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[–]OmLiLiThe Irrational Male 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Get

Off

Reddit

Like seriously, just get off reddit, go outside live. Do what you gotta do. Like people here can't help you, you can help yourself. You can bring a horse to water...

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

what if i dont have friends or myself to help me? I thought you guys were compassionate. I really have no one to talk to. I live with a single parent. My dad is always stressed from work and I don't live up to his standards apparently. I find it hard to talk with him about my social issues and problems with my mental health as he is always cold, even though I love him very much as a parent.

[–]N1185 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (6子コメント)

You're apparently obsessed with classifying people into statuses and micromanaging stuff like that. I would not be surprised if you come off as awkward because of it. Let go of that.

What are your hobbies besides working out? Do you like anything that lends itself to joining social groups? Book clubs, school clubs, gaming groups, meetup groups, casual sports, anything like that?

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (5子コメント)

I like to browse reddit, watch youtube videos, and watch movies and I go on runs sometimes. i really dont have much hobbies sadly. i used to play a lot of video games in 9th grade, but 9th grade was terrible (my close uncle died and I was very anorexic). So, I pretty much stopped playing video games since then.

[–]N1185 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Find some social activities that look fun and get you out of the house, then give them a try until you find one or more that you like. Make friends with the people in that group.

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Is there a guide on how to be socially normal and having social cues?it's harder for me to recognize social cues than other people. and i try to talk to people but i come across a shy short person.

[–]N1185 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Practice will help with both that and learning to be more relaxed around people. You could consider talking to a counselor, maybe your school's, if you think you could use help with any of it.

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

o.o

ok thank you. ive been failing at practicing, but ill keep trying.

[–]N1185 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

eh man having a social context to work within really helps provide a little structure to interaction and small talk which makes it easier on everyone. Like you don't have to reach for stuff to talk about if you're at a book club meeting, because you can discuss the book and branch out from there. Or if you're at a game meetup you talk about games, if you're at the dog park you talk about pets.

[–]Barneysparkyway past the wall 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Join a club make a friend Don't be overly needy to make a friend or you could meet a not so nice friend.

Keep doing that until you get to know people are just people and the more people you have in your life the more people you potentially know.

Then your in a position to say is this the person ( love interest) I can see myself with forever or not. You can see if she loves you back and maybe even she might like you back.

Does her liking you back even come into the equation?

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

yah maybe clubs can work. yes liking me back does come in the equation. I come across as very weird, because I'm shy and very awkward and maybe thats why girls dont like me. plus im short.

[–]WestsideMoonWalkerKing of the Chadettes 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Ok so, you are a high school junior. You are really young and have a lot of time to grow up. My little sister is older than you, actually. Anyway, social awkwardness makes dating difficult, especially at high school age. I had issues with that too, but I didn't allow it to warp my worldview really.

As far as your mental health goes, it is really important that if you are worried about your well-being, you reach out to people who can help be it counselors, teachers, parents, whatever. That way, you can get the proper help for your conditions, or no help if you don't have any issues.

Aside from that, just find shit you are passionate about. Develop your own style (I love streetwear stuff, for example). Have fun with it and find a look that makes you feel confident. Find interests that you can delve into deeply. Don't do it to date people, but because you want to.

Hell, for me, I didn't even have my first kiss until I was almost 19. It really isn't a massive deal or anything. It is totally ok to be a late bloomer. As far as dating goes, I definitely was, and now I am in a wonderful 2.5 year relationship with a wonderful girl who makes me feel very loved (and got me a fat cat poster). Like, not even kidding, I was actually scared to talk to girls when I was your age.

Either way, high school fades away quick. The last thing you want to do if you end up going to college is reminisce all the time about high school. You have a whole massive life ahead of you, and you clearly are smart enough that you should be able to do well if you avoid toxic influences. For me personally, again, when I was 16, I was depressed and a toxic mess. Emotionally I was kinda a shell, and I am on the autism spectrum which made it feel incredibly lonely. Now, just what, 5 years later, I am part of a team that just secured our first funding for a company we started (granted, for a class, but it's something that has a lot of long term potential). You grow up a whole lot between 16 and 18 let alone 16 and your early 20s. I understand that you literally can't experience that yet, but as a whole, you will grow up a significant amount in a short amount of time if you keep the right influences.

Please message me if you want to talk more. I'd love to help or mentor you if you want it.

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thank you...you have the best response on this thread so far.

I'll try to reach out to my school counselor or my teachers if they arent busy. and yes ive been trying to develop my style lately for myself (ive been looking on instagram, fashion subreddits (malefashion, malefashion advice and streetwear), and fashion youtubers (alpham, teachingmensfashion) for fashionable inspiration).

mhmm, i'm not really looking for a first kiss, just a girl my age i can talk to about my problems and make me feel loved(not trying to be creepy). and i think high school is a bit overrated. i havent gotten into drinking or drugs like some kids at my school does. ive been focusing on schoolwork the whole time but recently like i said, ive been trying to focus on my social life. and also, how do you test if you are on the autistic spectrum? i think i might be on it but im not sure. do you just go to the doctor to test it? something has been off with the way i interact with people since a young age and how i act in general.