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Please help me, users of /r/BluePill.. (self.TheBluePill)

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Am I doomed to inceldom? Please don't downvote this post. Please.

I'm 16 (junior) and in high school. I'm also very short (5 feet) and full Chinese.

Starting from elementary school until now, I just felt like I have no real friends to be with, and I have never been in a relationship. I've never hanged out with anyone outside school; I talk to them in school and that is it. Yet, when I offered to hang out with them, they always say their busy. Busy my fucking ass, I see them on instagram hanging out with friends.

I see everyone of my friends including those who some girls find ugly being in relathionships. I've tried asking out girls, but they've never seemed to like me. I don't understand. Starting in the September of 10th Grade, I went on the internet and found my way into the incel community of (Puahate and Lookism) and /r/.theredpill. I didn't like PUAHate, /r/.theredpill (whiny neckbeards who talks about "alphaness" and making up fake stories), but I find myself drawned to the lookism website. That site changed my worldview forever. The theory of looks money status is what the incels of that site championed. Oh how it applies everywhere. While money isn't important in high school, I find it that a lot of the rich kids in my school gets to have sex with girls when they are relatively good looking. But if they are not, they have status such as being extroverted or being an all star athelete with a good physique or even just being a popular person in their friend circle (not just atheltes). It also changed how I see what makes a man attractive to a woman. I realized I had an okay face, but I can help maximize it through different things. I started to weightlift/gymcel(found a good routine for aesthetics, thought about roiding, lower my bodyfat percentage and gain the most muscle in the right spots, paid attention to my caloris and diet) and started to dress better (think slim jeans, nice white shoes, henleys and whatever celebrities wear) and overall be self conscious of my appearance (skincare, taking care of eyebrows, hair). Despite that, no one wanted to hang out with me. By the time, the end of february rolled around, still didn't have people who anyone was called friends, I was just brushed aside. i find it hard to talk to people, I might have aspergers, I don't know. I started to cold approach girls in my class who I found cool and tried making friends with them as well as other people I found cool. It..It didn't work out well either. They thought I was a short and nerdy (i took a lot of AP classes and did well in them, studied too much) Asian person who worked out in the gym and was nothing special. Those girls ended up dating people who more energetic socially and had higher status within high school. I bet their friends gosspied about how weird I was and so the girls I asked out didn't want to ask out me. I just felt crushed by the end of the school year came. And I still didn't have a girlfriend and I still don't have friends. Everyone thinks I'm awkward. I stopped browsing the incel website I mentioned earlier during the end of my 1st semester junior year. It was just a bunch of toxic assholes putting each other down. I admit their theories are right, but I'm not sure. Today, no one wants to hang out with me even if I text them. I feel depressed right now and has always been lonely. can anyone help me out? Sorry for the wall of text, but i don't know how to condense it.

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[–]OmLiLiThe Irrational Male 2 ポイント3 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Get

Off

Reddit

Like seriously, just get off reddit, go outside live. Do what you gotta do. Like people here can't help you, you can help yourself. You can bring a horse to water...

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

what if i dont have friends or myself to help me? I thought you guys were compassionate. I really have no one to talk to. I live with a single parent. My dad is always stressed from work and I don't live up to his standards apparently. I find it hard to talk with him about my social issues and problems with my mental health as he is always cold, even though I love him very much as a parent.

[–]N1185 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (6子コメント)

You're apparently obsessed with classifying people into statuses and micromanaging stuff like that. I would not be surprised if you come off as awkward because of it. Let go of that.

What are your hobbies besides working out? Do you like anything that lends itself to joining social groups? Book clubs, school clubs, gaming groups, meetup groups, casual sports, anything like that?

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (5子コメント)

I like to browse reddit, watch youtube videos, and watch movies and I go on runs sometimes. i really dont have much hobbies sadly. i used to play a lot of video games in 9th grade, but 9th grade was terrible (my close uncle died and I was very anorexic). So, I pretty much stopped playing video games since then.

[–]N1185 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (4子コメント)

Find some social activities that look fun and get you out of the house, then give them a try until you find one or more that you like. Make friends with the people in that group.

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (3子コメント)

Is there a guide on how to be socially normal and having social cues?it's harder for me to recognize social cues than other people. and i try to talk to people but i come across a shy short person.

[–]N1185 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Practice will help with both that and learning to be more relaxed around people. You could consider talking to a counselor, maybe your school's, if you think you could use help with any of it.

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

o.o

ok thank you. ive been failing at practicing, but ill keep trying.

[–]N1185 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

eh man having a social context to work within really helps provide a little structure to interaction and small talk which makes it easier on everyone. Like you don't have to reach for stuff to talk about if you're at a book club meeting, because you can discuss the book and branch out from there. Or if you're at a game meetup you talk about games, if you're at the dog park you talk about pets.

[–]Barneysparkyway past the wall 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Join a club make a friend Don't be overly needy to make a friend or you could meet a not so nice friend.

Keep doing that until you get to know people are just people and the more people you have in your life the more people you potentially know.

Then your in a position to say is this the person ( love interest) I can see myself with forever or not. You can see if she loves you back and maybe even she might like you back.

Does her liking you back even come into the equation?

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

yah maybe clubs can work. yes liking me back does come in the equation. I come across as very weird, because I'm shy and very awkward and maybe thats why girls dont like me. plus im short.

[–]WestsideMoonWalkerKing of the Chadettes 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Ok so, you are a high school junior. You are really young and have a lot of time to grow up. My little sister is older than you, actually. Anyway, social awkwardness makes dating difficult, especially at high school age. I had issues with that too, but I didn't allow it to warp my worldview really.

As far as your mental health goes, it is really important that if you are worried about your well-being, you reach out to people who can help be it counselors, teachers, parents, whatever. That way, you can get the proper help for your conditions, or no help if you don't have any issues.

Aside from that, just find shit you are passionate about. Develop your own style (I love streetwear stuff, for example). Have fun with it and find a look that makes you feel confident. Find interests that you can delve into deeply. Don't do it to date people, but because you want to.

Hell, for me, I didn't even have my first kiss until I was almost 19. It really isn't a massive deal or anything. It is totally ok to be a late bloomer. As far as dating goes, I definitely was, and now I am in a wonderful 2.5 year relationship with a wonderful girl who makes me feel very loved (and got me a fat cat poster). Like, not even kidding, I was actually scared to talk to girls when I was your age.

Either way, high school fades away quick. The last thing you want to do if you end up going to college is reminisce all the time about high school. You have a whole massive life ahead of you, and you clearly are smart enough that you should be able to do well if you avoid toxic influences. For me personally, again, when I was 16, I was depressed and a toxic mess. Emotionally I was kinda a shell, and I am on the autism spectrum which made it feel incredibly lonely. Now, just what, 5 years later, I am part of a team that just secured our first funding for a company we started (granted, for a class, but it's something that has a lot of long term potential). You grow up a whole lot between 16 and 18 let alone 16 and your early 20s. I understand that you literally can't experience that yet, but as a whole, you will grow up a significant amount in a short amount of time if you keep the right influences.

Please message me if you want to talk more. I'd love to help or mentor you if you want it.

[–]IncelThrowaway100[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Thank you...you have the best response on this thread so far.

I'll try to reach out to my school counselor or my teachers if they arent busy. and yes ive been trying to develop my style lately for myself (ive been looking on instagram, fashion subreddits (malefashion, malefashion advice and streetwear), and fashion youtubers (alpham, teachingmensfashion) for fashionable inspiration).

mhmm, i'm not really looking for a first kiss, just a girl my age i can talk to about my problems and make me feel loved(not trying to be creepy). and i think high school is a bit overrated. i havent gotten into drinking or drugs like some kids at my school does. ive been focusing on schoolwork the whole time but recently like i said, ive been trying to focus on my social life. and also, how do you test if you are on the autistic spectrum? i think i might be on it but im not sure. do you just go to the doctor to test it? something has been off with the way i interact with people since a young age and how i act in general.