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The sex is boring/lame/drab/dull/routine (self.askMRP)

Stoptalkingplease64 が 投稿

While this is an occurrence in my bedroom from time to time, I am writing this post because I have heard this complaint from many other men and I want to help myself and them. What has me confused is that some of these men are fit, and in some cases jacked and/or ripped. Most of the men whom I talk to are upper-middle class. They dress well. They have masculine personalities and carry themselves well. They're not pansies. My question is this: What are we(these men, and me) missing? Our behavior? The way we treat our wives? It seems we all want better quality sex, not even necessarily more of it, but we want it to be better. We want out wives to be much more into it instead of the starfish. Looking for advice for myself and my buddies.

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[–]GargantuaBlarg29Red Beret 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Did the collective minds of AFCs everywhere just ask how to unplug?

[–]anythingincRed Beret 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

To continue on the AFC theme:

Qualities of an AFC

ONEitis – First and foremost.

Subscribes to feminine idealizations.

Supplication is supportive. To comply with gender equalism she must increase, so he must decrease, regardless of how subtly this is realized.

The Savior Schema –reciprocation of intimacy for problems solved.

The Martyr Schema – the more you sacrifice the more it shows devotion.

The ‘Friends’ Debt – LJBF and the pseudo-friendship as a means to prospective intimacy.

Primarily relies on dating and social skills (or lack thereof) developed during adolescence and early adulthood

A behavioral history that illustrates a mental attitude of ‘serial monogamy’ and the related insecurities that accompany it.

A belief that women infallibly and consciously recognize what they want, and honestly convey this to them, irrespective of behaviors that contradict this. Uses deductive reasoning in determining intent and bases female motivations on statements rather than objectively observing behavior.

Believes women’s natural propensity is for rational rather than emotional thought.

An over-reliance on rejection Buffers.

Believes in the Identification Myth. The more alike he is, or can make himself, with his idealized female the better able he will be to attract and secure her intimacy.

Believes that shared common interests are the ONLY key to attraction and enduring intimacy.

Believes and practices the “not like other guys” doctrine of self-perceived uniqueness, even under the condition of anonymity.

Considers LDRs (long distance relationships) a viable option for prolonged intimacy.

Maintains an internalized belief in the qualifications and characterizations of women that coincide with his ability (or inability) to attract them. Ergo, he self-confirms the “ she’s out of my league” and the “she’s a loose slut” mentalities on-the-fly to reinforce his position for his given conditions.

Harbors irrational (often socially reinforced) fears of long term solitude and alters his mind-set to accommodate or settle for a less than optimal short term relationship – often with life long consequences.

The AFC will confirm a belief in egalitarian equality between the genders without consideration for variance between the genders. Ergo, men make perfectly acceptable feminine models and women make perfectly acceptable masculine models. Due to societal pressures he unconsciously self-confirms androgyny as his goal state.

This is anything but a comprehensive list.

https://therationalmale.com/2011/09/13/average-frustrated-chump/

That didn't mention being fit or how much money you make.

[–]J_Incognito 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

What are we(these men, and me) missing?

Frame (mental point of origin) is the answer - is she in your world or are you in hers. This is a great fundamental question that newbies (and even experienced MRPers) get wrong. A lot of us are still wrapped up in a long covert contract of “If I start lifting, cut BF to 10%, get a promotion, learn guitar, etc., etc. then she’ll find me attractive and want to fuck me”. No, not directly – other women w/o a track record of experience w/ you will certainly be more likely to find you attractive. But if your wife doesn’t sense that something’s changed, that you’ve internalized your own self-worth and that you will have options apart from her, it may come off as a more elaborate clown dance to earn her affection.

You are doing this for you, not for her. She can smell the difference. Everyone here should truly examine why they’re improving themselves. If it’s due to the latter (for her), at the first rejection or realization that she’s not attracted to you as you think she should you’ll be ready to give up. Men who are doing the former (for you) can say “no” to their wives. As in: “no, taking care of the kids in the afternoon is your obligation”; “no, watching trash reality TV in bed won’t fly”; “no, we will not be spending time with your toxic family anymore”; and finally “no, starfish duty sex isn’t going to cut it anymore”. Doing it for yourself means you’ll walk out of this better than when you started – it may be with a loving wife by your side, it may not be.

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This is an expansive question, unfortuantely, no one will be able to spoon feed it to you, DEVI is the short answer

[–]2ndal 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Physical appearance is only one factor in whether a woman finds you attractive enough to fuck you like the slut you want her to be. Read the sidebar to figure out the rest of it.

[–]SepeanRed Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

They have masculine personalities and carry themselves well. They're not pansies.

Many masculine men turn pansies when confronted with their women, thinking that she wants someone who caters to her every whim.

It's all in the sidebar. Someone who knew some red pill basics and had tried them would get more specific advice.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

www.TheFamilyAlpha.com

[–]Stoptalkingplease64[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I love your blog man. I'm one of the #menofmarch, in fact.

[–]Stoptalkingplease64[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I've read NMMNG and WISNIFG. Here's what I've implemented: More decisive, dressing better, (used to be a slob), dropped 35lbs (20 more to go, should be at 15% BF at that weight), being direct and asking for what I want, I quit avoiding conflict, and have taken up reading. I'm hoping that when I get to 15% BF the sex gets better.

[–]SepeanRed Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You need MMSLP and Sex God Method. Learning some game and playing dread is most likely necessary too, as is actually turning down low effort sex (ie. pull out, put on your pants and leave the bedroom) instead of whining about it.

[–]TheFamilyAlphaPro-Masculine Evangelist 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Perfect

Week #1 is down, 3 to go

[–]rocknrollchuck 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This Might Help

[–]RBuddDwyerRed Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It seems we all want better quality sex, not even necessarily more of it, but we want it to be better.

Sex God Method. If you are truly as alpha as you purport to be, then this is the missing ingredient. If you are not, then it will blow up in your face bigly, and we'll see you back here in two months.

[–]screechhaterRed Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Umh, err, eh, uh, ya wanna have sexy time honey ?

Oh I don't know , WHAT DO YOU WANT for dinner ?

Have you seen my Preparation H, Honey ?

Oh, I just been dying to get pegged by you sweetheart............

Talk is cheap, alpha @ work don't cut it at home. Don't give a fuck what they tell you cause they are lying to themselves