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Breaking up with LTR while cohabitating? (self.MGTOW)

Daxxipro1804 が 投稿

I'll keep it simple: proposed to girl, found TRP, now I want to go my own way. The only problem is that we live together. This is my first job out of college, only making 30k, I cannot afford even a studio apt in the area im in. I also have no friends or family in this town.

I need some suggestions on what to do. I already called off the wedding but she assumes that in the future I still want to get married and have kids - I dont. What really set this stone in place is when she mentioned "one day our family . . blah blah" . . .I just cringed and was full of disgust.

I want to break up as soon as possible. We have six more months on an apartment lease together. I am not going to just ghost because she cannot afford this apartment on her own. (I want to leave her but I dont want to fuck up her credit). She is a good person, I just dont want to be in this relationship. She never cheated, etc.

I really need help on what to do. The only way I can see the happening is: Break up now. Then live the remaining six months as "roommates". This will allow her not to be blind sided and find a new place/roommate before our lease ends.

What should I be aware of in this situation? I am scared that the longer we stay together after we break up, the more emotional and unstable she will become, the more likely hood of her doing crazy accusations and/or breaking things.

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[–]tribalbandit 1 ポイント2 ポイント  (0子コメント)

I would ghost the part on how you are feeling until it is time to give your notice. Make plans in that time to move to an area of the country that is not as expensive to live in. Plenty of places much cheaper to live. If you can, be ready to get out when the time for the notice is here. Since you don't want to dick her on the credit, try to have the move money in hand as well as a job lined up if possible for where you are moving to. it will possibly get pretty violent and I would hate for you to go to jail for assaulting her hands with your face in between your items getting smashed.

[–]801735 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (2子コメント)

Tell her your plans, find out if "She is a good person". ]=)

Also, prove that "She never cheated, etc.". ]=)

And you already said it. "Break up now. Then live the remaining six months as 'roommates'."

[–]Daxxipro1804[S] 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (1子コメント)

Tell her your plans, find out if "She is a good person". ]=)

Lol, I get what you're saying. Generally, she is a good. I just wouldn't want to intentionally f her over.

Also, prove that "She never cheated, etc.". ]=)

Even if she did, at this point it wouldn't bother me. I'm not going to stress over the 'what ifs'.

And you already said it. "Break up now. Then live the remaining six months as 'roommates'."

Mainly trying to get different perspectives/ideas rather than just my own. Thanks for replying though.

[–]801735 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Mainly trying to get different perspectives/ideas rather than just my own.

Set your goal and plan towards it. Includes checking available rooms for rent "just in case" your case falls into the average "I didn't know she could be like that." story.

It's also ALWAYS a good idea to have a stash'o'cash stashed neatly somewhere only you know, for cases like, moving out, you know what I mean?

Think about what would it take to not "I am not going to just ghost", perhaps for potential future cases.

Eat well, sleep well, work out, check area for better employment options, go out a bit more, get more ppl into your circle for now, will help with options.

Good luck.

[–]HIGHLORDOFSHITSTAINS 0 ポイント1 ポイント  (0子コメント)

Any rooms in your area for rent? Good luck man.