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Why I'm wary of the "I have a black friend, therefore I can't racism" argument (self.Negareddit)

Crazeeman が 投稿

My best friend since birth is queer as fuck. I don't use the f-slur at all because I understand the plight of queer people through him.

Most of my closest friends are women. Through them, I understand systemic racism as a feature of contemporary society and therefore I avoid the b-slur whenever I can.

Last year I befriended a differently abled person. Because of this, I am very careful when it comes to ableist slurs. Hell, even my username, /u/Crazeeman often comes into my questionable "should I really be using this" paradigm.

I take history and political science classes and through them I understand that racism is alive and well today.

When you befriend people, you learn their struggles, and you sympathise with them. If you are friends with a marginalised group and assuming you're a good person, you come to understand what is okay and what is not okay because they'll give you a different perspective on things. Part of that is recognising your privilege and the way you act upon that is by not using slurs. Acting on your privilege means recognising these groups and what they face.

So you have a black friend? Great. What have you learned from their perspective?

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[–]DeadNamesi'm not giving you a flair 10 ポイント11 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Yeah the whole "I'm not racist I have a black friend" thing is bullshit.

Sure, they may be okay with you calling them the N word, but they don't speak on behalf of all black people.

[–]Crazeeman[S] 7 ポイント8 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Sure, they may be okay with you calling them the N word

Man, it's like people don't even understand the power behind this word. If you're a white person and you call someone that, no matter how friendly you two may be, it's referring to a white/black master/slave relationship where the white person has all the power and if that doesn't disgust you then I got a question and it starts with "what" and ends with "the fuck, fam?"

[–]PKMKII 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Sure, they may be okay with you calling them the N word, but they don't speak on behalf of all black people.

This also ignores the fact that, despite stereotypes of minorities being triggered all the time, people tend to keep their mouth shut when offended. Whole, not wanting to rock the social boat thing. Just because their black friend doesn't overtly complain about it, doesn't mean they're entirely okay with it either.

[–]yourbasicboywonder 4 ポイント5 ポイント  (0子コメント)

You can even be sleeping with a black person and still be a racist fuck.

Hell the black woman who was pushing that Swirl movement awhile back was knowingly dating a racist white man who then used the NWA movie as reasoning for her to call for black women to date white men.

[–]Babbit_B 3 ポイント4 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I don't even know why people think that argument works. "One of the good ones" is, like, Racism 101. See also "Not like other girls".

[–]GilgaphantI've got a passion for fashion or something 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Dylann Roof had a black friend.