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How many Blow Jobs is too many? (self.askMRP)

bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia が 投稿

Gonna lay this bare for you guys because its something I have personally struggled with for about six months. Shared with BPP over privmsg on whats going. Can't put my finger on it.

Blow Jobs

I enjoy them, she enjoys them. She takes pride and it's her thing to do them to completion. Even at times openly complaining when I stop her because I want to fuck. Part of the problem is I have fed into them. Dirty talk, rough, throating, praising her highly. One time I literally grabbed her buy the hair and made her choke. All she did was work extra hard to please. She wears them like a badge of honor. We do other things too and overall the sex life is very satisfying, so I am in what we call a Seinfeld Dilemma. She likes them, I like them, and it's always that one more thing that's lacking or whatever.

I came home for two days after being gone for awhile and as soon I was in the door she immediately swallows and doesnt let me stop her. Sits back on her heels and says that's almost too much but I didn't miss a drop. You taste really good when you've been gone. All that jazz and prancing through the house the rest of the night.

The second night, we don't hit the sheets until much later in the night. We get to doing our thing and we are going at it and out of the blue she says let me taste you fresh. So she does it and that's cool.. Really it was very good and she does these things to me that make the sheets crawl up my ass.

The conundrum

Realistically, my ratio is probably One vaginal to Three mouths. I prefer vaginal and we adjust to her moods. The days of only cave man are long over. DEVI is in full effect and I have pretty much hit my stride. She openly tells me I can have them anytime I want.

Why?

My first impression is I have highly praised something she really enjoys. Found her niche and encouraged it. Everything I want to do is no questions asked and completely enthusiastic. She even remarks that I like it when she doesn't and that makes her cum harder. No different than anything else in life. Reward good, Discourage bad.

My second guessing is something is wrong in my fucking game. Too hard? Too soft? Didn't find the right things? She knows I like pussy and she does that. Probably something to do with her wanting to please and yet control it at the same time.

Probably, in my airport late night flight I just want someone to tell shut the fuck up and quit bitching.

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[–]Bencousinwater 32 ポイント33 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Fuck you.

[–]RecoveringBPAddict 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Seriously, if this is a real issue, then I'm totally fucked.

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Lol, he's not the only one. I'm having this exact same scenario, including the waking me up at 3AM for a start-to-finish. There's light at the end of the tunnel, don't worry about being fucked, it didn't start for either of us on Day 1

Only thing I can contribute was from either Ironwood, or Athol... Something about avoiding vaginal sex for oral as a mate retention behaviour for betas. Doesn't sound like thats your bit though.

It's a mindset thing. Personally, I'm happier with the ratio...

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This issue is no different than being in a deadbedroom or getting starfish. You will have yours one day too.

[–]FireTemperedred beret 6 ポイント7 ポイント  (7子コメント)

Almost never let wife BJ me to completion. I like BJ only as a starter, but not every time. I love pussy. Rawdog creampie only for me. Anything short of that is a deal killer.

Glad she's your wife. I would have to retrain her.

You got to retrain her. Sounds like a big (fun) job.

Not my problem. Enjoy your problems.

[–]drty_pr 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

You got to retrain her. Sounds like a fun job.

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Really? I much prefer mouthplay. I'm having the same 'issues' as him, and couldn't be happier.

She admitted she snuck a peek at my porn collection back in the day, so she knew what to do to make me happy.

[–]FireTemperedred beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Just different. Nothing like a balls deep load deep in the pussy for me.

I also like my own sloppy seconds. Kind of primal for me. BJ to completion, Meh.

[–]A_RexRED KNIGHT 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm the same way. Wife was in the middle of a BJ to completion for the first time in years on me, and asked if I wanted to finish in her mouth or her ass. I chose the latter.

The pussy creampie is still the best though. The most raw, primal thing you can do. The greatest expression of desire from her end too - her not just pleasing you to keep you pacified, but begging for you to seed her.

I can see why OP is less than thrilled with the ratio here.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

In many ways yes and in some ways it's my fault as well. My problem, but I think /u/RuleZeroDAD hit the nail on the head with this one.

[–]SepeanRed Beret 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (2子コメント)

You're thinking way too hard about this. As you say:

Reward good, Discourage bad.

Just do that.

You say DEVI is in full effect. The D is dominance. You want to fuck her, she's sucking your dick, be D and it is easy to go from one to the other. Just move and command.

So what is really going on here when you aren't doing that? Is it easier to just be passive and get a BJ than to tell her what to do and deal with her resistance? You don't want to risk the sex to end because she might get mad that you insist on PIV? Do you put her on a piedestal when she's blowing you so you let her call the shots?

Something is fucking spineless here. Find it and squash it. And I know, you have to work up some determination to walk out on sex, but that's what you need to be willing to do. Women will use anything they can, any flaw they find in your frame they'll keep on hitting it again and again. Here she found a weakness in your frame: when she has your dick in her mouth, you're hers.

This is no different than being on a cut and not eating the dessert, or leaving the comfortable sofa to go lift. Stop being comfy and be dominant.

[–]GargantuaBlarg29Red Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

The D is dominance

Scroll scroll scroll Here we go! What is keeping you from grabbing her hair, pulling her off your dick, saying something akin to "now it's time to get yours", throw her onto her back and ram it home?

The only resistance to this is if she said "no" to that...and if she develops a habit of saying no to sex halfway through a BJ then you have an entirely different problem then what you described.

[–]anythingincRed Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

So what is really going on here when you aren't doing that? Is it easier to just be passive and get a BJ than to tell her what to do and deal with her resistance? You don't want to risk the sex to end because she might get mad that you insist on PIV? Do you put her on a piedestal when she's blowing you so you let her call the shots? Something is fucking spineless here.

Yep. Dude dreams about filet mignon, but gets a sirloin every day instead. He's so used to never getting steak at all so he just eats the sirloin instead of dealing with the butcher.

I BET you have the frame to deal with the butcher to get your filet...but you won't deal with your wife to get some pussy?

And here is the thing."Butcher" and "good woman" are both SERVICE industries. You have to ASSUME that they aim to please. You have to assume that your wife wants to give you the most satisfaction possible. And lord knows it is easy for a woman to assume that BJs (or anal) are the holy grail and by giving those she is doing the best she can for you. The butcher probably thinks he's helping you too..."oh well he might have to cook it a little longer, or marinate it, but it tastes almost the same and he saves $8 a pound too! I'm doing the best I can for him."

Baby, BJS and sirloin are great, and they have their places, and I order them sometimes, but I usually want a filet, and some pussy.

Minus 3 Alpha-points if you use that exact analogy with her instead of just telling her what you like and letting her do the rest. Minus 5 Alpha-points if you DEER when she says she just can't handle PIV every day....

Because you might have a lazy bitch who doesn't want to go through the trouble with fucking you and so she just blows you to get it over with. Doesn't mean she doesn't like doing it, or can't be enthusiastic, but sex is just such a "production" and she isn't DTF every day. And maybe she's not lazy, even every legit cock-addicted women needs a couple days off after a three-day weekend in my experience.

Insert obligatory reference to the evo-psych stuff about a woman who is not attracted to you not taking the chance of having your cock in her around ovulation time here.

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (7子コメント)

Dead bedroom her. That'll teach her.

Seriously though - "how to not get my wife to not blow me to completion "

Well. Either make sure you have another go in you after. Or treat the bj the same way oat guys wives on here do- star fish it.

You're honestly being a "faggot" here.

Unless you're trolling us. Which is my other thought

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (6子コメント)

No TIC on this post. Just realizing I need to put my shit out there and see what comes back.

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (5子コメント)

TIC?

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

tongue in cheek.

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (3子コメント)

well, at least its not DIC

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

;)

[–]ScurvemuchRed Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

make sure you have another go in you after.

honestly thats my answer. RZD has a valid point. so step up your game.

[–]GargantuaBlarg29Red Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

This time

[–]Griever114 5 ポイント6 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Fuck you.

Dat humblebrag

[–]man_in_the_worldRed beret 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (1子コメント)

shut the fuck up and quit bitching.

You're welcome.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thank you.

[–]InChargeMan 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

If there was a recruitment effort for MRP this post would be on the brochure.

[–]gettingmymojoback 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (1子コメント)

"Life is suffering-Buddha"

You suffer because your wife prefers you blow in her mouth when all you want is that sweet, sweet creampie. I suffer because all mine wants is the creampie, and all I want to do is blow in her mouth.

Others are suffering because they haven't had either in months or longer and are wondering what the fuck either of us are complaining about.

No matter what, once you "fix" one problem, another always takes its place. It's accepting this fact that allows one to be at peace with their life.

Oh ya, and fuck you.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Haha, yeah and this is the exact dilemma in my mind, hence the seinfeld issue.

[–]Sibilant_Engorgement 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (4子コメント)

I think you are fucking my brothers ex. I bet your appliance, plumbing, etc... bills are much lower than you anticipated.

[–]Thomaskingo 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Elaborate...

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

He is suggesting she is blowing me and fucking the repair men.

[–]Sibilant_Engorgement 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Or just has an insatiable thirst for cock.

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Her thirst is materialista, not cock.

Cock would be cheaper

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (8子コメント)

Oddly enough, I understand your dilemma.

Sometimes when a venerated goal is not what we want most, it rings hollow. The "concerned brag" is a fun twist, but you already know how to fix this.

You have the desire for more PIV, and your wife is executing her sexual strategy of "suck it, not fuck it." This is a variation of denying you sex (the sex that you want). The dissatisfaction is not on the level of a dead bedroom, but it's a power play, make no mistake.

Remove attention and affection. I normally wouldn't advocate taking a dick from a woman's mouth, but if you want pussy, there is no substitute.

[–]Thomaskingo 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

your wife is executing her sexual strategy of "suck it, not fuck it." This is a variation of denying you sex (the sex that you want).

This is a valid and valuble observation, but couldn't it be the other way around. That she is subjugating herself for him as much ad possible, even though he just wanna nut in her pussy? That is much work to avoid getting D in V.

[–]absolucion 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I'm not convinced she knows he wants more pussy. She's probably obsessed with the fact she can suck him unconscious and strives to do that to keep him happy. Not a bad problem to have.

If I were him I'd tell her "I'm going to fuck you," have her suck my dick until I'm ready, then bend her over and fuck her until I'd had enough. Take charge of the situation.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (4子コメント)

I think you are right on this one, she is exercising her control through known routes of least resistance. There is a balancing act tho and as I was sleeping last night we ran through some turbulence. I thought to myself, wow this is a bumpy ride. Yet, I am in business class bitching to myself about five minutes of turbulence and my water bottle was no where to be found. Yet, even these have simple solutions enough. Had I put the water bottle in the little map pocket at the beginning I would not be wondering where the current one is.

So going forward I need to shift the paradigm, and put needs ahead of hers at times and bring the ratio closer to where I want it to be.

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

On your end. Was it always like this, or did you not develop this preference, until it started happening?

I have friends who want something, until they have it, then they want something else. Posting to ensure your house is in order before you start laying it on her doorstep. Granted, from what I know of her, she is a control freak, and it's totally plausable.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I'm glad you brought this up because I had mostly forgotten about it. In the bad old days she always went down on me at least for foreplay and many times I just did foreplay to her and then sex. As I went on my MRP rampage and locked my shit down tight. I left her a golden bridge to cross to be folded back into reservation. That post got gilded, but much of it was a mistake. So, now you know the backstory. There was some points in time where post coitus we would lay in bed and talk about things we like about sex and things to try. Literally her only request was to go down on me more and then it just kind of turned into completions, and I kept encouraging something she liked to do. Like the one guy who posted can you enjoy a blow job, at the time. No I could not. Six months ago I figured it was something more nefarious at play and BPP assured me that no its not. BPP told me some girls get drunk on cum and my wife fit the bill. That's me today. Wife likes to give and I like to receive, but yet also like PIV.

What got me to this post? Well for one it was /u/drty_pr making me realize it's ok to ask for help. Number two it was a sanity check. Number three, I was home for only two nights and I am back on the road without dipping my wick in sweet sweet va jay jay. I bet this is how gay dudes feel.

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

They would just fuck another guy at the airport.

Gay guys are male hypergamy run amok

[–]RuleZeroDADRed Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

In mechanic-speak, it's a tune-up, not an overhaul.

Like tomorrow's scheduled organized griping by the ladies, your sex life is most certainly akin to "first-world" problems. An issue of preference v. paucity.

[–]myrpjourney 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Making sure her pussy is only getting filled by Chad?

[–]weakandsensitive 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

hahahaha. i love it.

[–]nonnimooseWoman, something something dark side 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Can you clarify: "She even remarks that I like it when she doesn't " You like it when she doesn't, what?...give you a blowjob?

Did you always prefer PIV or is it more so now that oral is more frequent? Enquiring minds want to know.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Always prefer PIV, in fact its my only preference. Oral is more frequent. What I meant by the other is sometimes we get pretty rough in the bedroom. Sometimes she struggles, I keep going, she cums like a freight train from that. Not bdsm or pain, but not what you would see in the vanilla bedroom either.

[–]InChargeMan 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Dang bro, finishing in her mouth is my favorite. She doesn't like it too much. I can't really blame her, my spunk turns into rubber cement when it hits saliva. (Is that normal?..) Finishing in the mouth is occasional.

So, anyway, thanks for knocking me down a peg...

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Haha, too bad all the doctors have left, because man. I don't think thats normal or pleasant. Like trying to swallow thickener.

[–]spexer 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

If you are posting a FR or a guide on how to get more blowjobs - cool. OK advice towards the end.

However to set this up as a question which you quickly abandon, makes this post appear to be a humblebrag.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Perhaps my writing escapes you. The question is clearly the last part of the post.

[–]SampsonBrass 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Oh how ever elusive we find contentment. Ha ha Bogey nice one.

/u/rulezerodad is onto the answer for you.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thanks for pointing me there!

[–]chief_slap_ahoe 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Brag much

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Only when needed.

[–]pikadildo 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Try this attachment.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I don't know what that is.

[–]pikadildo 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

It's a keyed lock for electric plugs.

She even remarks that I like it when she doesn't

Does your wife enjoy PIV?

[–]SteelToeShitKicker 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (3子コメント)

I officially declare today to be "Troll the Noobs Day".

Oh, shit, bogey beat me to it.

Fucker.

[–]stonepimpletilistsMod / Red Beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

After the 500th crybaby that needs his daily dose of 'faggot' this is a breath of fresh air

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

No trolling, I swear.

[–]SteelToeShitKicker 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Well, I'll act as if that's true, when I don't think it is.

Why don't you just remove her head from your cock and forcefully throw her ass on the bed and fuck her? TBH, I can't think of anything hotter.

[–]FireTemperedred beret 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Read through most of the thread and u/Bogeyd6 answers.

Seems like she is doing what she likes to do for her and for him. She likes that she gives a great BJ and gets a big load. Bogeyd6 just "wants" more PIV.

Could be a control issue, but could be a preference issue; for him or her or both. It is a Chicken or Egg debate, because it doesn't matter in the least.

The best solution is the simplest, as mentioned several times before here:

Pull your dick out of her mouth, and do what you want. Do this often enough, to change the ratio to that which would make you happy. She seems to be willing enough to please you. Yes, Best

[–]UEMcGillI am become McGill, Destroyer of Blue Pill 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I hesitate to tell this because of the context of /u/bogeyd6 's story but...

My mom is probably the one woman who is a snowfake in my eyes. She's incredibly thoughtful, and very eager to do what makes people in her life happy. I love fly-fishing, it's a deep passion. My mom will get me t-shirts, electronic lures (she thinks it's still fly fishing), a bamboo fly rod lamp, coffee mugs... you get the gist.

Sometimes I smile and accept those gifts graciously, because I know she went through effort to get them. She'll see something 8 months before Christmas and squirrel it away because she thought of me. Other times I'll refocus her on it to something a little more necessary at the moment. I'll say something like, "Yeah I think the toaster oven is on the fritz..." and boom, there's a new toaster oven.

I just think your wife expresses her love to you in acts of devotion. Whatever you are doing right is working because she is very devoted to you.

My advice would be run Aikido on this. Her actions are devotion, not Blow Jobs. What you do with that is your option, so don't stop it because that may be seen as refusal. Instead refocus it on other sexual avenues. I would change the V in this DEVI quotient. "Oh yeah, you just think you can get your way with me by blowing me? Go ahead and try..." then mid fellatio fuck her and tell her she's not getting her way. You get the picture.

[–]JDRoedell 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

I Got 99 problems but this ain't one....

Can't help you, sorry.

[–]bogeyd6Mod / Red Pill Militia[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Not to worry son.

[–]nantucketghost -1 ポイント0 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Had a similar issue. My wife loves giving me blow jobs and I'd pull away to do something and she'd hold on to my dick because she wasn't finished.

So to fix it when I wanted to fuck her I would just pull her away, roll her over and tell her that I just had to have her. Fuck her like there was no tomorrow and don't care if she enjoys or not (she will in case you were wondering). If she needs, she can finish with a vibrator when I'm done.

Now if and when I want to have her stop with a blow job, there are no questions asked or stopping me.