Their minds are doing this, not them.
I refuse to differentiate between her mind, her "self", her body, her emotions, her hormones.
It's all just a girl who does stuff, and I don't exonerate any of her actions on the basis of "This just isn't me, but I can't help it because...". Normally everyone her, because they define "her real self" as different from "this other part of her that makes her do stuff" but that's not really her.
It is ALL her. She is the totality of the stuff that she does, and I don't let her off the hook by saying "society did this to her" or "she can't help it because of X". She knows what she does, and it's her choice at every stage.
Women are not naive, they know
exactly
what they're doing. They just don't care.
They are trying to tell you to GET AWAY from them. The hamster is literally saying, "I'm not fertile right now! I'm not fuckable! Go away from me!"
There is no biological reason for a woman to alienate a man. Just because she can't get pregnant this week doesn't mean his loyalty is worthless. In fact it would make sound biological sense to fuck betas when she is infertile (all the loyalty, none of his non-Chad genes). And this is what they do, at least when they're not in screaming banshee mode.
. Why do divorce rates skyrocket for men and women in their 50's?
Err... because women are unattractive after their 40's? Because the kids have grown up so they no longer stay together "for the children"? There are other explanations besides "no longer fertile".
What do you do, when you have a wife, a loving, loving, caring wife who respects you, you guys are in your late 20's, but she pulls the bitch factor out at you?
This is subdividing the woman again and exonerating her behaviour. If she behaves like a bitch, she's a bitch. If she's a bitch 20% of the time, she's 20% bitch.
What do you do when she's your WIFE? And you live together? And she starts fights, says hurtful, stupid shit that she would never ever say otherwise?
What does "otherwise" mean? You mean if she wasn't being a bitch to you some of the time?
She says stupid hurtful shit to hurt you ... she knows you'll forgive her, she doesn't care.
In that moment she wants to lash out and hurt you. And that's fine, she can shout it at my back for the short amount of time I'm within earshot. And then she can go fuck herself for all I care.
This is what male legal commitment does to women: allows them to behave like shit and get away with it. If you were willing to walk, this shit wouldn't happen. Or if it did, it wouldn't happen twice.
Women know where they stand. Women test for where they stand. YOU have allowed this to happen.
I just struggle with it. You can't just next your wife. Or maybe you can? Anyone have any experience with this?
If you're as red pill as you claim you will know that marriage is a fundamentally dumb fucking idea for men.
If you can't next your wife, she will know that she can fuck you over, and she will do so. Women fundamentally do not care for men. You need to understand this on a deep level. You need to stop saying to yourself this lie that "she's a good person, she just does these shitty things for XXX reason". No, she does these shitty things because she's a normal woman who behaves in a normal woman way. There is nothing good or nice or decent or loving or caring in there beyond self interest.
In 2017, the way feminism is in full force and the way the world works now, you are probably right. But, I can't just do that right now.
You have forced yourself into a scarcity mindset, a "make it work" mindset, which your wife is exploiting. This is totally normal of course, happens every time.
If you don't have kids, get a divorce. It's that simple.