trans is ultimately bad for women and girls, but also undesirable for transsexuals. I don’t want to be grouped together with someone who admittedly has no sex/gender dysphoria and has a penchant for feminine style. If I were challenged, I would be ok with proving my transsexualism with medical, legal, or psychological documentation. It is a burden, but it’s an understandable price I would pay to have my condition/situation honored while improving the safety of sex segregated spaces.
Because of the aforementioned vagueness and broadened definition of trans, there is no discernable difference between a non-transsexual transgender person who is only looking to use a facility peacefully and a crossdressing criminal or even a person who simply claims transgenderism with nefarious intentions. There must be a higher standard for what is considered legitimately transsexual than just declaring oneself a woman.

It was only a few years ago where trans activists would say, “A trans person would never reveal their genitals in a bathroom/sex segregated space because they feel so dysphoric and terrible about their body!” Fast forward a few years and now trans people have made accusations of discrimination for denying their requests to use a shower room while completely exposing themselves to women and without any medical transition or documentation. This is unacceptable. Women and girls should never ever have to see male genitalia in a sex segregated space. Boys should never have to see a vagina in a sex segregated space.

As a general rule, post-puberty male born people should not play in sports with women. The only exceptions I might find acceptable is if the person in question never went through male puberty or if all the women players agree to make an exception. Female born players on testosterone should not be permitted to play against girls or women (unless they’re juicing as well).

Cathy Brennan’s letter to the UN seems perfectly reasonable.

Most LGBTQ SJWs haven’t read Obama’s trans bathroom executive order and don’t understand that it has a number of major issues. For one, no medical or psychological evaluation or treatment is required for a child to be considered trans; only a parent’s support is required. Secondly, there’s much more at stake than just restrooms. All sex segregated spaces are at stake (shower rooms, lockers, etc.) with no clause to protect children from seeing anatomy atypical from their own.

Kate Bornstein’s and Sandy Stone’s recommendation of no-platforming TERFs is despicable. So is taking down Vagina Monologues, the protests against Kimberly Peirce, and other similarly idiotic events.

I believe a small group of transsexuals hold similar positions to me and would be willing to work together with women advocates to work out reasonable compromises to these situations.

And finally, I wanted to express my sympathy for the death threats, rape threats, intimidation, and aggression for voicing sane and reasonable viewpoints.

edit: spacing